4th grade girls mocking “preppy” girls

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do they mean when they say preppy?

Traditional attractiveness, the goth child will end up they them overweight

Ha, this one’s kid is a real peach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All these girls mocking other girls are like small versions of their moms.

+1

Hit the nail on the head. The moms are jealous of other moms and mock them and their daughters mimic that behavior. Mean moms make mean girls.

It’s this.

[Anonymous]

OP, what exactly are you looking for here? Kids have been mocking each other for every reason under the sun since forever. And it’s not cool. Every parent should try to nip that in the bud. But by creating this post, there’s an implication that the preppy kids would be above mockery. Like, how dare the weirdos turn the tables? If your kid is happy with themselves and their friends, and not engaging in this behavior, then consider it a teachable moment. All kids eventually have to learn how it feels when someone says unkind, untrue, or just plain stupid things about them.

[Anonymous]

I have read this thread for whatever reason and have two questions:

What’s the boy version of this new usage of “preppy” if there is one?

OP and a PP refer to “singing a song” presumably to mean participating in gossip (?). I’ve never heard anyone use the phrase that way. Is it a newly trending usage as well?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do they mean when they say preppy?

Traditional attractiveness, the goth child will end up they them overweight

You kid probably will too. >70 percent of adults are so…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All these girls mocking other girls are like small versions of their moms.

+1

Hit the nail on the head. The moms are jealous of other moms and mock them and their daughters mimic that behavior. Mean moms make mean girls.

NP. No one is jealous of these people! Crazy that that’s your conclusion. Mocking people is wrong, period, though, and kids do tend to emulate their parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve heard girls making fun of “preppy” girls, none by name, at pickup. It doesn’t seem to be targeting or involving my DC, who doesn’t sing the songs but has at least 1 friend who does. This friend is a pain and hyper social, in terms of crushes and gossip, and her mom is an old Goth. Is “preppy” a thing, or a kind of catch-all like “basic” or “girlie”? I don’t like the idea of making fun of girls (it’s not being directed to boys!) for not caring about style at young ages. Is this a current thing?

It's the opposite. Those girls are jealous of the girls whose parents buy them all the latest trends (a Stanley, Lulu/Athleta/Abercrombie).

And when the girls who have those things mock the goth kids, it’s because they’re jealous? Or does this only work one way?

+1

[Anonymous]

So many PPs (rightfully) upset about mean girl behavior, but then in the same breath saying nasty things about a 10-yr old who wears lululemon or has a stanley. You're an a-hole for picking on a child.

My 4th grade DD likes lululemon and stanley's (obviously we don't buy her unlimited quantities). She's finding her place. She also loves math, soccer, cares deeply about climate change, and is a kind friend and sister. It's gross to judge a child based on what they are wearing.

[Anonymous]

The “old money aesthetic” has clothes that are more closely aligned to what us “old people” think as traditionally preppy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honest question as a mom- why do 4h grade girls all need to have the same brand water bottle? My 4th grade girl doesn’t understand it.

They don't. It's a status symbol for the moms in elementary (I think). I have a DD in 3rd at a big 3 equivalent (different city) and most of the girls have them. I send DD with a squeezable Gatorade sports bottle from target because she loses them all the time! She doesn't complain but has commented that "all the girls have a Stanley" I have 2 others in MS and HS and they have Stanley's - purchased with their own money. No one needs them a Nalgene will do, but it's not cool.

I remember when I really wanted a Dooney in MS. This is the same as that.

Nalgene is so nasty and foul - why would you force your kid to drink out of plastic when other alternatives exist? Doesn’t have to be a Stanley but there is so much better/healthier out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honest question as a mom- why do 4h grade girls all need to have the same brand water bottle? My 4th grade girl doesn’t understand it.

They don't. It's a status symbol for the moms in elementary (I think). I have a DD in 3rd at a big 3 equivalent (different city) and most of the girls have them. I send DD with a squeezable Gatorade sports bottle from target because she loses them all the time! She doesn't complain but has commented that "all the girls have a Stanley" I have 2 others in MS and HS and they have Stanley's - purchased with their own money. No one needs them a Nalgene will do, but it's not cool.

I remember when I really wanted a Dooney in MS. This is the same as that.

Nalgene is so nasty and foul - why would you force your kid to drink out of plastic when other alternatives exist? Doesn’t have to be a Stanley but there is so much better/healthier out there.

DP. Nasty and foul? Water bottle weirdos (of all ages) are too much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many PPs (rightfully) upset about mean girl behavior, but then in the same breath saying nasty things about a 10-yr old who wears lululemon or has a stanley. You're an a-hole for picking on a child.

My 4th grade DD likes lululemon and stanley's (obviously we don't buy her unlimited quantities). She's finding her place. She also loves math, soccer, cares deeply about climate change, and is a kind friend and sister. It's gross to judge a child based on what they are wearing.

I agree.

[Anonymous]

It’s picked up from social media. Just search “it’s preppy in here”. Many kids are exposed to tiktok and other sm by age 8, if not younger. They don’t know how to interpret what they’re seeing and hearing, only mimicking. Preppy is a “dig” referring to girls who were lulu leggings, carry Stanley cups (not too long ago it was hydroflasks), and wear bright colors. These little kids think they are being “cool”, but it’s really just sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The “old money aesthetic” has clothes that are more closely aligned to what us “old people” think as traditionally preppy.

This has nothing to do with what tween/teens consider preppy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honest question as a mom- why do 4h grade girls all need to have the same brand water bottle? My 4th grade girl doesn’t understand it.

They don't. It's a status symbol for the moms in elementary (I think). I have a DD in 3rd at a big 3 equivalent (different city) and most of the girls have them. I send DD with a squeezable Gatorade sports bottle from target because she loses them all the time! She doesn't complain but has commented that "all the girls have a Stanley" I have 2 others in MS and HS and they have Stanley's - purchased with their own money. No one needs them a Nalgene will do, but it's not cool.

I remember when I really wanted a Dooney in MS. This is the same as that.

Nalgene is so nasty and foul - why would you force your kid to drink out of plastic when other alternatives exist? Doesn’t have to be a Stanley but there is so much better/healthier out there.

Nalgene is perfectly fine and made in the US