How is your relationship with your divorced sibling?

[Anonymous]

Are you super close? How involved are you in resolving your siblings issues related to divorce and custody etc? How often do you see them if they are in the same area?

[Anonymous]

A sibling who got divorced? Or siblings who are both ACOD?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A sibling who got divorced? Or siblings who are both ACOD?

A sibling who got divorced

[Anonymous]

I don't live near them but it is no different than it was before they got divorced (two different siblings have been divorced). I'm not sure why it would be?

[Anonymous]

Why would my sibling's divorce affect our relationship?

[Anonymous]

OP here- wanted to know did the divorce of a sibling make you closer to your sibling? And how involved are you in your divorced siblings issues pertaining to child custody etc? Do you offer advice?

[Anonymous]

It would be worse if they had cheated or otherwise done something egregiously bad. But if they hadn't and needed my help, we might come out of it closer than we were. However if they needed or wanted more help than I wanted to give, boundaries. Or if they were making bad financial choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would my sibling's divorce affect our relationship?

+1

This is a weird question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would my sibling's divorce affect our relationship?

+1

This is a weird question.

You misunderstood the question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would my sibling's divorce affect our relationship?

+1

This is a weird question.

You misunderstood the question.

DP. No, she didn't. I don't understand it either. The problem is not with the people reading the question. The problem is with the way the question itself is expressed.

[Anonymous]

Resolving their issues? BYOB !!!!

[Anonymous]

I meant MYOB ... mind your own business!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here- wanted to know did the divorce of a sibling make you closer to your sibling? And how involved are you in your divorced siblings issues pertaining to child custody etc? Do you offer advice?

All siblings became closer. We were heavily involved throughout the entire divorce. Sibling getting divorced was very beaten down after years of emotional abuse and manipulation and ready to get out at any cost. Cheating ex was proposing settling without lawyers, 80/20 custody, giving her all the equity and the house, etc. We made sure sibling had a good lawyer, got 50/50 custody, and fair settlement. Sibling came to us for help and was receptive of it. I give him credit for realizing he needed help and listening to us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here- wanted to know did the divorce of a sibling make you closer to your sibling? And how involved are you in your divorced siblings issues pertaining to child custody etc? Do you offer advice?

All siblings became closer. We were heavily involved throughout the entire divorce. Sibling getting divorced was very beaten down after years of emotional abuse and manipulation and ready to get out at any cost. Cheating ex was proposing settling without lawyers, 80/20 custody, giving her all the equity and the house, etc. We made sure sibling had a good lawyer, got 50/50 custody, and fair settlement. Sibling came to us for help and was receptive of it. I give him credit for realizing he needed help and listening to us.

Then what happened? What did he do w his 50/50 custody?

[Anonymous]

I became much closer to my little sister when he husband left. It was so sudden and she was heartbroken. I just offered and gave whatever support she needed. I had no opinions (that I shared with her) about custody. I’m cordial when I see her ex at kid’s birthday parties but not engaged or warm.