Is it ever okay to tease or make fun of something for their appearance?
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Anonymous
| If yes, when? |
Anonymous
| SomeONE not something. Argh. |
Anonymous
| Nope, sorry. |
Anonymous
| Yes, absolutely. |
Anonymous
DP. Why, or under which circumstances? |
Anonymous
Search “fat orange” on DCUM and let me know how many pages of threads you get about Trump. Clearly making fun of someone or teasing about their looks is perfectly acceptable. Are you saying all these DCUM posters are wrong? |
Anonymous
| No. Why would you make fun of someone? To feel superior? To hurt them? |
Anonymous
| Yes- we have self-deprecating humor and the kids have running jokes with us, making fun of our "flaws". I think it's healthy that we can all learn to laugh at ourselves. Protects us for the stuff we really want to keep hidden and not mocked for. |
Anonymous
| Yes. Circumstance? They dressed up certain way and are asking for it. Not sure if you had that in mind though. |
Anonymous
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My impulse says no, but I’ve referred to the most loathsome person on earth as the orange man, so I’d be a hypocrite.
Normal, everyday people - even if they choose to over spray their tanner - no, never ok. Orange man with crazy hair, yes. Fair game. Once he made fun of the reporter, he dropped off my radar of social etiquette standards. |
Anonymous
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I've read (I think on Reddit?) something about a 30 minute rule. If it's something they can change in 30 minutes or less--their outfit, their make up, the way they styled their hair that morning, it's ok to make fun of.
If it's something they can not fix in 30 minutes or less--a scar, their height/weight, etc. it's not ok. I think that's a pretty good general rule, but there are still some caveats. For example, I wouldn't make fun of someone's outfit/hair style if they for specific cultural or religious reasons. |
Anonymous
| I don't know why people find it compelling to be cruel to anyone. Find something else to do with your time |
Anonymous
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I think even making fun of trump’s appearance is not okay because it can hurt others. I see people make fun of his weight or his hair, but when you call someone fat as an insult, that adds to toxic attitudes about fat people in general. Even someone who also hates trump coujj oh d hear that and be reminded that people think their body is bad or worthy of ridicule.
There are lots of valid reasons to make fun of trump. Focusing on his appearance feels lazy and cheap. Related: I know a man who claims to be a progressive feminist. But when talking about how much he dislikes conservatives, and especially conservative women, he will focus on their appearance. Criticizing weight, their clothes, makeup, or features. Every time I hear it, I think about how he probably thinks these things often about all kinds of women, because the insults are very vicious. But he thinks he can get away with saying it out loud if the woman he targets is a Trump voter or a Fox News host or something. I find it very revealing. If your first thought when you think if someone you dislike is: fat/ugly/poorly dressed, you might want to ask yourself why. Is “fascist/racist/morally bankrupt/selfish/opportunist/willfully ignorant/etc.” not good enough for you? Why? What does this say about what you value in others? |
Anonymous
| Yes, behind their back. But I agree with the 30 minute rule someone posted. I'm fine making jokes about someone's outfit or makeup. If it's something like they're just ugly and can't fix it, that I have a harder time making fun of. |
Anonymous
Get over it! |