Do we decline Christmas invitation when they won’t vaccinate?

[Anonymous]

Brother and sis in law and their kids got COVID last year. Last I heard, they don’t believe in getting vaccinated and feel that they now have built an immunity to it, because the got COVID last year. They also don’t take it as seriously because they survived.

Anyhow, we have two little ones who will have been vaccinated by the time we go visit them for Christmas. However, husband is appalled at their views and wants me to ask point blank if they all have been vaccinated. They have an adult son living at home and two teens who have been able to get vaccinated all summer.

Husband said we will make decision based in their answer. Look, I get it. It’s frustrating that they don’t follow modern science but my kids would have been vaccinated by then so what’s the difference if they are or aren’t vaccinated?

At some point we will have to see them again and if they never vaccinate, when will that be then?

[Anonymous]

If you otherwise enjoy their company and think you will have a good time then still go. I have a good friend who supports trump and is anti the vaccine. We both know where we stand snd have managed to stay friends. We talk about other things, mainly to do with kids. If I was only friends with people who believed in the same things I did I would have a very small circle of friends ( I am anti dog breeding, factory farming, I’m pro choice, etc etc)

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I don't really get the outrage / fear around being around unvaccinated people if you/your family are fully vaccinated either. Someone will be along shortly to concoct some obscure scenario showing how it can be dangerous but I feel like that's unlikely enough that I'm just not too worried about it. While I question the intelligence of unvaccinated folks at this point, that alone has never stopped me from seeing family before.

[Anonymous]

at this point in the pandemic, do you really still need to crowdsource this? you're either comfortable or not. if you are comfortable, don't decline. if you're not comfortable, decline.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you otherwise enjoy their company and think you will have a good time then still go. I have a good friend who supports trump and is anti the vaccine. We both know where we stand snd have managed to stay friends. We talk about other things, mainly to do with kids. If I was only friends with people who believed in the same things I did I would have a very small circle of friends ( I am anti dog breeding, factory farming, I’m pro choice, etc etc)

This. You are all vaccinated so this isn't really a thing medically. If you are so appalled by their stance on vaccinations seems like you would cut them out of your lives completely and not just at Christmas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you otherwise enjoy their company and think you will have a good time then still go. I have a good friend who supports trump and is anti the vaccine. We both know where we stand snd have managed to stay friends. We talk about other things, mainly to do with kids. If I was only friends with people who believed in the same things I did I would have a very small circle of friends ( I am anti dog breeding, factory farming, I’m pro choice, etc etc)

Not really the same. These anti vaxxers and Trumpers have really been sucked into a cult like mentality which is becoming dangerous on a number of levels. Secondly, being unvaccinated increases odds of everyone being infected. I feel they made their choice not to see people if they won't vaccinate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:at this point in the pandemic, do you really still need to crowdsource this? you're either comfortable or not. if you are comfortable, don't decline. if you're not comfortable, decline.

Well, yes, there are still awkward issues in going forward. Pandemic is not over.

[Anonymous]

Now that We will be able to vaccinate our last kid I don’t care what other people do because I’m not worried about serious illness (wasn’t really worried about that when it was just the kids unvaccinated but now they will be vaccinated I’m really not worried about it).

So, I don’t care what other people are doing. Other people make stupid decisions all the time; I have never required they do exactly as I do in any other arena. And no way would my husband dictate when I get to see my family; that would make me angrier than people who stupidly hurt their own selves by not vaccinating.

[Anonymous]

I can’t imagine not seeing my family because they aren’t vaccinated. This is terrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:at this point in the pandemic, do you really still need to crowdsource this? you're either comfortable or not. if you are comfortable, don't decline. if you're not comfortable, decline.

Well, yes, there are still awkward issues in going forward. Pandemic is not over.

Yes it is. Venture outside of DC. It’s over. Sorry to tell you

[Anonymous]

I would not see them this holiday season in the hopes that as the virus becomes more endemic, and more kids are vaccinated, we are in a more stable place next year.

[Anonymous]

I’m with your husband. I’ve lost all respect for the anti-vaxxers, including the ones in my family. But to be honest, I never really enjoyed their company much to begin with. So maybe that’s part of where he’s coming from?

[Anonymous]

My 9yo dd had Covid last month. My vaccinated sibling was visiting. She didn’t get it, vaccinated Dh and I didn’t get it, and our unvaccinated son didn’t get it either. I’m honestly convinced Covid ran through my son’s school in the winter before everything shut down, and that would explain why ds didn’t get it this time.

If your family is otherwise healthy and vaccinated, I wouldn’t be concerned at all about seeing them, especially if they’ve already had it.

[Anonymous]

I would see them, but would wear a mask in their presence, and absolutely would not stay in their home. ALthough I’m vaccinated (and my kid will be by Christmas) I’m still taking reasonable steps to avoid getting COVID. Spending a lot of time unmasked with people who are NOT taking any precautions and are unvaccinated seems like an unnecessary risk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would see them, but would wear a mask in their presence, and absolutely would not stay in their home. ALthough I’m vaccinated (and my kid will be by Christmas) I’m still taking reasonable steps to avoid getting COVID. Spending a lot of time unmasked with people who are NOT taking any precautions and are unvaccinated seems like an unnecessary risk.

I meant would not stay overnight in their home.