The Blind Side scandal

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Anonymous wrote:Just read an article where Leigh Anne mentions Michael is very frugal and you can tell from his instagram that he’s not a flashy guy. His clothes don’t even look overly luxurious. I have no reason to believe he is doing this because he ran out of money. I truly believe after getting married he wanted to tie up some legal ends and all of this information (or lack of) came to his attention. He has every to ask for his financial documents from his conservators. The Tuohys neglected to provide them to the court for almost 20 years.

I suspect it all stemmed from a core emotional issue--coming to realize he wasn't really a part of the family, which then led to suspicion about finances etc. I feel for him. The Tuohys could have been transparent. Why weren't they? No excuse for them to fail to provide the annual accounting required by law.

This is the million dollar question!

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I want to know if he was treated equally in their will. That tells me if they actually thought of him as their child.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is a cry to reunite. Seriously let’s hope they can work this out. Maybe he is feeling upset and not included and maybe he is being bratty but so do a lot of grown kids.The Tuoys said they would like to reunite and hopefully they will. I can only imagine his anger at his childhood-how many of us without threads issues are working out our own trauma.

Maybe he wanted to get his name back out there so people would buy his book? Who has been thinking about Michael Oher in the past decade? Nobody. Why do you think he had this deep emotional attachment to these people? This 37 yr old married man has a wife and kids, he's likely been busy with his own life and nuclear family barely thinking about them.

I am seriously shocked by these kinds of posts - Calling Oher “bratty” because he is taking very justified actions related to the ways that he was exploited and deceived by the Tuohys? They.used.him.and.lied.to.him. And promoted and profited from a book and a movie that made them look like spunky sweet saviors, while making him look like a dumb ignorant wastrel.

He has oceans full of pain and trauma to process. I hope that some healing comes to him from bringing light to the reality of how he was treated.

Is he your friend or something? You don't know him or his feelings. You're way too invested in this.

Go away hypocrite. We know you are paid by the liars or the liars lawyer. Who is way too invested in this?
The Tuohys are disgusting fake creeps who take advantage of people.

Sorry he's broke and looking for another hand out. Who is paying you to be here?

No one is paying me. He isn't looking for a handout. He is looking for what he is owed and an accounting of the conservatorship that they mismanaged. He wants them to stop making money off of the lie that they are his adoptive parents.

What do you have to say about the Touhys only giving 20% to the charities?

What do you have to say about the Touhys lying and saying Oher is their adopted son?

They should be paying you. You're highly emotional and distraught over a bunch of people you don't know.

What about their comment is highly emotional. They are being fair and factual. You’re the one working so hard to defend the Tuohys for no other reason than them being white Republicans.

DP but this is ridiculous. There’s one excessively emotional and immature poster here who goes on the attack at the slightest bit of reasonable post. I hate southern football culture, I have never voted for a Republican, and I am one of the people here you would accuse of defending them even though I’ve called them boosters and selfish. You’re just not happy unless someone thinks it’s “obvious” that they’re evil and says awful things about them.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is a cry to reunite. Seriously let’s hope they can work this out. Maybe he is feeling upset and not included and maybe he is being bratty but so do a lot of grown kids.The Tuoys said they would like to reunite and hopefully they will. I can only imagine his anger at his childhood-how many of us without threads issues are working out our own trauma.

Maybe he wanted to get his name back out there so people would buy his book? Who has been thinking about Michael Oher in the past decade? Nobody. Why do you think he had this deep emotional attachment to these people? This 37 yr old married man has a wife and kids, he's likely been busy with his own life and nuclear family barely thinking about them.

I am seriously shocked by these kinds of posts - Calling Oher “bratty” because he is taking very justified actions related to the ways that he was exploited and deceived by the Tuohys? They.used.him.and.lied.to.him. And promoted and profited from a book and a movie that made them look like spunky sweet saviors, while making him look like a dumb ignorant wastrel.

He has oceans full of pain and trauma to process. I hope that some healing comes to him from bringing light to the reality of how he was treated.

Is he your friend or something? You don't know him or his feelings. You're way too invested in this.

Go away hypocrite. We know you are paid by the liars or the liars lawyer. Who is way too invested in this?
The Tuohys are disgusting fake creeps who take advantage of people.

Sorry he's broke and looking for another hand out. Who is paying you to be here?

No one is paying me. He isn't looking for a handout. He is looking for what he is owed and an accounting of the conservatorship that they mismanaged. He wants them to stop making money off of the lie that they are his adoptive parents.

