Our nanny babysits for us.

[Anonymous]

My little kids love our nanny and are completely comfortable with her handling the bedtime routine. Nanny is happy with the extra income. DH and I feel completely confident in nanny’s abilities to handle any situation. A win-win-win, right?

On a different forum, I'm reading about how it’s good for kids to have different babysitters - especially toddlers. My 3 year old went from only being with DH, nanny or me to preschool with no issue. So if it’s not broke, don’t fix it, right?

[Anonymous]

Same. It’s one of the many benefits of having a nanny. Your kids absolutely do not need outside babysitters.

[Anonymous]

I'm assuming you are paying overtime? If not, then you are violating the law and IMO it's not worth the risk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm assuming you are paying overtime? If not, then you are violating the law and IMO it's not worth the risk.

OP here. Yes, of course, we pay overtime for anything over 40 hours a week or nine hours a day. Our nanny works, without babysitting, 32 hours a week.

[Anonymous]

We always had our nanny babysit. 10 years later, she still does on occasion

[Anonymous]

Little kids want security at bedtime especially and not variety. Your situation is perfect, OP. Don’t change it.

[Anonymous]

So I don't think you have to change it by any means but I've found some benefits to having someone else for my 4yo/2yo/6mo

1) Someone else can be the "fun / exciting / party time!" person that makes your kids happy for them to come. My kids like our nanny but don't like trading time they expect to usually have with me for more time with her (like a sat night date night). That's because she has to hold the line and manage them day in and day out and they don't want more of the same. A babysitter can make the "baby sitter is coming" nights excitiing treats for the kids - extra screen time, fun treats, bringing toys to share whatever - something that isn't just more of the same for the kids but also isn't the nanny doing it and undermining their own day to day routine. Its kind of like school vs summer camp - a kid can feel all kinds of security at some, but more school isn't anything exciting. Summer camp is though!

- Having someone else in the mix just gives you more backup - you're not in a bind if your nanny doesn't want extra hours at somepoint, it doesn't become a weird dynamic where you feel like you're asking for favors and they feel like they need to say yes b/c you don't have other options

- Teaches your kids to be a little more flexible so on vacations or whatever if you ever need or want to have a random sitter, that isn't an entirely wild experience for them

[Anonymous]

I think it's totally fine. I'm the first choice for my employers for after hours care and I appreciate that.

[Anonymous]

I'm a nanny and babysit for my current charges (and I am paid accordingly; my employers are wonderful). I also babysit for former charges and it's a wonderful way to keep in touch and see the kids I miss so much. Win win for everybody. I'm not sure what the philosophy is behind toddlers having different babysitters and how that is beneficial. As long as they are comfortable with someone and the parents can get a break again, win win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny and babysit for my current charges (and I am paid accordingly; my employers are wonderful). I also babysit for former charges and it's a wonderful way to keep in touch and see the kids I miss so much. Win win for everybody. I'm not sure what the philosophy is behind toddlers having different babysitters and how that is beneficial. As long as they are comfortable with someone and the parents can get a break again, win win.

I'm the one who posted this comment and I just read 15:29 and they definitely have some good points. All in all OP I wouldn't worry about it too much. Like you said if it ain't broke don't fix it.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it matters for the kids, but as parents I like to have 2-3 options in case one person is busy.

[Anonymous]

Lucky you! My nanny refuses to work more than 35 hours per work. She is strong willed, and the kids are super attached, so we have to find outside sitters.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm assuming you are paying overtime? If not, then you are violating the law and IMO it's not worth the risk.

OP here. Yes, of course, we pay overtime for anything over 40 hours a week or nine hours a day. Our nanny works, without babysitting, 32 hours a week.

So the other 8 hours that she babysits, you only pay normal rate. You àre still cheating her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Little kids want security at bedtime especially and not variety. Your situation is perfect, OP. Don’t change it.

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm assuming you are paying overtime? If not, then you are violating the law and IMO it's not worth the risk.

OP here. Yes, of course, we pay overtime for anything over 40 hours a week or nine hours a day. Our nanny works, without babysitting, 32 hours a week.

So the other 8 hours that she babysits, you only pay normal rate. You àre still cheating her.

What on earth are you babbling about? And why did you even jump right away to assuming OP was doing something illegal? There's something deeply disturbed about you.

OP, carry on. Our nanny was always our first choice babysitter too.