What does your DH do for V Day?
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Anonymous
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Underwhelmed as always with my DH this year - despite a recent conversation about how he never goes out of his way to do anything nice for me. He got me a card yesterday, which I guess is better than nothing. No flowers, we didn’t go to dinner, no chocolates, etc. the funny thing is that I don’t even care what he does, just wish he put some effort in every once in a while. He tells me he thinks “holidays” don’t feel special because it’s expected, but then never does anything otherwise either.
What does your DH do for Valentine’s Day? More than just a card? |
Anonymous
| We don’t do anything for each other except wish each other a happy Valentine’s Day. |
Anonymous
PP again. Thing is that there are so many celebrations that it gets to be a lot - Valentines, Mothers Day, birthday, anniversary, Christmas. It’s like every other month there is an expectation or obligation. It’s ridiculous. We go to dinner on our anniversary. We get Christmas and Birthday presents and that’s it. We spend the day together for Mother’s Day and Father’s Day- but we would anyway because we spend most sundays together. |
Anonymous
| This year it was just a card and a piece of my favorite candy. But, we discussed before hand that this year just sort of got away from us. We choose doing a couple of group things over the weekend since the pandemic has kept us from seeing people as much. But normally, we would have gone to dinner. |
Anonymous
| We do nothing, but neither of us has expectations either. Works for us. |
Anonymous
| We ordered take out over the weekend. What did you do for your husband? |
Anonymous
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Usually flowers and a card, sometimes he cooks a special meal. This year he spoiled me with a couple romantic gifts. But I think that's the first time either of us has really done a present for V day.
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Anonymous
| The problem is your expectations. It is totally ok to have high expectations. But you need to be very very clear with your DH about what you want and why. No "hinting" or "suggesting." You need to flat out say "For Valentine's Day I want you to ..." and then fill in the blank. Do you want a surprise? Do you want jewelery? Do you want a new handbag, flowers, candy, and a massage and then go out for dinner on Valentines Day at 7PM? TELL HIM. TALK with him. |
Anonymous
| OP, if you expected something, what did you do for your DH? I got my DW flowers. I got squat. |
Anonymous
I didn’t get a card. We always get takeout on Fridays (terrible kid pizza), but this week we agreed to also get takeout tonight (yesterday would be too busy). He loves me, and we have always been low key. For Christmas I got a large computer monitor for my home office. From my DH, that said I love you and care about you louder than diamonds. |
Anonymous
| We agreed not to exchange gifts because we were both too stressed out to make it something meaningful. I asked him to take our daughter out for a nice dinner and I’ve been buying random pink sweets for them all week. We’ll have a nice date or intentional moment soon. |
Anonymous
| He got me roses and I got him a giftcard. |
Anonymous
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I feel you OP. My ex never did anything special for my birthday. Even when I flat out told him it hurt my feelings. I would always buy him gifts from me and kids and bake a cake for his birthday. Some men are not brought up right.
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Anonymous
| We never do very much, a card, maybe some chocolate. It’s been a tough year, I’ve had two surgeries and both of our kids have had struggles. I told my DH he has shown how much he loves me through these struggles and please do not feel any pressure. He bought me a card and I gave him a card and made his favorite dinner. It was perfect. |
Anonymous
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He texted me in the morning and we had sex in the evening.
Sometimes we go out to dinner but didn’t work with schedules this year. I’m mid 40s and over being disappointed. Adjust your mindset. |