When you know your kid doesn't have it...
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Anonymous
| IS there ever a point when you see it is clear your kid doesn't have it, or isn't keeping up? our kids went with friends to a no cut try out. One is hanging, the other is clearly dragging their team down. It's humbling to have the "weak" player. Do you let them keep grinding at u12/11/10 because the club is taking their money. or eject? |
Anonymous
I would reject. But that’s because I respect myself. If you’re paying to Loudoun then you’re beyond facked |
Anonymous
| I see 99.9% of the kids that don’t have it. |
Anonymous
Yes, like you when you were younger and looked in the mirror. |
Anonymous
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Some kids just don't have the athleticism that the game demands at a higher level at that age. There's nothing they can do about it, they just don't have the coordination, and even if they learn the skills it just takes them two or three times as long because their coordination isn't there yet.
The best fit for them is just to put them on a lower team and continue teaching them the skills and doing a lot of individual training until their body develops more. |
Anonymous
| Put them on the team where they aren't dragging everyone else down because they're all at the same level and they will progress together |
Anonymous
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This is interesting.
My kid is super athletic in terms of strength and agility. However she’s timid on the field and generally drags the team down. It’s crazy because she’s amazing during practice, she can do anything and coaches are always impressed. Then the games happen and they’re very surprised. She loves learning skills but hates being aggressive during games. We’re still at the point where she enjoys the friendship aspect of being on a team but I’m thinking how much longer to stay with soccer. |
Anonymous
| You need to find a coach who's willing to teach her the game and teach her the skills. Athletic players are great to have on your team and they are an asset. But they need to learn how to play, , acquire foot skills, everything. You need to find someone who can teach her the skills. |
Anonymous
| You should put him on a lower team or in a lower league where he falls middle of the pack. At that age, kids know that they are at the bottom of the team talent wise and if it's a big gap, it's not a good feeling. The next step will be him quitting in a couple year. We had a kid on our team who chose not to tryout because he was misplaced skill wise. |
Anonymous
| Had a child like this who is now thriving in Cross Country. (Running) My non-professional take keep at it if she is still enjoying it - wants to try to get better/stay on the team. |
Anonymous
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Do what the makes your kid happy. It doesn't sound like a competitive team anyway and all of the parents are aware.
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Anonymous
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No kid has ‘got it’ before puberty. There are plenty of parents who swear their 9-year old is the new new thing and will be at the Nou Camp one day, but no serious coach or scout will claim a kid has a long-term future in the game until after puberty sets in.
If your kid is still having fun, let them have fun. Learn the skills of being a good player and wait for the physical side to catch up. If it doesn’t, then ask again then if they are still having fun and decide what comes next based on that answer. |
Anonymous
There are plenty of kids who 'got it' long before puberty and while some fizzle out or lose their advantages after puberty, the vast majority of those playing in MLS academies and in college were the 'best' players at U10-U12. |
Anonymous
+1 And you must know that international soccer scouts take serious looks at very young boys all the time. Read this fascinating article if you are not familiar with that world. https://www.nytimes.com/2010/06/06/magazine/06Soccer-t.html |
Anonymous
Pretty interesting article. |