Will my kids eventually ask to move into a full/queen bed?

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My son has a full. I think it is great. BFFs kids all have full sized beds.

Would they all be perfectly fine in twin beds. ABSOLUTELY.

Twin beds are fine.

[Anonymous]

Ha! That kind of bed wouldn't fit in their rooms.

Americans and their huge spaces...

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I slept on a twin bed through HS, through college, until I moved out. My parents bought me my first real grown up (full bed). Very grateful- I've been totally self sufficient otherwise.

Still have no idea how I slept with other people on a twin bed....

This is one of the reasons why teens do not not need anything more than a twin bed. Twin beds are sufficient for one person. When my oldest moves out, I will put in larger bed for guests (him included), and remove the desk, lizard aquarium, etc.

I don't think this is a good line of reasoning.

I let my son have a full bed when he was 16. The twin he had previously was about to fall apart. We were looking at bed frames and he asked if he could get a full sized bed. My daughter got one a year after that when she was 12, as a good friend was moving into her partner's house and asked if we wanted it for our guest room or something. We said sure, and gave it to our DD. Why not?

We actually discussed this as my husband was a bit more wary of it. But ultimately, we knew that if two teens were going to hook up, they would. Twin bed, full bed, queen, king, etc... We would rather give them a full bed (which hopefully they would clean meticulously themselves so we didn't findout then walk into our bedroom and find the bed a mess with no care taken at all to clean up. Or the living room. Or kitchen. Or car.

It just seems silly to say, "You can't have a bigger/more comfortable bed because you might have sex on it!" just over the possibility it might somehow be the one factor that convinces a teenage they want to have sex with a girl.

And no, I'm not a crazy 'sex-positive' mom. I'm a 60 year old geezer with too much time on her hands. I would hope my children would abstain from sex until they were older because they knew they were not mature enough as teens. But they are teens. I've been a teenager before. I certainly wasn't an easy kid to parent as a teen, and neither was my husband. We can teach them as much as possible about the choice, and explain the specific dangers while preaching responsibility, but ultimately we can't make the choice for them.

Why I get frustrated with this idea is that it flies very close to the reasons we do not have comprehensive sexual health education for our youth. If the United States offered a decent class on health including topics on birth control, STIs/STDs, sexual anatomy, relationships, sexual ethics (sexual assault, rape, consent, date rate/date rate drugs, etc), I would every cent of my money on sexual activity among the youth declining, teenage pregnancy plummeting, STD/STI infection rates slowing, etc. And I'm pretty confident I would make a fortune.

[Anonymous]

My tall DD wanted a bigger bed for Christmas and I relented. Part of the problem for her was that the bed I'd chosen for her as a baby has a footboard and it's not the kind where you can take it off. Now she's technically not so tall as to hit the footboard if she stayed exactly in one spot, but after you add a pillow etc if you move around, it was annoying. So since I was going for another frame anyways, I ended up buying the larger bed.

I don't think anyone *needs* a bigger bed unless they are really tall. But watch the bedframe that you buy; don't have a non-removable footboard!

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Anonymous wrote:Mom of toddler and ES kid here. Both are/will be in twin beds because we had received some through family. As kids get older/bigger will they naturally ask for bigger beds? We are thinking about future furniture needs to make some design decisions. If it makes a difference, both are boys and I expect they will be tall.

We started our kids out in twin beds, but when we built our house, we left enough room for full beds. When our oldest, now 6'1", was in high school and needed a new mattress, he asked for a bigger bed, so we got him one. Since we were buying new mattresses anyway, we asked our middle son if he also wanted a bigger bed and he said no. We asked him again on several occasions, and he always said he was fine with his twin bed. In the meantime, our youngest had also asked for and gotten a full bed when we re-decorated her room before she started high school (she's 5'10").

Fast forward: when our middle son got his first post-college apartment, he bought a queen bed at IKEA, assembled it, and said "Wow! This is so much more comfortable. How come you guys never asked me if I wanted to get a bigger bed?" Basically, he's the kid who always declines our suggestions and later, when we've given up on the idea, finally tries out whatever it was, then asks, humorously, "How come you guys never suggested that I (fill in the blank: take Spanish, travel on a service trip, etc., etc.?") Eventually, he tries many of the things we suggest to him and really enjoys them, but he has to do it on his own schedule. This is why kids are so entertaining.

[Anonymous]

We just moved and went from an apartment where only a full bed would fit in our room. We got a queen and gave our 3 year old our full. She regularly asks for her "cozy" crib back or if she can get a cot at home like she has at daycare. I don't want to get rid of the double, but we might at some point of she keeps asking to go smaller. I had a twin until I was 23. I doubt given our heights and her current height that our DD will be much more than 5'2" or 5'3".

[Anonymous]

If you have the space and the money, you can get larger sized beds for your kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Why not buy a queen when they are out of the crib? We did that. That's what they always had. It's not much more expensive.

Some of you seem gleeful that your kids have tiny beds.

Why? That just seems ridiculous. Most of the world's population doesn't sleep on beds that big. None of my kids would have wanted a bed that large to themselves. It's just weird.

[Anonymous]

If any of your kids are going to West Point, USNA, Air Force Academy, Officer Candidate School for any branch of service, or just the military in general, they'll be sleeping in twin beds--because they're big enough for everyone.

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Anonymous wrote:I had a twin bed until I moved out at 23 and bought a queen. My brother had a twin until he moved out at 25 and bought a queen.

Neither of us ever asked for a bigger bed. It never occurred to me.

Same. Around HS age I started wanting a bigger bed because my brother had a full and it looked much more comfortable, but it wouldn't have occurred to me to ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mom of toddler and ES kid here. Both are/will be in twin beds because we had received some through family. As kids get older/bigger will they naturally ask for bigger beds? We are thinking about future furniture needs to make some design decisions. If it makes a difference, both are boys and I expect they will be tall.

OP, they may, but then they may also ask for i-phones at 10 and BMWs at 16. Do you plan to give them everything they want?

[Anonymous]

DD loves her king and refuses to downsize

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not buy a queen when they are out of the crib? We did that. That's what they always had. It's not much more expensive.

Some of you seem gleeful that your kids have tiny beds.

Why? That just seems ridiculous. Most of the world's population doesn't sleep on beds that big. None of my kids would have wanted a bed that large to themselves. It's just weird.

As a teen, I made a deal with my mother to earn and pay for half of a queen sized bed. I don't sleep well, but do much better if I can spread out and have my arms supported. The few times I've had to sleep on a twin since my teen years were miserable I have no idea how anyone if average size sleeps in a twin comfortably. Maybe if I was not such a light sleeper, it woukd be easier. If I had no choice, I'd take a twin over a floor, but I'm glad I wasn't stuck with a twin. Even married, we have a king and I wish it was about twice its size. The only saving grace is that dh doesn't spread out, so I get my half and half of his side. Still, the minute he gets up I shift into the middle.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is 16 and has never asked because he knows the answer.

No kid needs a bigger bed tan a twin.

Same here. I didn't have a full sized bed until after I graduated from college. My kids are in the bunk beds my brother and I had growing up.

Same here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If any of your kids are going to West Point, USNA, Air Force Academy, Officer Candidate School for any branch of service, or just the military in general, they'll be sleeping in twin beds--because they're big enough for everyone.

Just one more reason my kids will never go the military route!