Does your DH help with Christmas preparations?

[Anonymous]

Curious, how is Christmas prep divided in your house?

I do 100% of the planning any fun holiday events, crafts for the kids, extra baking, holiday menus, the tree chopping and set up, gift/stocking buying, Christmas decorating, holiday cards, wrapping, and hauling down to the living room all the gifts. It is just so much. Am I the only one that does pretty much the entire holiday shebang without help from spouse? DH a is generally helpful in everyday life he just DGAF about Christmas- at all.

[Anonymous]

He does the meals, I do the wreath, we both come up with gifts and wrap them together.

[Anonymous]

Yes, he actually does most of it. He did the tree and lights, all the grocery shopping and cooking and most of the wrapping. I did the cards and always take the kids (one still nursing).

[Anonymous]

i do most of it, which is why it is kind of a time of stress and too much work for me. he does a half assed job of putting lights in the yard. he hauls the decoration boxes from the garage or attic and puts them back. i shop for gifts for everyone from both of us and he swoops in later with his own gifts which are usually too extravagant which he has not discussed with me.

he barely helps clean up the house when we have people coming over and will usually start doing some unnecessary chore unrelated to the event. yesterday it was washing all the windows (outside only). one time he had scaffolding up putting up a ceiling fan as people were arriving.

[Anonymous]

Same same same. He just doesn’t think about Christmas. This year I told him it’s getting old doing it all by myself and he said he’d do better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i do most of it, which is why it is kind of a time of stress and too much work for me. he does a half assed job of putting lights in the yard. he hauls the decoration boxes from the garage or attic and puts them back. i shop for gifts for everyone from both of us and he swoops in later with his own gifts which are usually too extravagant which he has not discussed with me.

he barely helps clean up the house when we have people coming over and will usually start doing some unnecessary chore unrelated to the event. yesterday it was washing all the windows (outside only). one time he had scaffolding up putting up a ceiling fan as people were arriving.

This is my husband too! He always engages in a chore that is unrelated to people coming over like cleaning out the shed!

[Anonymous]

My husband always ends up with more use or lose at the end of the year because of his travel comp time, so he does most of it.

[Anonymous]

Same here. One year I did everything, our kids were little and we hosted his entire family for a few days. I didn’t get so much as a thank you from him. I did point this out afterwards and his response was “I just thought that’s what we did!” Clueless.

[Anonymous]

Yes OP I do everything too

[Anonymous]

Pretty much nothing.

Oh - he orders tons of gifts via Amazon and does Costco shopping (and places orders for home delivery). Tonight he’s making chili. That’s nice. He strung some lights in our tree and a few outside.

I do all the in store shopping, wrapping, anything related to decorating festively…and then I’ll begin the take down and re-organize process (solo). This year I just didn’t have the energy to go all out and there are still boxes of Christmas dishes and decorations on the carefully organized shelves, untouched.

[Anonymous]

I “make Christmas” but he does most of the cooking and grocery shopping. It works for us.

[Anonymous]

“Help with?” It’s equally his job as a parent. We do the work together.

We discussed what to buy, each bought items, each wrapped a few. He’s making breakfast and I’m making dinner. He made dessert. He bought and sent for his family—I did for mine. Etc.

I decorated inside, he did outside. Tree was a family project. We don’t do cards.

[Anonymous]

50/50 he's a good 🎅

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious, how is Christmas prep divided in your house?

I do 100% of the planning any fun holiday events, crafts for the kids, extra baking, holiday menus, the tree chopping and set up, gift/stocking buying, Christmas decorating, holiday cards, wrapping, and hauling down to the living room all the gifts. It is just so much. Am I the only one that does pretty much the entire holiday shebang without help from spouse? DH a is generally helpful in everyday life he just DGAF about Christmas- at all.

His approach is just fine, you know.

[Anonymous]

He ordered a few gifts for the kids, does that count? I do everything else.