Why are older men attracted to very young women when they are older?

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Anonymous wrote:This is such a silly thread. I know that DCUM women think they're special and that having babies in your 40s is the norm, but from a strictly biological standpoint women are most fertile 20 years earlier than that. And that, alone, explains why men are more attracted to them. While many men don't act on the attraction and stay with women their own age, that doesn't change the attraction itself.

But often these men don't even want their own kids with the woman they had sex with in their 20's and 30's. So what's the draw for 50-60 year old divorced man to a 20 year old? I can find a 20 year old man to be attractive/hot and also not feel any emotional/romantic connection to him. I don't want to party with him or hang out with younger people all day. Or have pressure to have a child in my 40's or adopt in my 50's. None of the lifestyle is attractive. Some of these older men marry these 25 year olds.

As someone else said, it's evolutionary. It's not something that you need to think about. I don't know why simple biology is so hard for people on DCUM to understand. It's been explained like two or three times in this thread alone. Do you understand that evolution is the process of adapting for survival over many different environments over a loooooong period of time? Young women are attractive because they can have babies easily and this promotes survival of the species. Men can have kids easily at pretty much any age. The end.

Paternal investment ensures the survival of the species. Please read on k-selection vs. r-selection. Promiscuous paternity creates lives that are nasty, brutish, and short.

That was my point as well in the 11:29 post

People twist around and use “it’s biology” to conveniently justify what they feel like they want to do. One of the only other species whose offspring are as vulnerable, require investment from both parents, and take as long, relatively, to mature as human infants do, birds, mate with a single mate for life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To hell with fertility. Younger women are prettier, they choose to be prettier, and they are less cranky.

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One word: tightness

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Anonymous wrote:This is such a silly thread. I know that DCUM women think they're special and that having babies in your 40s is the norm, but from a strictly biological standpoint women are most fertile 20 years earlier than that. And that, alone, explains why men are more attracted to them. While many men don't act on the attraction and stay with women their own age, that doesn't change the attraction itself.

But often these men don't even want their own kids with the woman they had sex with in their 20's and 30's. So what's the draw for 50-60 year old divorced man to a 20 year old? I can find a 20 year old man to be attractive/hot and also not feel any emotional/romantic connection to him. I don't want to party with him or hang out with younger people all day. Or have pressure to have a child in my 40's or adopt in my 50's. None of the lifestyle is attractive. Some of these older men marry these 25 year olds.

As someone else said, it's evolutionary. It's not something that you need to think about. I don't know why simple biology is so hard for people on DCUM to understand. It's been explained like two or three times in this thread alone. Do you understand that evolution is the process of adapting for survival over many different environments over a loooooong period of time? Young women are attractive because they can have babies easily and this promotes survival of the species. Men can have kids easily at pretty much any age. The end.

Paternal investment ensures the survival of the species. Please read on k-selection vs. r-selection. Promiscuous paternity creates lives that are nasty, brutish, and short.

That was my point as well in the 11:29 post

People twist around and use “it’s biology” to conveniently justify what they feel like they want to do. One of the only other species whose offspring are as vulnerable, require investment from both parents, and take as long, relatively, to mature as human infants do, birds, mate with a single mate for life.

And birds can be very pretty. Particularly males. It's interesting the difference.

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Man here in his 40s. I've dated many women in their 20s. Younger women, on average, are more attractive than older women.

The ones I've dated have been adventurous, inquisitive, and fun. When we're out and I suggest going to try something new, they're open to it. Or at least the ones I date. It's a breath of fresh air compared to women in their 30s and 40s who are more set in their ways.

What do these younger women see in me? I have all my hair, I'm in decent shape, and I'm a successful entrpreneur. I think the qualities that are typical with entrepreneurs -- adventure and risk-taking -- are also attractive to women. I'm sure it helps I have money too -- I've heard stories how they have dates guys their age and the guys are immature and also can't afford to take them out. I can sympathize -- I was that way in my 20s too.