What do you have to say about the Touhys only giving 20% to the charities?

What do you have to say about the Touhys lying and saying Oher is their adopted son?

They should be paying you. You're highly emotional and distraught over a bunch of people you don't know.

What about their comment is highly emotional. They are being fair and factual. You’re the one working so hard to defend the Tuohys for no other reason than them being white Republicans.

Ah, so it's about race. Now I get why you're all worked up. I see a bunch of millionaires arguing about more money and who got a bigger slice of pie.

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Anonymous wrote:Just read an article where Leigh Anne mentions Michael is very frugal and you can tell from his instagram that he’s not a flashy guy. His clothes don’t even look overly luxurious. I have no reason to believe he is doing this because he ran out of money. I truly believe after getting married he wanted to tie up some legal ends and all of this information (or lack of) came to his attention. He has every to ask for his financial documents from his conservators. The Tuohys neglected to provide them to the court for almost 20 years.

I suspect it all stemmed from a core emotional issue--coming to realize he wasn't really a part of the family, which then led to suspicion about finances etc. I feel for him. The Tuohys could have been transparent. Why weren't they? No excuse for them to fail to provide the annual accounting required by law.

This is the million dollar question!

Why didn't Oher ask the court to end the conservatorship years ago? He was in the NFL. He's worked with lawyers before. Why did he wait so long? He knew in 2011.

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Anonymous wrote:I want to know if he was treated equally in their will. That tells me if they actually thought of him as their child.

Lol. Hellll no.

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My guess is, since he took them at their word that conservatorship = adoption for anyone over 18, then asking a judge to terminate would be asking to end the adoption. Now he knows that conservatorship and adoption is not the same thing he is ok asking for the conservatorship to be terminated.

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Anonymous wrote:Just read an article where Leigh Anne mentions Michael is very frugal and you can tell from his instagram that he’s not a flashy guy. His clothes don’t even look overly luxurious. I have no reason to believe he is doing this because he ran out of money. I truly believe after getting married he wanted to tie up some legal ends and all of this information (or lack of) came to his attention. He has every to ask for his financial documents from his conservators. The Tuohys neglected to provide them to the court for almost 20 years.

I suspect it all stemmed from a core emotional issue--coming to realize he wasn't really a part of the family, which then led to suspicion about finances etc. I feel for him. The Tuohys could have been transparent. Why weren't they? No excuse for them to fail to provide the annual accounting required by law.

This is the million dollar question!

Why didn't Oher ask the court to end the conservatorship years ago? He was in the NFL. He's worked with lawyers before. Why did he wait so long? He knew in 2011.

I am one degree of separation from this family. The answer is: they told him that "conservatorship" is how older kids/teens get adopted. They said, over and over in both his presence and in the press, that they had adopted him by setting up the conservatorship. Tuohy parents knew all along that this was absolutely not the case- that conservatorship meant control over, for the purposes of getting certain outcomes that they wanted, like his agreeing to go to Ole Miss. (I am quite sure that they never had a thought about controlling or getting his football money- they are the furthest thing from needing more money.)

Certain things happened in the past 3-5 years that made him more aware that he was not thought of as "a part of the family" in any sense other than superficially and for image. Now he is seeking to get all the details of the past agreements and actions revealed and explained. I say it is about time. But it took this long for him to really see behind the fake stories.

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Anonymous wrote:Just read an article where Leigh Anne mentions Michael is very frugal and you can tell from his instagram that he’s not a flashy guy. His clothes don’t even look overly luxurious. I have no reason to believe he is doing this because he ran out of money. I truly believe after getting married he wanted to tie up some legal ends and all of this information (or lack of) came to his attention. He has every to ask for his financial documents from his conservators. The Tuohys neglected to provide them to the court for almost 20 years.

I suspect it all stemmed from a core emotional issue--coming to realize he wasn't really a part of the family, which then led to suspicion about finances etc. I feel for him. The Tuohys could have been transparent. Why weren't they? No excuse for them to fail to provide the annual accounting required by law.

This is the million dollar question!

Why didn't Oher ask the court to end the conservatorship years ago? He was in the NFL. He's worked with lawyers before. Why did he wait so long? He knew in 2011.

I am one degree of separation from this family. The answer is: they told him that "conservatorship" is how older kids/teens get adopted. They said, over and over in both his presence and in the press, that they had adopted him by setting up the conservatorship. Tuohy parents knew all along that this was absolutely not the case- that conservatorship meant control over, for the purposes of getting certain outcomes that they wanted, like his agreeing to go to Ole Miss. (I am quite sure that they never had a thought about controlling or getting his football money- they are the furthest thing from needing more money.)

