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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I slept on a twin bed through HS, through college, until I moved out. My parents bought me my first real grown up (full bed). Very grateful- I've been totally self sufficient otherwise.

[b]Still have no idea how I slept with other people on a twin bed..[/b]..[/quote]

This is one of the reasons why teens do not not need anything more than a twin bed.  Twin beds are sufficient for one person.  When my oldest moves out, I will put in larger bed for guests (him included), and remove the desk, lizard aquarium, etc. [/quote]

I don't think this is a good line of reasoning.

I let my son have a full bed when he was 16. The twin he had previously was about to fall apart. We were looking at bed frames and he asked if he could get a full sized bed. My daughter got one a year after that when she was 12, as a good friend was moving into her partner's house and asked if we wanted it for our guest room or something. We said sure, and gave it to our DD. Why not?

We actually discussed this as my husband was a bit more wary of it. But ultimately, we knew that if two teens were going to hook up, they would. Twin bed, full bed, queen, king, etc... We would rather give them a full bed (which hopefully they would clean meticulously themselves so we didn't findout then walk into our bedroom and find the bed a mess with no care taken at all to clean up. Or the living room. Or kitchen. Or car.

It just seems silly to say, "You can't have a bigger/more comfortable bed because you might have sex on it!" just over the possibility it might somehow be the one factor that convinces a teenage they want to have sex with a girl.

And no, I'm not a crazy 'sex-positive' mom. I'm a 60 year old geezer with too much time on her hands. I would hope my children would abstain from sex until they were older because they knew they were not mature enough as teens. But they are teens. I've been a teenager before. I certainly wasn't an easy kid to parent as a teen, and neither was my husband. We can teach them as much as possible about the choice, and explain the specific dangers while preaching responsibility, but ultimately we can't make the choice for them.

Why I get frustrated with this idea is that it flies very close to the reasons we do not have comprehensive sexual health education for our youth. If the United States offered a decent class on health including topics on birth control, STIs/STDs, sexual anatomy, relationships, sexual ethics (sexual assault, rape, consent, date rate/date rate drugs, etc), I would every cent of my money on sexual activity among the youth declining, teenage pregnancy plummeting, STD/STI infection rates slowing, etc. And I'm pretty confident I would make a fortune.  [/quote]

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