Is Pyle too big for a quiet kid?

[Anonymous]

How can you help your DC be happy in MS at such a big school if they’re not very outgoing? It seems like an overwhelming environment. Academically doing fine.

[Anonymous]

OP is your child at Pyle already? Did they go to a Pyle feeder? What do you mean that they are not happy?

[Anonymous]

Have them do school-based activities. Encourage them to get to know at least one teacher better. Make plans with kids in small groups or one on one outside of school. Pyle isn’t an easy school socially.

[Anonymous]

I have a quiet kid who managed at Pyle. He was tired a lot at first because it was noisy and crowded - in the halls and in the cafeteria but he got used to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have them do school-based activities. Encourage them to get to know at least one teacher better. Make plans with kids in small groups or one on one outside of school. Pyle isn’t an easy school socially.

I disagree that it’s a challenging social environment, particularly compared to Westland. However, I agree with all of the suggestions. There are tons of clubs and activities to get involved in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have them do school-based activities. Encourage them to get to know at least one teacher better. Make plans with kids in small groups or one on one outside of school. Pyle isn’t an easy school socially.

Could you give an example, please? Our first DC is in 5th and will be going to Pyle next year. We are also concerned about the size but have heard that the Administration and teachers are excellent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have them do school-based activities. Encourage them to get to know at least one teacher better. Make plans with kids in small groups or one on one outside of school. Pyle isn’t an easy school socially.

Could you give an example, please? Our first DC is in 5th and will be going to Pyle next year. We are also concerned about the size but have heard that the Administration and teachers are excellent.

If you're lucky enough to get Erika Huck as a counselor then you're home free, whatever happens. She is an absolute super star and very quick at solving any issue that arises.

Look, MS sucks for a lot of kids because its when bullying starts and personal differences matter and its just well, something to get through. I say focus on the work, do well in class, have outside options for EC and friendships and you'll get through it. My two got through it but it definitely wasn't easy.

[Anonymous]

There are lots of quiet kids who are happy at Pyle. I'm not sure why you bring that up as a negative. IMO the kids who have difficulty at Pyle are in two main groups. The first has trouble keeping up with the academic expectations and feels a lot of pressure due to peers doing well but it sounds like yours is fine. The second group is if they are a bit different from the norm there like they dress differently. I've usually seen this with girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are lots of quiet kids who are happy at Pyle. I'm not sure why you bring that up as a negative. IMO the kids who have difficulty at Pyle are in two main groups. The first has trouble keeping up with the academic expectations and feels a lot of pressure due to peers doing well but it sounds like yours is fine. The second group is if they are a bit different from the norm there like they dress differently. I've usually seen this with girls.

You are a total moron. MS kids do not fit neatly into two defined groups as perceived by you.

[Anonymous]

What a crazy. I mean you PP.

I don't see anywhere where that poster says there are only two neatly defined groups. They were trying to explain the type of child who might have difficulty at that school. You may not agree but actually try to provide helpful information instead of pretending to be all superior. Are you even a parent at this school?

[Anonymous]

OP here, thank you for these responses. I hadn’t really considered school clubs because DC has other after school activities but that might help more with integration. DC seems overwhelmed by the environment and lonely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, thank you for these responses. I hadn’t really considered school clubs because DC has other after school activities but that might help more with integration. DC seems overwhelmed by the environment and lonely.

The size is overwhelming for many kids that age. My kids did well academically but struggled to find their group in such a big environment. And no, there was nothing wrong with them as a pp suggested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a crazy. I mean you PP.

I don't see anywhere where that poster says there are only two neatly defined groups. They were trying to explain the type of child who might have difficulty at that school. You may not agree but actually try to provide helpful information instead of pretending to be all superior. Are you even a parent at this school?

yes, I wrote the post about the excellent guidance counselor, Erika Huck. Why I have got to prove my relevance to you though makes me wonder about who is actually feeling superior here and doing some serious projecting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are lots of quiet kids who are happy at Pyle. I'm not sure why you bring that up as a negative. IMO the kids who have difficulty at Pyle are in two main groups. The first has trouble keeping up with the academic expectations and feels a lot of pressure due to peers doing well but it sounds like yours is fine. The second group is if they are a bit different from the norm there like they dress differently. I've usually seen this with girls.

What are you talking about - girls who “dress differently” struggle? That’s ludicrous. Pyle is huge and filled with nerdy smart kids. Most of them are not dressing for their peers. There are only a small handful of kids who care about how other girls dress. It is a great place for a quiet kid who is different, especially if they are smart and academically inclined.

[Anonymous]

There's a lot of defensiveness in these posts which I find disturbing because the comments seem so emotional and dismissive.

It's a great school but it's not perfect. It's so big I do think it can be difficult to find your group sometimes. It's also highly competitive which can be difficult for some kids.

It's overall a very accepting community. There are many groups full of smart, quiet kids, but I do personally know families who really did not like it and their children struggled to fit in.