Is there someone who just doesn't like you?

[Anonymous]

Is there someone in your life who just does not like you? And you have no idea why?

My SIL has seemingly despised me since my husband brought me home to introduce me to his family. She doesn't speak a word to me and wants nothing to do with me. We do not have a relationship. Most of the time she openly mocks me or bullies me. I ignore her.

I have never understood it. It is a complete mystery.

[Anonymous]

I would have confronted her. "What's your damage, Heather?" is a great opening line for this situation.

[Anonymous]

Sister in laws can be quite possessive and jealous sometimes. It's a thing. Not all, of course, but some. Especially if it is just the two of them in the family.

[Anonymous]

Sure. There certainly have been people I have encountered who don't like me for whatever reason. No one is everyone's cup of tea.

I think having someone openly treat you like crap though is different. I would honestly not tolerate that and would leave wherever you were if it was happening. I would tell your H that you won't go to things with his family if everyone is ok with your sister being openly and verbally cruel. If she just sat in silence and ignored then whatever, but open cruelty is unacceptable.

[Anonymous]

I am being bullied by a secretary at work. I am on the spectrum and she has openly mocked me and my way of speaking to my face. I've thought about going to HR but my boss LOVES her and if it came down to her word against mine she would win. I am working from home a lot more, in large point to avoid her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sister in laws can be quite possessive and jealous sometimes. It's a thing. Not all, of course, but some. Especially if it is just the two of them in the family.

DP which is weird because it's too completely different relationships one is a familial relationship and one is a sexual relationship. Those types of SILs are usually nightmares, petty, immature and can't let their brothers grow up.

[Anonymous]

I knew someone who instantly disliked me. Then I met his ex. We looked and talked the same. She was my doppelganger!

[Anonymous]

I used to worked at a place where seemingly all of a sudden, numerous people I encountered didn't seem to like me. None of them were people I knew well, but I was generally friendly at work and I started being met with a brick wall with a number of people. I'd be friendly and they wouldn't smile at me and would exit conversations with me as quickly as possible. When I'd walk into a room, I could not shake the feeling that people were talking about me or had just been talking about me or were waiting for me to leave so they could talk about me. It was extremely uncomfortable and had a massive impact on my mental health. I didn't know if I was just being super oversensitive or if it was real -- it seemed so random and improbable that I actually felt crazy. But I also didn't really know anyone in the office well and no one told me what was going on and I didn't want to ask because I would have sounded incredibly paranoid.

Turns out that there was some gossip going around about another person in the office, it got confused with me, and a bunch of people thought I'd done an extremely unethical and cruel thing to a very well-liked colleague who no longer worked there. It got cleared up but I never shook that feeling of just being despised by people who were basically strangers to me. I had to go to therapy. I quit that job and have worked from home as a contractor ever since because I now have social paranoia and assume people dislike me and that I have no control over why and cannot clear my name no matter what I do. Basically, offices are like waking nightmares to me.

[Anonymous]

Yes, we’re divorced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is there someone in your life who just does not like you? And you have no idea why?

My SIL has seemingly despised me since my husband brought me home to introduce me to his family. She doesn't speak a word to me and wants nothing to do with me. We do not have a relationship. Most of the time she openly mocks me or bullies me. I ignore her.

I have never understood it. It is a complete mystery.

Good for you for ignoring her. She's not worth your time and energy. What does your husband say about it though?? It's really unacceptable behaviour.

[Anonymous]

You have posted this before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is there someone in your life who just does not like you? And you have no idea why?

My SIL has seemingly despised me since my husband brought me home to introduce me to his family. She doesn't speak a word to me and wants nothing to do with me. We do not have a relationship. Most of the time she openly mocks me or bullies me. I ignore her.

I have never understood it. It is a complete mystery.

Good for you for ignoring her. She's not worth your time and energy. What does your husband say about it though?? It's really unacceptable behaviour.

My husband and his family turn a blind eye and ignore her.

I never expected to be beat friends but I have been so surprised by her outright hostility towards me. To be fair, MIL was toxic for a long time too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have posted this before.

Yes. I’m just completely flummoxed by this.

[Anonymous]

yea, there are several. shrug. I can't please everyone. I learned that a long time ago.

I do realize that I can be exacting. I'm a virgo.

[Anonymous]

My SIL hates me too. She also hates my DH.

She has BPD and NPD, though, so I am just relieved not to interact unless absolutely required. Rest of DH’s family is great.