Visit with anti-vax in-laws?

[Anonymous]

My husband would like to visit with his family in November in Virginia for his birthday weekend (4 hours away from us by car). We haven't been there to see his family since the pandemic hit. His parents are vaccinated but his brother, sister in-law and their 2 kids are not. The sister in-laws parents are also not vaccinated and I'm not sure if they would be at any gatherings. The brother and his family all got covid a year ago and are very against vaccinations (but may have some lingering immunity) . My husband and I are vaccinated but my kids are 6 and 11 and are not yet. How would you handle this? I was trying to negotiate going at the end of November so that my kids would at least maybe have 1 shot of the vaccine if it's out by then.

[Anonymous]

See the non-vaxxed folks outside. Or if inside, with everyone masked. If they won't do either of these things then don't see them.

[Anonymous]

Just wait until the kids are vaccinated. The unvaccinated adults suck.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t go until my kids were vaccinated.

[Anonymous]

Ideally see them outside if you can.

After 1.5 years, we did see my unvaccinated BIL and SIL. I know some people are willing to lose family over vaccinations but I decided I’m not & it had already been 1.5 years so I decided to agree to see them. We didn’t see other people indoors without masks for a week after that.

[Anonymous]

^^ I wished they had Covid but as far as I know they didn’t. I think past Covid is as good if not better than vaccine.

[Anonymous]

^^ I don’t wish it on anyone but I mean if they weren’t going to get the shot I also would have felt protected with natural immunity

[Anonymous]

I refuse to see unvaccinated adults and don’t mind if I never see them again. Which means I won’t be seeing two aunts and one cousin. That’s fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^ I wished they had Covid but as far as I know they didn’t. I think past Covid is as good if not better than vaccine.

This is my cite: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.timesofisrael.com/study-covid-recovery-gave-israelis-longer-lasting-delta-defense-than-vaccines/amp/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I refuse to see unvaccinated adults and don’t mind if I never see them again. Which means I won’t be seeing two aunts and one cousin. That’s fine.

I think parents and siblings are in a different category than aunts and cousins, for most people.

[Anonymous]

I think your end of November is a good plan. One shot plus their natural immunity sounds like a good compromise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think your end of November is a good plan. One shot plus their natural immunity sounds like a good compromise.

Adding on though, everyone needs to be flexible. If rates go up, or child vaccinations get delayed, then family needs to be accommodating that you would reconsider. (And if they aren’t, don’t worry about it but hold your ground!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I refuse to see unvaccinated adults and don’t mind if I never see them again. Which means I won’t be seeing two aunts and one cousin. That’s fine.

I think parents and siblings are in a different category than aunts and cousins, for most people.

My mother feels the same way, and it’s her two sisters.
Thank goodness my other two aunts and their families are reasonable!

[Anonymous]

First of all a lot of unvaxxed idiots say they have covid when they a cold on November so no I wouldn’t trust that. Shots or don’t hang out, if your kids get covid how would you feel?

[Anonymous]

I would not spend time unvaccinated people. Especially not with unvaccinated children.