High School Teens w/ADHD
![[Post New]](/jforum/templates/default/images/icon_minipost_new.gif){kind=icon}
Anonymous
| If your high schooler has ADHD, how involved are you (if at all) in making sure he/she turns in assignments on time and completes the entire assignment? |
Anonymous
| 11th grader recently diagnosed. I am not at all involved. I don't even know what her assignments are. I barely know what classes she's taking. She's always been highly motivated school wise even before we figured out she had ADHD. |
Anonymous
| I need to check ParentVUE (MCPS) nightly to inquire about late assignments. She has extended time, but needs it. I still need to communicate with teachers at times, but much less frequently than middle school. |
Anonymous
| My sophomore son manages to turn in and I don't check (other than asking what's coming up). He does need support with large projects and studying for tests. He's gotten much better about following multi-step instructions since we started meds, but this is what I have to keep an eye on (did you actually do all that was assigned). |
Anonymous
I’m the PP. I also have a 6th grader with ADHD. I do have to follow up on his assignments and probably will have to in HS. My kids have very different personalities. |
Anonymous
| In classes with a huge number of assignments, I do have to make sure he is keeping up with them. Other classes have fewer assignments so it isn't an issue. Hopefully college will be easier om him since he won't have to hand in math assignments every day. |
Anonymous
My son has a 504 and I am fully involved. I help him organize his calendar, set reminders on his apple watch, sit with him EVERY DAY and go over what needs to be done while he writes a to-do list. He would simply fail otherwise, he just cannot keep track of anything. I remember his freshman year, during his 504 meeting one of the teachers asked us"if you are so involved, how will he ever learn to do it on his own? How will he do in college when he is on his own?" Well we tried backing off during his 8th grade year for 3 months, and he pretty much failed every class. I have 3 kids, my other two are incredible independent and I never worry about their homework because they remember what they need to do and take a reasonable time to complete tasks. My ADHD kid will not be able to handle college on his own, sending him to college is setting him up to fail. He will need to attend a local college, take only a couple of classes per semester and, if necessary, live at home while doing that. We want him to get a degree and he wants to get a degree, but he understands his own struggles. In the end, the only difference is that it will take him a bit longer to get there and he needs to study something he loves because he is hyperfocused when he does things he loves to do. |
Anonymous
| Is he medicated? |
Anonymous
+1 DS with ADHD was very self driven to manage himself. Younger DD in MS with ADHD needs much more help staying on track. Looking forward to being more hands off eventually. |
Anonymous
| DS diagnosed at age 7 and medicated. I was hands-off starting in about 7th grade. Not sure I would call him "highly motivated" but he had reasonable goals and did what he needed to do to reach them, even if he didn't take 12 APs or have an A in every class all the time. At most, I reminded him to check on his grades and online portals frequently - I never looked at them |
Anonymous
| Dx in 6th grade and medicated since (now in 10th.) I get notifications to my phone of his grades and will text to ask him to follow up with his teacher. But I have no idea what the assignments are or really what he is learning. He does need reminders to look at his grades and f/u with his teachers, but that is all. Right now, he has all A/B in honors classes. |
Anonymous
| We hired an EF coach. At the beginning of each week, they work together to go over assignments and plot out a calendar. There are times when something falls through the cracks and I have to intervene, but since working with the coach, fewer instances. Virtual was a nightmare and everytime I get an email from the grading system, my impulse is to want to scream! |
Anonymous
How did you find an EF coach? Google? |
Anonymous
| I handed her over to a weekly EF coach and she goes to a homework center twice a week for a few hours, where she also checks in with coaches and gets subject area assistance as needed. I have fully removed myself from the equation, and it has vastly improved our relationship. |
Anonymous
Very. I have to sit over my freshman every night to help him learn how to go through both his "to do" folder and Canvas to see what is outstanding and when it's due. Then I have to sit, or at least check, to make sure he's doing homework. Still, he might do a complete assignment online and just not hit the submit button. Or walk around for a week or so before turning in a completed packet. It's so frustrating. He had made so much progress in person, in middle school, with a Resource class. Much more independent. The pandemic and virtual learning have been horrible for my son. I see this year as a rebuilding and relearning year. |