Certain things happened in the past 3-5 years that made him more aware that he was not thought of as "a part of the family" in any sense other than superficially and for image. Now he is seeking to get all the details of the past agreements and actions revealed and explained. I say it is about time. But it took this long for him to really see behind the fake stories.

You can't gloss right over "certain things happened" obviously that's the crux of the issue. Did Oher view them as much as family or was this some kind of one way street? He wants the perks of being an adopted son, ie included in the will, but was he holding up his end of maintaining a relationship? There's a lot nobody knows.

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Anonymous wrote:Just read an article where Leigh Anne mentions Michael is very frugal and you can tell from his instagram that he’s not a flashy guy. His clothes don’t even look overly luxurious. I have no reason to believe he is doing this because he ran out of money. I truly believe after getting married he wanted to tie up some legal ends and all of this information (or lack of) came to his attention. He has every to ask for his financial documents from his conservators. The Tuohys neglected to provide them to the court for almost 20 years.

I suspect it all stemmed from a core emotional issue--coming to realize he wasn't really a part of the family, which then led to suspicion about finances etc. I feel for him. The Tuohys could have been transparent. Why weren't they? No excuse for them to fail to provide the annual accounting required by law.

This is the million dollar question!

Why didn't Oher ask the court to end the conservatorship years ago? He was in the NFL. He's worked with lawyers before. Why did he wait so long? He knew in 2011.

I am one degree of separation from this family. The answer is: they told him that "conservatorship" is how older kids/teens get adopted. They said, over and over in both his presence and in the press, that they had adopted him by setting up the conservatorship. Tuohy parents knew all along that this was absolutely not the case- that conservatorship meant control over, for the purposes of getting certain outcomes that they wanted, like his agreeing to go to Ole Miss. (I am quite sure that they never had a thought about controlling or getting his football money- they are the furthest thing from needing more money.)

Certain things happened in the past 3-5 years that made him more aware that he was not thought of as "a part of the family" in any sense other than superficially and for image. Now he is seeking to get all the details of the past agreements and actions revealed and explained. I say it is about time. But it took this long for him to really see behind the fake stories.

I’m guessing once Oher started having his own children (his son born in 2013) he realized how differently he is treated from Collins and SJ. Of course I’m speculating but growing up makes you look at things differently and more critically. He doesn’t need the Tuohys for anything at all so he’s looking at them with a fresh pair of eyes. A lot of adults go through this with their biological parents as well, the big difference here is the Tuohys aren’t his parents at all even through adoption. A conservatorship does not make a family. They were in control of his finances and legal affairs and that’s it. They were Ole Miss boosters who got what they want. They are also Christian fanatics who got to promote their religion. This is an unfortunate wake up call for a guy who had such a rough start in life. I hope he can heal and grow from this betrayal with his real family.

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Anonymous wrote:Just read an article where Leigh Anne mentions Michael is very frugal and you can tell from his instagram that he’s not a flashy guy. His clothes don’t even look overly luxurious. I have no reason to believe he is doing this because he ran out of money. I truly believe after getting married he wanted to tie up some legal ends and all of this information (or lack of) came to his attention. He has every to ask for his financial documents from his conservators. The Tuohys neglected to provide them to the court for almost 20 years.

I suspect it all stemmed from a core emotional issue--coming to realize he wasn't really a part of the family, which then led to suspicion about finances etc. I feel for him. The Tuohys could have been transparent. Why weren't they? No excuse for them to fail to provide the annual accounting required by law.

This is the million dollar question!

Why didn't Oher ask the court to end the conservatorship years ago? He was in the NFL. He's worked with lawyers before. Why did he wait so long? He knew in 2011.

I am one degree of separation from this family. The answer is: they told him that "conservatorship" is how older kids/teens get adopted. They said, over and over in both his presence and in the press, that they had adopted him by setting up the conservatorship. Tuohy parents knew all along that this was absolutely not the case- that conservatorship meant control over, for the purposes of getting certain outcomes that they wanted, like his agreeing to go to Ole Miss. (I am quite sure that they never had a thought about controlling or getting his football money- they are the furthest thing from needing more money.)

Certain things happened in the past 3-5 years that made him more aware that he was not thought of as "a part of the family" in any sense other than superficially and for image. Now he is seeking to get all the details of the past agreements and actions revealed and explained. I say it is about time. But it took this long for him to really see behind the fake stories.