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Anonymous wrote:Younger women are prettier, have better bodies, and most important, they have better personalities. I'm a 56 year old man dating a 27 year old.

Prettier-fair skinned women, yes. Everyone else loses that little girl cheek-chub, snout-nose as they get fuller into womanhood. Better bodies-mmm NE maybe, otherwise gen x has a smaller waist circumference and bmi than millennials. Better personalities--I'll definitely give you this one as same or better for girls. UVa Gen X has the racists raised on the spock books. There are even shows from the 2000s with the term "the cool slash mean girls"-Justin from Ugly Betty.

And there you have it, ladies. You become less attractive as you age because you lose your “snout-nose.”

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Anonymous wrote:To hell with fertility. Younger women are prettier, they choose to be prettier, and they are less cranky.

Well, youth is beauty- so, I don’t know about choosing to be prettier. Less CRANKY-absolutely. Less stress, responsibilities and disappointment. They are fresh and even if you marry them, you have a good run before life makes them jaded. Hopefully, they will be financially dependent on you and unable to leave once the cruel realities set in.

Aside from beauty, they’re also sexual powehouses. They need sex just as bad as men do and anyone whos been in a relationship with lopsided drives knows how painful that can be. They’re still interested in having fun, trying new things and care about pleasing their partner.

Well, you got the “care about pleasing their partner” part right, specifically about locking the partner down. If you talk to most women in their mid-thirties and up, they will tell you their early 20s days was their least orgasmic time. Enthusiastic fun, yes- orgasms, not so much.

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60 year old woman here and I’d love to bang a 40 year old. Not gonna happen. They’re still hot but not creepy young. Cannot imagine desiring a 25 year old. Sure they look gorgeous, but waaay too Oedipal.

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Anonymous wrote:Man here in his 40s. I've dated many women in their 20s. Younger women, on average, are more attractive than older women.

The ones I've dated have been adventurous, inquisitive, and fun. When we're out and I suggest going to try something new, they're open to it. Or at least the ones I date. It's a breath of fresh air compared to women in their 30s and 40s who are more set in their ways.

What do these younger women see in me? I have all my hair, I'm in decent shape, and I'm a successful entrpreneur. I think the qualities that are typical with entrepreneurs -- adventure and risk-taking -- are also attractive to women. I'm sure it helps I have money too -- I've heard stories how they have dates guys their age and the guys are immature and also can't afford to take them out. I can sympathize -- I was that way in my 20s too.

So lets say this plays out. This is what I see. Tell me if I'm making any sense. Men don't mature enough for women till they are 43 and increasingly men only find younger women attractive who I guess just finish college around 23? So then do the women quit working and have babies without much of a career? They have a child around age 47-50. Their kid or kids are 10-13 when this guy is 60. I guess this guy is busy with sleepless nights from age 50-60 or cheating on his wife and then dies at 65 due to so much stress in old age from the kids and years of working. The kids lose their dad before they become adults. The woman goes into poverty since she's never worked and the children have to help support her. They are also immature and work till they are 45 and then find a woman who is in their 20's.

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Anonymous wrote:Man here in his 40s. I've dated many women in their 20s. Younger women, on average, are more attractive than older women.

The ones I've dated have been adventurous, inquisitive, and fun. When we're out and I suggest going to try something new, they're open to it. Or at least the ones I date. It's a breath of fresh air compared to women in their 30s and 40s who are more set in their ways.

What do these younger women see in me? I have all my hair, I'm in decent shape, and I'm a successful entrpreneur. I think the qualities that are typical with entrepreneurs -- adventure and risk-taking -- are also attractive to women. I'm sure it helps I have money too -- I've heard stories how they have dates guys their age and the guys are immature and also can't afford to take them out. I can sympathize -- I was that way in my 20s too.

