Women are martyrs and men are weenies, Chapter 8,124
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Anonymous
| My husband just informed me that he “will not apologize” for sleeping until 10am on “a Sunday.” For the record, I didn’t wake him. I’m mildly pissed. Literally the only affront to him is that he can tell I am mildly pissed. I have not slept in or missed a morning feed since our child was born 14 months ago. |
Anonymous
| Do you have tomorrow off? Ask him to take the early shift and let you sleep. |
Anonymous
| If you’re both working- you each should get a weekend day to sleep in. I’m on maternity leave and I sleep in Monday- Friday. Dh gets the weekend. |
Anonymous
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It’s not 10 am on a Sunday.
It’s 10 am on a Sunday as a parent. His life is different now too. He needs to accept that or gtfo. |
Anonymous
| More like chapter 10,006, My SPpuse & I HAve Abysmal COmmunication Skills. |
Anonymous
Is it possible to split up weekends? You sleep in Saturday, he sleeps in Sunday? When I was exclusively breastfeeding DH would come in, put the baby next to me in bed to eat and then take him away and I went back to sleep. Since your baby is older he could honestly just wake with him and give him solids for breakfast and not bother you. We have 3 young kids so my Sunday morning sleep in is sacred. DH can wrangle the kids all morning, I (and you) need to take breaks. |
Anonymous
This is OP, I’m a SAHM so I don’t “work.” It’s not a hard job but the hours can be punishing and there is no weekend. |
Anonymous
Actually that’s not true, I do get a lot more help and I get away for a few hours on the weekend. He’s not a bad dad and I’m not even mad at him. I’m just stunned that he would make a little tirade knowing that I literally never sleep in. |
Anonymous
| You’re mad he’s sleeping until 10 on a Sunday? Jesus Christ. Poor guy. Women like this absolutely baffle me. |
Anonymous
Hi! this was me 16 years ago. Now I'm divorced! because this kind of attitude is deeply ingrained in some men, and very, very hard to turn around. No matter how much the wife -- it's always the wife -- "communicates" and clearly, calmly states her needs, and negotiates alternate weekend days blah blah blah. You can Have a Talk and negotiate for a next weekend brunch with friends ... but if the dad is an entitled prick deep down, you'll just have the same struggles for years. If dad is simply clueless and sees the light after explanation by mom (my brother in law fits into this group), then yes, things will change and the marriage can stay healthy. OP only you know what sort of guy you married. I married a pampered entitled weenie who believes he is a better human than I am, because as everyone knows, working in a law firm is superior to taking a career break when the kids are young. |
Anonymous
Woah woah woah. I’m the pp who sleeps in Sundays (DH sleeps in Saturday) and I’m a SAHM. Yes I don’t work out of the house and I take on the bulk of home and childcare duties 7 days a week but DH and I both agree I deserve breaks. Weekends are for both of us to enjoy. |
Anonymous
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Uh, so let me get this straight. Your household income is dependent on one person. That person presumably wakes up early during the week and it sounds like on Saturday too. They are asking to sleep in 1 day. He is a weenie. Ok, got it.
Let's look at the other side. You are a SAHM and you have one child whose life is dependent on you as it sounds like you are breastfeeding. You are a martyr. Ok, got it. Why don't you let DH sleep in one morning to feel refreshed and you can sleep in on Saturday so that you feel like you got your tit for tat. If you continue down this road of tit for tat comparison, you will be here in 5 years, divorced, talking about how your DH is dating another young chickadee and you are struggling as a single mom. Avoid that. This guy is responsible for 100% of your household income. Give him one morning to do as he pleases. It's not a huge give. |
Anonymous
Sometimes I need to see these posts to remind me that my wife has some redeeming qualities. Neither she nor I care if the other wants to sleep in sometimes |
Anonymous
How do you manage that? My babies woke with the sun! Luckily, I was a morning person and would rather go to bed early than sleep late. |
Anonymous
Probably because it’s not the same person sleeping in every time when there’s a baby who needs early morning care. |