MIL always talks about DH’s ex-wife

[Anonymous]

DH and I have been married for 2 years. DH was divorced for 10 years before we met. MIL is still friends with the ex-W. MIL invites her to stay at her home and talks to her every Sunday. DH and his ex-W don’t talk. They didn’t have kids and ended in a weird situation where his ex-W came out as a lesbian.

I have no issue with MIL having whatever type of relationship she would like with DH’s ex. I just think it’s really weird and rude that she talks about her to DH and I. MIL will tell me what’s happening in ex-W’s life. I told DH I think this is rude. He said his mom doesn’t mean any harm. Should I say something to MIL to stop it? Am I just being insecure?

[Anonymous]

It’s weird. But I would let it go. Not worth your energy to complain

[Anonymous]

DH needs to tell his mom to stop telling the two of you about Lesbian Leslie.

[Anonymous]

That is annoying, but I agree that making a big deal out if it only make it worse. Try changing the subject.

[Anonymous]

Does she think it’s okay because she’s a lesbian so the dynamics might be different than some other divorces?

[Anonymous]

I think MIL just likes the ability to get in digs at OP with the ability to say OP shouldn’t be jealous since ex-wife switched sides. Some women are just wired to be horrible.

[Anonymous]

Very very weird. I'd tell her you aren't interested in gossiping.

[Anonymous]

Is your MIL getting it on with her ex-DIL?

[Anonymous]

What's wrong with your husband that he doesn't say something?

[Anonymous]

I honestly don't think this is necessarily all that weird.

It has been a minimum of 13 years since they were married. So basically this woman is not considered DH's X, but rather MIL's friend.

Unusual, yes. But egregious, no.

[Anonymous]

She’s just trying to get a rise out of you. Just ignore her comments.

[Anonymous]

She’s just an old lady trying to make relevant conversation…like my husbands mom who still likes to discuss his high school friends who he hasn’t spoken to in 15 years.

[Anonymous]

Ask your husband if these updates occurred before you came into the picture. If so, this is just her giving updates, if not she is perhaps trying to send you a message. You could say to her you think it is interesting that she gives these regular updates and wonder why she does it. Is it because she is giving regular updates on her son and wants to be balanced? Does she want regular interactions with you as her new DIL?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I honestly don't think this is necessarily all that weird.

It has been a minimum of 13 years since they were married. So basically this woman is not considered DH's X, but rather MIL's friend.

Unusual, yes. But egregious, no.

Why would she think OP would like to hear about MIL’s “friend” who she has never met, and DH about his ex, who’s presumably his ex for a reason, on a repeated basis?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does she think it’s okay because she’s a lesbian so the dynamics might be different than some other divorces?

Probably.

Or maybe she's into her.