So lets say this plays out. This is what I see. Tell me if I'm making any sense. Men don't mature enough for women till they are 43 and increasingly men only find younger women attractive who I guess just finish college around 23? So then do the women quit working and have babies without much of a career? They have a child around age 47-50. Their kid or kids are 10-13 when this guy is 60. I guess this guy is busy with sleepless nights from age 50-60 or cheating on his wife and then dies at 65 due to so much stress in old age from the kids and years of working. The kids lose their dad before they become adults. The woman goes into poverty since she's never worked and the children have to help support her. They are also immature and work till they are 45 and then find a woman who is in their 20's.

This makes a whole lot of whacky assumptions.

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Anonymous wrote:Man here in his 40s. I've dated many women in their 20s. Younger women, on average, are more attractive than older women.

The ones I've dated have been adventurous, inquisitive, and fun. When we're out and I suggest going to try something new, they're open to it. Or at least the ones I date. It's a breath of fresh air compared to women in their 30s and 40s who are more set in their ways.

What do these younger women see in me? I have all my hair, I'm in decent shape, and I'm a successful entrpreneur. I think the qualities that are typical with entrepreneurs -- adventure and risk-taking -- are also attractive to women. I'm sure it helps I have money too -- I've heard stories how they have dates guys their age and the guys are immature and also can't afford to take them out. I can sympathize -- I was that way in my 20s too.

So lets say this plays out. This is what I see. Tell me if I'm making any sense. Men don't mature enough for women till they are 43 and increasingly men only find younger women attractive who I guess just finish college around 23? So then do the women quit working and have babies without much of a career? They have a child around age 47-50. Their kid or kids are 10-13 when this guy is 60. I guess this guy is busy with sleepless nights from age 50-60 or cheating on his wife and then dies at 65 due to so much stress in old age from the kids and years of working. The kids lose their dad before they become adults. The woman goes into poverty since she's never worked and the children have to help support her. They are also immature and work till they are 45 and then find a woman who is in their 20's.

You're assuming all people want to get married have a family, when the trend is not in that direction at all:

https://ct.counseling.org/2021/12/growing-percentage-of-american-adults-are-living-single/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men of all ages prefer young women because they're more fertile. That's how human beings are wired. We're animals, remember?

Man here, this is it, full stop. I am 45 and its just a primal thing. I wouldn't date a 25 year old because I would feel foolish (and old around her) but from a pure attraction, all else being equal, younger women are super attractive.

And I am not picking on women, younger men have better bodies (and better stamina) than older men like me.

Of course, there is more to attraction than just a hot body, and I find lots of women my age hot. But lets not complicate why men of all ages find young women hot. It's simple biology.

[Anonymous]

Ok. I should have titled the thread. Why do older men only want to date and marry younger women. Obviously the attraction is always there for younger people. I was more interested in why older men stay and seek out younger women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is such a silly thread. I know that DCUM women think they're special and that having babies in your 40s is the norm, but from a strictly biological standpoint women are most fertile 20 years earlier than that. And that, alone, explains why men are more attracted to them. While many men don't act on the attraction and stay with women their own age, that doesn't change the attraction itself.

But often these men don't even want their own kids with the woman they had sex with in their 20's and 30's. So what's the draw for 50-60 year old divorced man to a 20 year old? I can find a 20 year old man to be attractive/hot and also not feel any emotional/romantic connection to him. I don't want to party with him or hang out with younger people all day. Or have pressure to have a child in my 40's or adopt in my 50's. None of the lifestyle is attractive. Some of these older men marry these 25 year olds.

As someone else said, it's evolutionary. It's not something that you need to think about. I don't know why simple biology is so hard for people on DCUM to understand. It's been explained like two or three times in this thread alone. Do you understand that evolution is the process of adapting for survival over many different environments over a loooooong period of time? Young women are attractive because they can have babies easily and this promotes survival of the species. Men can have kids easily at pretty much any age. The end.

Paternal investment ensures the survival of the species. Please read on k-selection vs. r-selection. Promiscuous paternity creates lives that are nasty, brutish, and short.

Nothing that I said conflicts with what you said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Looks, young energy, and sex. It’s not that complicated.

This. The people looking for some deep meaning crack me up.