Male or female cat if you want friendly, cuddly, affectionate, are the stereotypes true?

[Anonymous]

Are males friendlier and more lovable and girls more B*tchy and independent

[Anonymous]

My male cat is a huge old teddy bear marshmallow who just wants hugs. My female cat is picky and a little crazy, doesn’t ever snuggle for more than a few moments but wants to picked up all day; she’s a lovable little weirdo that chases shadows. Previous female cat was the chillest thing ever. My dog went at her, once. She slapped him across the nose with claws retracted and that was that, he was her slave for the rest of her years; the girl had power. She was also a human and animal caretaker. If anyone was sad or sick (or pregnant), she’d be on you like Velcro until you felt better; I even loaned her to a neighbor once when his little dog was dying — the cat met the dog once and wouldn’t leave his side.

So…I don’t know if my cats follow(ed) any stereotypes. Just individual personalities, I guess.

[Anonymous]

If you just want one cat, get an adult that already has a personality formed. You can find lots of available cars that you know are friendly. If you want a kitten, get a pair. One kitten alone is a disaster. We have two cats, a boy and a girl, adopted as kittens and they are both snuggly and sweet. The girl is definitely more affectionate, she follows us around and if I sit down, she will immediately come sit on me. The boy likes being pet and will follow us around when he wants attention, but not as much as his sister.

[Anonymous]

No. I have had cats my whole life and their sex or color has nothing to do with their temperament. Example: my tortie is a loving angel and my orange male is a dick who will bite randomly

[Anonymous]

Our girls have always been super sweet and cuddly. Our boys have been a mix of standoffish and cuddly.

[Anonymous]

^^we currently have 3 cuddly girls and 1 standoffish boy.

[Anonymous]

Girl camp here. Sweetest things on earth!

[Anonymous]

I've only ever had females and they are very affectionate. The boy cats I know don't like to be petted as much, it's a male dominance thing.

[Anonymous]

No clue about males. All the cats I had were/are females. Love them and one would not leave me alone and slept in my hair. The least "cuddly" one was a rescue from streets, feral basically, now she has her own stairs that DH built her to climb to my bed and sleeps right next to me. She actually comes up right next to my computer (damaging the charging cord!) and gets upset if I get up.

[Anonymous]

My make woke me up an hour ago because he wants some to be awake with him. No cuddles, he’s just handing out in the same room as me.

[Anonymous]

The most affectionate cat I ever had was male but I have a bonded male/female pair now and while both affectionate in different ways, the female is more cuddly and loves to be held and carried. I agree with a PP that getting them with already established personalities will be a more likely bet for finding a lap cat that is affectionate. We adopted our pair at 6 months and their description of their personalities was accurate.

[Anonymous]

Cats who are spayed/neutered when they are babies never develop sex characteristics because they never get sex hormones. So there is no difference.

I’ve had and met many cats who are cuddly/sweet of both genders, and also standoffish cats of both genders.

It can be person specific, too. Our male cat is super cuddly with my DH, fairly affectionate with me, and a totall jerk to everyone else. He basically ignored DD and he won’t let house guests touch him. But he sleeps with us and watches TV with us and is just a big ball of cuddly fluff when no one else is around.

[Anonymous]

For our bonded pair (litter mates) maybe at first or on the surface the stereotypes are true. Our boy is a sweet teddy bear, and our girl is the more neurotic of the two--less inclined to be picked up, held, and plopped around. But both have surprised us by turning out to be lap cats. The girl used to hide out on the most unreachable corners of our home, but once she discovered she liked human company, attention, and physical affection, she started demanding it from us by coming up to us, rubbing our legs, and flopping over for belly rubs. Her brother learned that trick from her.

But the girl's neuroticism also works to make her the better caretaker. Similar to the nurse cat of a PP above, ours will stick by you if you are having a down day and is like a steady pillar of strength. The boy, however, is more footloose and fancy-free, and also an emotional sponge--like call him when you are ready to have fun again because the sadz get him down and he prefers to keep a respectful distance, hovering by the doorway just to see what's going on.

I will add that before we met our cats we went to the ASPCA and they had all their cats categorized and labeled according to their own personality rubric, so that you could shop for a lap cat vs. a cat that would just want to sit by a window all day and not be bothered, etc. But given how much our own cats' personalities have evolved--especially the girl's--I would say, you never know what you're getting.

We met our cats through a rescue operation and we got to visit with them at their foster home. The boy came out to play, as is his wont. But the girl cat, reportedly standoffish, also emerged from her hiding place after a few minutes. When we heard that it was the first time she'd ever done that with potential adopters, it sealed the deal. I am a big believer in letting animals choose you back.

Last thing: we sought out one adult cat and ended up with a bonded pair of youngsters. It's one of the best decisions we've ever made. Hope you find your cat(s) and have a years of love and affection with them.

[Anonymous]

Female cats bond with one person in the household. Male cats will be loyal to everyone.

[Anonymous]

My female (10 month) old girl cat is incredibly friendly, cuddly, and sweet (when she isn't bouncing off the walls because she's still technically a kitten).

She's very social with visitors, loves playing with others and seeing what other people are doing.

Stereotypes are not true. I've known a few antisocial male cats in my lifetime.