Great in practice, nonfactor in games?

[Anonymous]

Anyone else have this type of kid? My DC is consistently super strong in practice and scrimmages. Top skills, never gives up, full energy. Has been picked for top teams, won summer camp awards, etc. Loves the sport. But….Get to games, and… blah. It is like they forget what they can do. Thoughts? Is this in his head?

[Anonymous]

It’s easy when they know how the other team plays

[Anonymous]

Anxiety

[Anonymous]

Elaborate on the anxiety please?

[Anonymous]

Is your child’s personality competitive in general or more of a pleasing type? Our DD was almost the opposite. She blended in at practice but rose to the occasion and stood out in games. She always found practice repetitive and boring. It’s like she needed that edge and desire to win that comes in a game situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is your child’s personality competitive in general or more of a pleasing type? Our DD was almost the opposite. She blended in at practice but rose to the occasion and stood out in games. She always found practice repetitive and boring. It’s like she needed that edge and desire to win that comes in a game situation.

So his lazy in practices but takes the spot of those worked worked hard at the games.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your child’s personality competitive in general or more of a pleasing type? Our DD was almost the opposite. She blended in at practice but rose to the occasion and stood out in games. She always found practice repetitive and boring. It’s like she needed that edge and desire to win that comes in a game situation.

So his lazy in practices but takes the spot of those worked worked hard at the games.

**He is

[Anonymous]

OP here. DS is a pleaser, also very competitive, and a very anxious kid. Could be he is too worried about what to do in a game. Not sure. It has been a trend over last couple years and is too bad because he is a really talented player and loves the sport.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your child’s personality competitive in general or more of a pleasing type? Our DD was almost the opposite. She blended in at practice but rose to the occasion and stood out in games. She always found practice repetitive and boring. It’s like she needed that edge and desire to win that comes in a game situation.

So his lazy in practices but takes the spot of those worked worked hard at the games.

Did you even read the post you replied to?

[Anonymous]

When the popcorn starts popping

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. DS is a pleaser, also very competitive, and a very anxious kid. Could be he is too worried about what to do in a game. Not sure. It has been a trend over last couple years and is too bad because he is a really talented player and loves the sport.

Could be anxiety and lack of confidence. Especially if he’s in that awkward 12-15 age range or if he’s a late grower. He may build more confidence playing with a lower team for a while where speed of play is a little slower and other players are not as big or skilled. He’ll be less afraid of making mistakes

[Anonymous]

I don’t watch practices anymore, so wouldn’t know.

[Anonymous]

Could be something to do with anxiety, right? Probably almost no eyes on him in practice, but then a full sideline of parents/family during games. When I was a runner in high school, I could crush it in training. But then during meets, I always had quite a bit of anxiety and my legs always felt weak.

[Anonymous]

Have you drilled it into his head not to be a ball hog? To be a team player?

[Anonymous]

Not sure why my post got deleted a moment ago but whatever., here's another attempt: I tried asking if DS needed to do #2 before games. We have a kid who, when needs to do #2 and waits until after a game, is super sluggish in the games. When #2 is done before the games, no sluggishness in games.