4th grade girls mocking “preppy” girls

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do they mean when they say preppy?

Excellent gooming and a style that mimics those that actually attend a prep school. Duh!

[Anonymous]

My DD is only two, so I am not up on these things (yet). But I’ve heard some things from other moms at our elementary school. My thought is, the more attention paid by moms to these silly interactions between girls, the more they are fueled. Ignore or tell your daughter to knock it off when she brings it up.

[Anonymous]

It’s so sad that our girls’ moral imagination is so limited. Imagine if they put more time into learning how to build, make things, care for each other, learn other languages, or become great creatives or scholars or leaders.

Instead it’s all name calling and clothes and tiktok and memes. Pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s so sad that our girls’ moral imagination is so limited. Imagine if they put more time into learning how to build, make things, care for each other, learn other languages, or become great creatives or scholars or leaders.

Instead it’s all name calling and clothes and tiktok and memes. Pathetic.

Agree BUT they are building a social fabric. If they invested all their time as you say they would be sitting alone most of the time. Social skills are the MOST IMPORTANT skills that are lacking in our society.

[Anonymous]

OP, my DD and I are as far from preppy as you can get, and frankly the preppy girls are mean to DD.

However under no circumstances would I allow my DD to sing a song like you’re describing or hang out with girls while they’re doing so.

It goes both ways.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What do they mean when they say preppy?

Excellent gooming and a style that mimics those that actually attend a prep school. Duh!

Nope, to kids today it means girly. Think Delia’s catalogue: pink, flowers, etc etc.

[Anonymous]

My DD (4th grade) told me one of her friends said her style is preppy and I thought it was a compliment lol. Whatever. There is nothing wrong with being put together or having a style. FWIW my DD is not preppy -- she likes ripped jeans, t-shirts from places we've visited (think Colorado, Hershey park, I Heart NYC), anything with a Chicago sports logo and sweatshirts so clearly these kids have no clue what is preppy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My sixth grader and friends use preppy as a term of endearment. Like calling each other “preppy prepster.”

I don’t fully understand what they mean but it’s not the green/pink preppy aesthetic of my youth.

From my understanding it is the new term for what used to be called “basic”

Think Stanley Cups and lululemon clothes all the time, into luxury trendy skincare and/or makeup

This isn’t my middle school daughter, but I’ve never heard her or anyone making fun of them.

I have no idea what the male version of preppy now is

Sounds like 40 year old soccer moms

Nah. I'm a soccer mom because my kid plays soccer. But personally...I'm an Old Goth.

[Anonymous]

It’s the bastardized Southern rush version of “preppy,” newly translated into athleisure with a hint of that Victoria’s Secret PINK style.

Maybe what you or I would have called “teeny-bopper” back in the day, but with more saturated colors, higher quality but kore expensive name-brand items

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve heard girls making fun of “preppy” girls, none by name, at pickup. It doesn’t seem to be targeting or involving my DC, who doesn’t sing the songs but has at least 1 friend who does. This friend is a pain and hyper social, in terms of crushes and gossip, and her mom is an old Goth. Is “preppy” a thing, or a kind of catch-all like “basic” or “girlie”? I don’t like the idea of making fun of girls (it’s not being directed to boys!) for not caring about style at young ages. Is this a current thing?

It's the opposite. Those girls are jealous of the girls whose parents buy them all the latest trends (a Stanley, Lulu/Athleta/Abercrombie).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do they mean when they say preppy?

Excellent gooming and a style that mimics those that actually attend a prep school. Duh!

Nope, to kids today it means girly. Think Delia’s catalogue: pink, flowers, etc etc.

Have you ever seen a Delia’s catalog in your life? Serious question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve heard girls making fun of “preppy” girls, none by name, at pickup. It doesn’t seem to be targeting or involving my DC, who doesn’t sing the songs but has at least 1 friend who does. This friend is a pain and hyper social, in terms of crushes and gossip, and her mom is an old Goth. Is “preppy” a thing, or a kind of catch-all like “basic” or “girlie”? I don’t like the idea of making fun of girls (it’s not being directed to boys!) for not caring about style at young ages. Is this a current thing?

It's the opposite. Those girls are jealous of the girls whose parents buy them all the latest trends (a Stanley, Lulu/Athleta/Abercrombie).

Mocking Stanley cups is definitely a thing at my kid’s private school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve heard girls making fun of “preppy” girls, none by name, at pickup. It doesn’t seem to be targeting or involving my DC, who doesn’t sing the songs but has at least 1 friend who does. This friend is a pain and hyper social, in terms of crushes and gossip, and her mom is an old Goth. Is “preppy” a thing, or a kind of catch-all like “basic” or “girlie”? I don’t like the idea of making fun of girls (it’s not being directed to boys!) for not caring about style at young ages. Is this a current thing?

It's the opposite. Those girls are jealous of the girls whose parents buy them all the latest trends (a Stanley, Lulu/Athleta/Abercrombie).

This!

It means your daughter is in the fringe crowd. Not a bad thing. It just is what it is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do they mean when they say preppy?

Excellent gooming and a style that mimics those that actually attend a prep school. Duh!

Nope, to kids today it means girly. Think Delia’s catalogue: pink, flowers, etc etc.

Have you ever seen a Delia’s catalog in your life? Serious question.

DP
I had to Google this because I seriously didn't know what it was. in my generation preppy meant literally to emulate prep school fashion and what those kids did - chinos, collared shirts, cashmere and wool sweaters, lots of color in the summer, cute sundresses, tennis skirts, etc. Kids still dress this way at DD's prep school but the brands have changed from JCrew, Banana Republic, Abercrombie, and United Colors Of Benneton to Lulu, LoveShack Fancy, Altered State, and have added more accessories like expensive handbags and Stanley. Same thing different names. So yeah, it's still a copy of what rich prep girls are doing. It's still fashionable and to mock it means you don't fit in for whatever reason.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do they mean when they say preppy?

Excellent gooming and a style that mimics those that actually attend a prep school. Duh!

Nope, to kids today it means girly. Think Delia’s catalogue: pink, flowers, etc etc.

Have you ever seen a Delia’s catalog in your life? Serious question.

DP
I had to Google this because I seriously didn't know what it was. in my generation preppy meant literally to emulate prep school fashion and what those kids did - chinos, collared shirts, cashmere and wool sweaters, lots of color in the summer, cute sundresses, tennis skirts, etc. Kids still dress this way at DD's prep school but the brands have changed from JCrew, Banana Republic, Abercrombie, and United Colors Of Benneton to Lulu, LoveShack Fancy, Altered State, and have added more accessories like expensive handbags and Stanley. Same thing different names. So yeah, it's still a copy of what rich prep girls are doing. It's still fashionable and to mock it means you don't fit in for whatever reason.

…ok? That has nothing to do with the comment you’re responding to.