You can't gloss right over "certain things happened" obviously that's the crux of the issue. Did Oher view them as much as family or was this some kind of one way street? He wants the perks of being an adopted son, ie included in the will, but was he holding up his end of maintaining a relationship? There's a lot nobody knows.

I really doubt he is/was trying to get into their will and even bio kids can be cut out of a will. He’s probably worth more than they are and I would guess he hates how the film portrayed them as a family when he now realizes that by going the conservatorship route rather than adoption they don’t really consider him family and used him. This seems to be more of of a dignity issue that will play out in the courts and they only way a court can try to make it right is with money.

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Anonymous wrote:Just read an article where Leigh Anne mentions Michael is very frugal and you can tell from his instagram that he’s not a flashy guy. His clothes don’t even look overly luxurious. I have no reason to believe he is doing this because he ran out of money. I truly believe after getting married he wanted to tie up some legal ends and all of this information (or lack of) came to his attention. He has every to ask for his financial documents from his conservators. The Tuohys neglected to provide them to the court for almost 20 years.

I suspect it all stemmed from a core emotional issue--coming to realize he wasn't really a part of the family, which then led to suspicion about finances etc. I feel for him. The Tuohys could have been transparent. Why weren't they? No excuse for them to fail to provide the annual accounting required by law.

This is the million dollar question!

Why didn't Oher ask the court to end the conservatorship years ago? He was in the NFL. He's worked with lawyers before. Why did he wait so long? He knew in 2011.

I am one degree of separation from this family. The answer is: they told him that "conservatorship" is how older kids/teens get adopted. They said, over and over in both his presence and in the press, that they had adopted him by setting up the conservatorship. Tuohy parents knew all along that this was absolutely not the case- that conservatorship meant control over, for the purposes of getting certain outcomes that they wanted, like his agreeing to go to Ole Miss. (I am quite sure that they never had a thought about controlling or getting his football money- they are the furthest thing from needing more money.)

Certain things happened in the past 3-5 years that made him more aware that he was not thought of as "a part of the family" in any sense other than superficially and for image. Now he is seeking to get all the details of the past agreements and actions revealed and explained. I say it is about time. But it took this long for him to really see behind the fake stories.

Uh huh. It was asking for money. Which they did not give him. So he began his campaign of blackmail.

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Anonymous wrote:Just read an article where Leigh Anne mentions Michael is very frugal and you can tell from his instagram that he’s not a flashy guy. His clothes don’t even look overly luxurious. I have no reason to believe he is doing this because he ran out of money. I truly believe after getting married he wanted to tie up some legal ends and all of this information (or lack of) came to his attention. He has every to ask for his financial documents from his conservators. The Tuohys neglected to provide them to the court for almost 20 years.

I suspect it all stemmed from a core emotional issue--coming to realize he wasn't really a part of the family, which then led to suspicion about finances etc. I feel for him. The Tuohys could have been transparent. Why weren't they? No excuse for them to fail to provide the annual accounting required by law.

This is the million dollar question!

Why didn't Oher ask the court to end the conservatorship years ago? He was in the NFL. He's worked with lawyers before. Why did he wait so long? He knew in 2011.

I am one degree of separation from this family. The answer is: they told him that "conservatorship" is how older kids/teens get adopted. They said, over and over in both his presence and in the press, that they had adopted him by setting up the conservatorship. Tuohy parents knew all along that this was absolutely not the case- that conservatorship meant control over, for the purposes of getting certain outcomes that they wanted, like his agreeing to go to Ole Miss. (I am quite sure that they never had a thought about controlling or getting his football money- they are the furthest thing from needing more money.)

Certain things happened in the past 3-5 years that made him more aware that he was not thought of as "a part of the family" in any sense other than superficially and for image. Now he is seeking to get all the details of the past agreements and actions revealed and explained. I say it is about time. But it took this long for him to really see behind the fake stories.

You can't gloss right over "certain things happened" obviously that's the crux of the issue. Did Oher view them as much as family or was this some kind of one way street? He wants the perks of being an adopted son, ie included in the will, but was he holding up his end of maintaining a relationship? There's a lot nobody knows.

I really doubt he is/was trying to get into their will and even bio kids can be cut out of a will. He’s probably worth more than they are and I would guess he hates how the film portrayed them as a family when he now realizes that by going the conservatorship route rather than adoption they don’t really consider him family and used him. This seems to be more of of a dignity issue that will play out in the courts and they only way a court can try to make it right is with money.

No, going to court won’t fix it if it’s about that. Everyone will lose but the attorneys.

