DC Will Not Decide

[Anonymous]

DC admitted to 4 schools, 3 good choices, 1 we believe is the superior option by far. I am step mom, but I will be paying for college. Any advice to steer DC to our preferred school? Would it be horrible to refuse to pay unless DC goes to preferred school?

[Anonymous]

What exactly are your reasons for the preferred school?

[Anonymous]

Yes, it would be horrible to withhold payment unless kid goes to school you want. I can’t believe you’re even suggesting that.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it would be horrible to withhold payment unless kid goes to school you want. I can’t believe you’re even suggesting that.

Will not decide on any? Or will not decide on the one you want? If the latter, then +1 to the quoted comment.

[Anonymous]

You should have never let him apply to schools you were unwilling to send him to.

What makes the one school so much better.

[Anonymous]

I told my dd you are going to state U unless you get merit to make the cost comparable.

[Anonymous]

Are you a troll?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What exactly are your reasons for the preferred school?

+1
Is it the cheapest

[Anonymous]

It's still early. DC does not have to make a decision yet. Let it percolate.

[Anonymous]

OP - it is Sweet Briar and DD has executive function issues that would be best served there in our opinions. Her other choices are schools that do not have the personal attention, but they are good fits. Part of the issue is we have a very good relationship, but she is still my step daughter, and although we have a good relationship, I am not her mom, and so there is a natural rebellion. She still has a relationship with her mom (who she sees 8 weeks a year).

[Anonymous]

What are the other schools?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - it is Sweet Briar and DD has executive function issues that would be best served there in our opinions. Her other choices are schools that do not have the personal attention, but they are good fits. Part of the issue is we have a very good relationship, but she is still my step daughter, and although we have a good relationship, I am not her mom, and so there is a natural rebellion. She still has a relationship with her mom (who she sees 8 weeks a year).

Agree with PP—there is plenty of time. The more you push this, the more she will go in the opposite direction. Also, where is her father in all of this?

[Anonymous]

YES