Platonic "lip kissing" between friends and family members

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My family/close friends do it. Close friends being 5 people or so. I grew up in St. Louis and my family is German and Swedish if that helps you make any sense.

My German family also does this. I don't know why people get so freaked out about kissing on the lips. It's not like we're making out or something. It's just a peck.

Interesting - my dad is the only one I know who does this - and he is German (though he is 3rd generation - although, even his parents were still pretty connected back to Germany).

[Anonymous]

My dh and I arent affectionate anymore. So I kiss my 18 mo on the lips and he kisses me back. In a non sexual way of course but it fills the void. Also dh has been sleeping on the living room couch since ds was born. So ds and I co sleep I love the feeling of warmth from ds

[Anonymous]

Y'all are hilarious. So much neurosis here, it's hard to even know where to start.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dh and I arent affectionate anymore. So I kiss my 18 mo on the lips and he kisses me back. In a non sexual way of course but it fills the void. Also dh has been sleeping on the living room couch since ds was born. So ds and I co sleep I love the feeling of warmth from ds

Is this a troll comment? If not PP, I think you need to figure out why you're substituting your husband, with your son. This sounds really unhealthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dh and I arent affectionate anymore. So I kiss my 18 mo on the lips and he kisses me back. In a non sexual way of course but it fills the void. Also dh has been sleeping on the living room couch since ds was born. So ds and I co sleep I love the feeling of warmth from ds

Is this a troll comment? If not PP, I think you need to figure out why you're substituting your husband, with your son. This sounds really unhealthy.

Not trolling. Dh has checked out of the relationship. Ifs like hes here but hes not. Anyways I love kissing my son all the time face lips etc. My mom was not affectionate with me so im traveling down an unbeaten path

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only person I kiss on the lips is my husband.
I don't freak out if other people kiss on the lips in a nonsexual way. I'm just not used to it. In my family, we're more into hugging than kissing.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dh and I arent affectionate anymore. So I kiss my 18 mo on the lips and he kisses me back. In a non sexual way of course but it fills the void. Also dh has been sleeping on the living room couch since ds was born. So ds and I co sleep I love the feeling of warmth from ds

Is this a troll comment? If not PP, I think you need to figure out why you're substituting your husband, with your son. This sounds really unhealthy.

Not trolling. Dh has checked out of the relationship. Ifs like hes here but hes not. Anyways I love kissing my son all the time face lips etc. My mom was not affectionate with me so im traveling down an unbeaten path

Please stop trying to make your son into your husband. Do you not see how disturbed you sound?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dh and I arent affectionate anymore. So I kiss my 18 mo on the lips and he kisses me back. In a non sexual way of course but it fills the void. Also dh has been sleeping on the living room couch since ds was born. So ds and I co sleep I love the feeling of warmth from ds

Is this a troll comment? If not PP, I think you need to figure out why you're substituting your husband, with your son. This sounds really unhealthy.

Not trolling. Dh has checked out of the relationship. Ifs like hes here but hes not. Anyways I love kissing my son all the time face lips etc. My mom was not affectionate with me so im traveling down an unbeaten path

The marital problems are one thing, and affection with your child is fine, but it sounds like you're trying to substitute what's missing from your spouse, with your child. Are you in therapy? Personal, marital, or otherwise?

[Anonymous]

My mom tries to kiss me on the lips (I'm 40), and I dodge it.

I think it's only ok between spouses and from parents to very little kids. I love getting kisses on the lips from my 4 year old but don't do it with my 7 year old.

[Anonymous]

I'm Portuguese and we don't kiss on the lips. We do cheek kisses.

Sorry, I think kissing on the lips other than a partner is gross. (but I have germ problems) My kids at their age don't want to kiss on the lips either, they don't mind the cheek kisses.

[Anonymous]

My dad used to do that and I think I Dodd as a small child but outgrew it by early elementary. I don't remember thinking my dad judging me was odd, but I always hatred it because his breath smelled like booze. My moms side of the family isn't at all touchy feely. I'm not particularly affectionate but I think it's generally ok to kiss a small child on the lips. It's just not something I choose to do and if our happens I'll wipe my mouth first chance I get.in general lip kidding grosses me out except with close family members.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am profoundly uncomfortable with this behavior but I was born and raised here.

+1 and I was born and raised in E Europe. Not the norm in my home country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dh and I arent affectionate anymore. So I kiss my 18 mo on the lips and he kisses me back. In a non sexual way of course but it fills the void. Also dh has been sleeping on the living room couch since ds was born. So ds and I co sleep I love the feeling of warmth from ds

Is this a troll comment? If not PP, I think you need to figure out why you're substituting your husband, with your son. This sounds really unhealthy.

Not trolling. Dh has checked out of the relationship. Ifs like hes here but hes not. Anyways I love kissing my son all the time face lips etc. My mom was not affectionate with me so im traveling down an unbeaten path

Maybe he didn't like being kicked out of his bed to sleep on the couch. {ut your don to bed in another room and ask your husband to sleep with you. It will likely do wonders for your marriage.

[Anonymous]

My family does it (American). I kiss my mom & dad on the lips still but not my sister (cheek). My husband's family also does it to some degree (sometimes my SILs peck me on the lips). I also have some friends male & female who do this (I don't initiate). I kiss my 3 kids on the lips. I'm fine either way. If left to me, i'd actually kiss (vs air kiss) someone on the cheek but i'm mostly fine if someone pecks on mouth. There are so many bigger things to lose sleep over!

[Anonymous]

Ick, no. Cold sores are caused by herpes virus, which can be transmitted through kissing. Not worth it when you probably don't want that smooch from grandpa anyway.