What would help is for him to go ahead and write his book and tell the story from his perspective while riding the coattails of the popularity of the movie to make money and then he gets dignity and money. His story. His sales.

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Anonymous wrote:Just read an article where Leigh Anne mentions Michael is very frugal and you can tell from his instagram that he’s not a flashy guy. His clothes don’t even look overly luxurious. I have no reason to believe he is doing this because he ran out of money. I truly believe after getting married he wanted to tie up some legal ends and all of this information (or lack of) came to his attention. He has every to ask for his financial documents from his conservators. The Tuohys neglected to provide them to the court for almost 20 years.

I suspect it all stemmed from a core emotional issue--coming to realize he wasn't really a part of the family, which then led to suspicion about finances etc. I feel for him. The Tuohys could have been transparent. Why weren't they? No excuse for them to fail to provide the annual accounting required by law.

No. Uniquivocally no. All parties involved are beyond comfortable for money- they are all set for life. Trust me. This is about coming to terms with the past and seeking a just reckoning.
This is the million dollar question!

Why didn't Oher ask the court to end the conservatorship years ago? He was in the NFL. He's worked with lawyers before. Why did he wait so long? He knew in 2011.

I am one degree of separation from this family. The answer is: they told him that "conservatorship" is how older kids/teens get adopted. They said, over and over in both his presence and in the press, that they had adopted him by setting up the conservatorship. Tuohy parents knew all along that this was absolutely not the case- that conservatorship meant control over, for the purposes of getting certain outcomes that they wanted, like his agreeing to go to Ole Miss. (I am quite sure that they never had a thought about controlling or getting his football money- they are the furthest thing from needing more money.)

Certain things happened in the past 3-5 years that made him more aware that he was not thought of as "a part of the family" in any sense other than superficially and for image. Now he is seeking to get all the details of the past agreements and actions revealed and explained. I say it is about time. But it took this long for him to really see behind the fake stories.

Uh huh. It was asking for money. Which they did not give him. So he began his campaign of blackmail.

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Anonymous wrote:Just read an article where Leigh Anne mentions Michael is very frugal and you can tell from his instagram that he’s not a flashy guy. His clothes don’t even look overly luxurious. I have no reason to believe he is doing this because he ran out of money. I truly believe after getting married he wanted to tie up some legal ends and all of this information (or lack of) came to his attention. He has every to ask for his financial documents from his conservators. The Tuohys neglected to provide them to the court for almost 20 years.

I suspect it all stemmed from a core emotional issue--coming to realize he wasn't really a part of the family, which then led to suspicion about finances etc. I feel for him. The Tuohys could have been transparent. Why weren't they? No excuse for them to fail to provide the annual accounting required by law.

This is the million dollar question!

Why didn't Oher ask the court to end the conservatorship years ago? He was in the NFL. He's worked with lawyers before. Why did he wait so long? He knew in 2011.

I am one degree of separation from this family. The answer is: they told him that "conservatorship" is how older kids/teens get adopted. They said, over and over in both his presence and in the press, that they had adopted him by setting up the conservatorship. Tuohy parents knew all along that this was absolutely not the case- that conservatorship meant control over, for the purposes of getting certain outcomes that they wanted, like his agreeing to go to Ole Miss. (I am quite sure that they never had a thought about controlling or getting his football money- they are the furthest thing from needing more money.)

Certain things happened in the past 3-5 years that made him more aware that he was not thought of as "a part of the family" in any sense other than superficially and for image. Now he is seeking to get all the details of the past agreements and actions revealed and explained. I say it is about time. But it took this long for him to really see behind the fake stories.

You can't gloss right over "certain things happened" obviously that's the crux of the issue. Did Oher view them as much as family or was this some kind of one way street? He wants the perks of being an adopted son, ie included in the will, but was he holding up his end of maintaining a relationship? There's a lot nobody knows.

I really doubt he is/was trying to get into their will and even bio kids can be cut out of a will. He’s probably worth more than they are and I would guess he hates how the film portrayed them as a family when he now realizes that by going the conservatorship route rather than adoption they don’t really consider him family and used him. This seems to be more of of a dignity issue that will play out in the courts and they only way a court can try to make it right is with money.

No, going to court won’t fix it if it’s about that. Everyone will lose but the attorneys.

What would help is for him to go ahead and write his book and tell the story from his perspective while riding the coattails of the popularity of the movie to make money and then he gets dignity and money. His story. His sales.

Yeah, he did that already, but it wasn't a good book, which is why you don't know it.