Teen, Male, Sleeping with Dad and Stepmom in Same Hotel Room
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Anonymous
No, because it's not his mother and he's a teenager. |
Anonymous
OP, is your son really uncomfortable with it, or are you the one who has the issue? Different families have different rules when it comes to things like this. Personally, I would not see it as an issue unless I had other reasons to mistrust the ex or the step-mom. And actually going as far as having a pediatrician write your ex a note about your son's discomfort with nudity, I don't know. That in itself would embarrass the average teenager far more than seeing his stepmom's panties. And it makes you sound not entirely rational. Please don't take this the wrong way. You have a long and painful history with this man (or else you wouldn't be divorced) and throwing a nearly grown child and a stepmom into the mix, I can't imagine being perfectly calm and rational in this situation either. But unless this is a frequent situation and a major source of embarrassment and discomfort for your child, and unless your child actually wants you to intervene on his behalf, I would take a deep breath and let it go. If your son would prefer to stay in his own room next time, he can say so to dad and stepmom. |
Anonymous
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methinks you are meddling far too much, OP. first you talk to a doctor about this, then you post it here?
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Anonymous
| As a stepmom who shared a hotel room with DH and DSS, and as a child who shared a hotel room with brother and parents, the only thing inappropriate is the panties piece. Pajama bottoms, sweats, shorts, all good. Underwear, not cool. |
Anonymous
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Unless your son asked you to intervene on his behalf because he is uncomfortable about it, you are the Blackhawk of parents.
If you son did not ask you to intervene, keep it to yourself. Having the pediatrician write that note was over the top. |
Anonymous
They ain't havin sex. Ugh. I'm not sure who annoys me more the too controlling ex's or the too controlling nexts. |
Anonymous
| My question to my son??? Did she look better than me? No! Oh please by all means tell her. |
Anonymous
| She needs to put on pants and you're within your rights telling them that. But sleeping in the same hotel room is fine. If you have a problem for it, offer to spring for a separate hotel room for your DS. Otherwise, butt out. Families share hotel rooms on vacation all the time and it's NBD. |
Anonymous
Agreed, NBD. I can't believe you went to your pediatrician. 
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Anonymous
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NP, just curious what folks would think if the child was a young teen girl and it was a new stepdad in his underwear?
Agree that the issue is clothing, not the shared room. I imagine that the OP was trying to use the authority of the ped to get the stepmom to put some clothes on. Has the boy just asked her directly? |
Anonymous
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OP, how did you find out she was walking around in her panties? I agree she should throw on a little more clothing.
How old is stepmom, younger than you? |
Anonymous
Oh, come on -- you really have to ask? If the stepmom was 55, this would not be an issue. |
Anonymous
LOL, I couldn't help myself just had to ask. |
Anonymous
| Underwear is no less revealing than a swimsuit. I really don't see the issue. There must be more to this story, otherwise OP sounds controlling and bitter. |
Anonymous
Maybe the thought that both her ex and now possibly her teenage son could be turned on by this woman is driving OP a little nuts. |