Do you know people who are "perfect"?

[Anonymous]

Speaking as someone who is thought to some as being "perfect" or "near perfect".

I was always considered to be beautiful, went to a great school, good family, parents still married, I married very very well, very successful husband, 4 kids (3 went to college for athletics), live in a beautiful home, have second and third home, have lots of friends and a good social standing, the list goes on.....to many I seem to live a perfect charmed life.

What NO ONE knows- my husband and I fight more than I think is normal, I often sleep in another room, my oldest daughter had an eating disorder (even when everyone thought she was so beautiful and skinny)! I have suffered from mild depression, and I have my share of bad days. The thing is I am super private and not even my closest friends know most of what i just revealed here. To many and fact most, I am "that perfect person" but I am here to tell you that they simply do not exist.

[Anonymous]

Of course "perfect people" exist.

I think that this also in all likelihood follows a bell curve i.e. most people are bunched in the middles and have lives with highs and lows. But we all know those few unlucky people who have lives completely blighted by tragedy and illness and at the other end of the bell curve, there are people who just seem to have it all and probably do. They are rare but they do exist.

[Anonymous]

i know someone like this. she's attractive, has a great personality, makes friends really easily, and had great grades in school and a great professional career. she also has great personal style, is thin, and has an adoring husband and a giant engagement ring/wedding set. came from a wealthy family too. entire family is gorgeous.

meh. i sure wish everything came to me as easily as it seems to with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i know someone like this. she's attractive, has a great personality, makes friends really easily, and had great grades in school and a great professional career. she also has great personal style, is thin, and has an adoring husband and a giant engagement ring/wedding set. came from a wealthy family too. entire family is gorgeous.

meh. i sure wish everything came to me as easily as it seems to with her.

As someone who could easily be the person you described and who knows..maybe am! I can assure you there is not perfection in her life, but it might seem it. I also find that people hold me to a certain standard and I find it hard to try and break that so work very hard to live up to what everyone expects of me and my life, but they don't know what goes on in my private life behind closed doors.

NO such thing as perfect, period! Some who have more than others, yes of course.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend's sorority sister is beautiful, perfectly fit physically, went to Yale, comes from money, was president of her college sorority, cooks so well she could've opened a restaurant, founded a non-profit, is published, has an interesting and creative career, is the life of the party, has dozens of equally beautiful, smart, interesting friends who seem to love her unconditionally, a constant crowd of attractive male admirers who occasionally fight over her, and seems to get along great with everyone in her attractive, happy family.

She makes me feel extremely inadequate.

She seems amazing, I want to be her friend.

Really great, strong, high achieving women make me strive and re-plan my strategies.

But is this friend married? For all you know, she could have major romance problems, even with all of these attractive men fighting over her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, some perfect SAHM moms who do marathons etc.

I'd run some marathons if I was a SAHMS too. What the hell else would I have to do all day with my time. They are the worst!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, some perfect SAHM moms who do marathons etc.

I find that people who run marathons are incredibly boring. I'm talking about the amateurs whose goal is to finish or qualify, not actual runners who are competitive in the race. These adults are trying to pretend they have some kind of athletic career long after the ship has sailed. It doesn't impress me and it's bad for the human body. And this ain't sour grapes because I actually did have an athletic career.

Seriously agree. So, so boring!! And then they will send me that annoying email to my work address asking me to donate $10 because they are running for some cause. I care about the cause, so I'll donate, but I could give 2-shi!$ about the fact that you are running some 5k'er.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, some perfect SAHM moms who do marathons etc.

I find that people who run marathons are incredibly boring. I'm talking about the amateurs whose goal is to finish or qualify, not actual runners who are competitive in the race. These adults are trying to pretend they have some kind of athletic career long after the ship has sailed. It doesn't impress me and it's bad for the human body. And this ain't sour grapes because I actually did have an athletic career.

Me too. I've run 7. 3:40 range . They were all pre- kids-- last one at 32.

I am now in my early 40s and having to suffer hearing about every dolts 5k , etc. the 13.1, 26.2 , Etc. Stickers on cars. Seriously?

I just liked to run. I didn't post about it or tell everyone.

[Anonymous]

This thread is making me depressed. I was hoping that somebody would post and say that, yes, they were a very lucky person who was beautiful, happily married, rich, and very happy. It makes me sad to think everybody in the whole world is miserable secretly. Is that what humanity is? A sea of total pain?

Come on: somebody tell me that at least one person has had a charmed, happy life, that it is them (and they should be over 40, or they haven't lived long enough)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty awesome and have it pretty good. But I'm stressed that the good times might not last. My level of worry never really changes. When things get rough, I'm focused on legitimate problems. When things are good, I worry more than I should about small problems. I want things I can't have and don't sufficiently appreciate the things I do have.

Life is fractal. There are outliers, but my thinking is that - within a fairly narrow range - most people's subjective enjoyment of their own lives is pretty similar.

I think your imperfection is anxiety. You're always waiting for the other shoe to drop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Speaking as someone who is thought to some as being "perfect" or "near perfect".

I was always considered to be beautiful, went to a great school, good family, parents still married, I married very very well, very successful husband, 4 kids (3 went to college for athletics), live in a beautiful home, have second and third home, have lots of friends and a good social standing, the list goes on.....to many I seem to live a perfect charmed life.

What NO ONE knows- my husband and I fight more than I think is normal, I often sleep in another room, my oldest daughter had an eating disorder (even when everyone thought she was so beautiful and skinny)! I have suffered from mild depression, and I have my share of bad days. The thing is I am super private and not even my closest friends know most of what i just revealed here. To many and fact most, I am "that perfect person" but I am here to tell you that they simply do not exist.

That sounds burdensome. Why do you feel you can't confide in anyone about your troubles? Maybe it would help?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course "perfect people" exist.

I think that this also in all likelihood follows a bell curve i.e. most people are bunched in the middles and have lives with highs and lows. But we all know those few unlucky people who have lives completely blighted by tragedy and illness and at the other end of the bell curve, there are people who just seem to have it all and probably do. They are rare but they do exist.

I like you and think your friends are lucky to have you.
Many other responses are full of envy, it's sad. Live and let live, people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, some perfect SAHM moms who do marathons etc.

I'd run some marathons if I was a SAHMS too. What the hell else would I have to do all day with my time. They are the worst!!

No, PP, judgmental assholes with a bad case of sour grapes are actually the worst.

[Anonymous]

Here is the thing about "perfect" women - they are perfectionists and I find them to be somewhat fake and superficial although very nice. I have never been able to have true friendships with these type of women.

It is not that I envy them. I don't..Well, maybe I envy their bodies but not the work it takes to maintain such a body.

Kate Middleton is an example of this type of gal. These women strive so hard to stay thin, get good grades, be perfect in social situations, smile, get the right gift, throw the "right" party, etc, etc, that they are sort of like robots without interesting personalities....They never let you see them cry or look bad or get angry or be real. So that is why I don't like to hang out with them. I say - get real.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, some perfect SAHM moms who do marathons etc.

I'd run some marathons if I was a SAHMS too. What the hell else would I have to do all day with my time. They are the worst!!

No, PP, judgmental assholes with a bad case of sour grapes are actually the worst.

Oh, go have a run.