Is it rude to mention a birthday party to friend you are not inviting?

[Anonymous]

I have a 4yo turning 5 and also elementary kids. Most of my friends are from when my older kids were younger so all the kids are in elementary. I am having a preschool party for just the preschool class.

Is it rude to mention the party in passing?

It isn’t like I am inviting other mutual friends. This will purely be the preschool class only so don’t think anyone should feel hurt. I have a handful of mom friends I made right before Covid but our little ones aren’t exactly friends. Only the moms are friends.

[Anonymous]

yes, why would you mention it?

[Anonymous]

Yes. It’s rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 4yo turning 5 and also elementary kids. Most of my friends are from when my older kids were younger so all the kids are in elementary. I am having a preschool party for just the preschool class.

Is it rude to mention the party in passing?

It isn’t like I am inviting other mutual friends. This will purely be the preschool class only so don’t think anyone should feel hurt. I have a handful of mom friends I made right before Covid but our little ones aren’t exactly friends. Only the moms are friends.

OMG, who are you people?! Seriously, were you raised in a barn?

[Anonymous]

YES

[Anonymous]

If I'm reading this correctly, you're asking about mentioning a party for your 4 year old, to YOUR friends, who have older children that are not in this preschool class?

I think that's fine. That's not rude, it's just talking about your life.

But based on PPs maybe I am misreading?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I'm reading this correctly, you're asking about mentioning a party for your 4 year old, to YOUR friends, who have older children that are not in this preschool class?

I think that's fine. That's not rude, it's just talking about your life.

But based on PPs maybe I am misreading?

+1

If you are limiting the invites to classmates, I don't think this is rude at all.

[Anonymous]

No, it isn’t rude. They have been your friends for years and won’t be at all offended they aren’t invited to a
Preschool-kid party. They get it.

[Anonymous]

Meh:

Annie: "Hey Frannie, are ya'll doing anything for Frank's birthday."
Frannie: "Yup, just a bouncehouse at the park with his preschool class"
Annie: "Sounds fun!"

If that conversation is drama, then you are too

[Anonymous]

In this context, unless by "elementary school" you mean they have kindergarteners who regularly play with your 4 year old, then no it's not rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 4yo turning 5 and also elementary kids. Most of my friends are from when my older kids were younger so all the kids are in elementary. I am having a preschool party for just the preschool class.

Is it rude to mention the party in passing?

It isn’t like I am inviting other mutual friends. This will purely be the preschool class only so don’t think anyone should feel hurt. I have a handful of mom friends I made right before Covid but our little ones aren’t exactly friends. Only the moms are friends.

Yes it is thoughtless. However, if you need to ask, you have no manners and, most likely, neither do your friends.

[Anonymous]

Yes of course. How do you not know this? Are you new to being a person?

[Anonymous]

You guys, this is not rude if the kids aren’t friends and are way older. You are telling your friend about your life. My best friend has a 9 year old. My kids are 11 and 14. They will hang out when we all together out of “nothing else to do” but the kids aren’t really friends and I wouldn’t expect us to be invited to her birthday party with the 4th graders lol

Some of you are really reaching.

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I'm reading this correctly, you're asking about mentioning a party for your 4 year old, to YOUR friends, who have older children that are not in this preschool class?

I think that's fine. That's not rude, it's just talking about your life.

But based on PPs maybe I am misreading?

You aren't misreading a thing. Some posters here are very invested in coming out swinging to argue with the OP, no matter what.

OP this is fine, I'm sure your friends won't care.