Teen, Male, Sleeping with Dad and Stepmom in Same Hotel Room

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. First post since my original post. Stepmom isn't some hot young thing. No jealousy there. We'd been split for years when they met. I didn't contact the pediatrician but the topic came up in a discussion about other things and the pediatrician sounded like my ex needed a reminder on a few dating/boundary basics. My son has mentioned boundary issues to me with regard to their sleeping arrangements and other things. He's all I care about here. Really when it comes to stepmoms and bio moms, too many people are looking for a cat fight. That said, if I dated a man with a teenage son, I'm not sleeping in the same bed in the same hotel room with his dad. I don't think it's cool. YMMV.

Given that your son is all you care about here, aren't you placing him in a difficult position by having the pediatrician write that letter (not buying that this is the truth)? Won't his dad confront his son about what he's been telling you?

Is there a problem that you can't address this with your ex who you have been split from for so many years now?

[Anonymous]

17:09 OP here. You are making assumptions. I've tried from the start to address this with my ex. He's the one who told me about the hotel the first time and the tee and then GF's sleeping attire, a tee and underpants, not my son, so I wasn't putting my son in the middle. I did not "have" my pediatrician write a letter. I mentioned this situation, in a conversation about several matters, mainly school, to the pediatrician, who sent a letter, and a copy to me, too. I didn't know a letter was going out until I got my copy. It was a gentle letter about single parents dating with pre-teens and teens in the mix. It didn't mention any specifics.

It always amazes me how accusatory folks can get on DCUM, and how instead of giving someone the benefit of the doubt, they give whatever the opposite of that is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:17:09 OP here. You are making assumptions. I've tried from the start to address this with my ex. He's the one who told me about the hotel the first time and the tee and then GF's sleeping attire, a tee and underpants, not my son, so I wasn't putting my son in the middle. I did not "have" my pediatrician write a letter. I mentioned this situation, in a conversation about several matters, mainly school, to the pediatrician, who sent a letter, and a copy to me, too. I didn't know a letter was going out until I got my copy. It was a gentle letter about single parents dating with pre-teens and teens in the mix. It didn't mention any specifics.

It always amazes me how accusatory folks can get on DCUM, and how instead of giving someone the benefit of the doubt, they give whatever the opposite of that is.

Why did your ex feel compelled to share with you what his wife sleeps in? Your pediatrician sure has a lot of spare time in his practice to bother sending out a "gentle letter" to you and your ex on single parent dating. Now, I totally believe step mom is a young and hot woman.

By the way, do you really call panties/underwear, underpants?

[Anonymous]

Why did your ex feel compelled to share with you what his wife sleeps in? Your pediatrician sure has a lot of spare time in his practice to bother sending out a "gentle letter" to you and your ex on single parent dating. Now, I totally believe step mom is a young and hot woman.

By the way, do you really call panties/underwear, underpants?

[Anonymous]

Is your ex dating this woman or is he married to her? It seems like that matters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did your ex feel compelled to share with you what his wife sleeps in? Your pediatrician sure has a lot of spare time in his practice to bother sending out a "gentle letter" to you and your ex on single parent dating. Now, I totally believe step mom is a young and hot woman.

By the way, do you really call panties/underwear, underpants?

New poster here. Actually this makes more sense. Some doctors care for and fight for their patients. His letter was to BOTH parents.
Keep in mind we (including OP) have no idea what the son said in confidence to the doc.
Op you all (ex, you, and maybe next) probably need couples counseling for your kids sanity.


And I call them underwear or draws. Panties skev (ph) me out.
And yes I have some neon thongs e.g I'm hot.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My son sleeps in one bed, the two of them sleep together in the other.
In the past, she's walked around in her underpants and a tee. In a hotel room.
Our pediatrician already wrote my ex a letter stating this was not ideal.
It happened again this week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son sleeps in one bed, the two of them sleep together in the other.
In the past, she's walked around in her underpants and a tee. In a hotel room.
Our pediatrician already wrote my ex a letter stating this was not ideal.
It happened again this week.

Is she latin? I do that. It’s a thing. My Black friends also have different routines . What’s the big deal? It’s very temporary.

[Anonymous]

You got your ex to describe sleeping attire

Ex is NEVER going to share more important information w you.

I would not. Pick your battles

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did your ex feel compelled to share with you what his wife sleeps in? Your pediatrician sure has a lot of spare time in his practice to bother sending out a "gentle letter" to you and your ex on single parent dating. Now, I totally believe step mom is a young and hot woman.

By the way, do you really call panties/underwear, underpants?

You forget how naive people are! They will get involved if persuaded. I have seen so many naive people get involved in divorces. They look and seem so clueless

[Anonymous]

This post is from 2012

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He should be in his room at this point, not in a room with an adult couple that is in bed together. Totally inappropriate.

It's a hotel room

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did your ex feel compelled to share with you what his wife sleeps in? Your pediatrician sure has a lot of spare time in his practice to bother sending out a "gentle letter" to you and your ex on single parent dating. Now, I totally believe step mom is a young and hot woman.

By the way, do you really call panties/underwear, underpants?

What's wrong with the word underpants?

[Anonymous]

This is a problem. I will just say that my mother and stepfather got one hotel room for us when I was a similar age on a vacation and I remember it and it disgusts me and given the reaction my body has when I think about it it was traumatic. I’ll leave it at that. The pediatrician is correct. Please put a stop to this, OP.

[Anonymous]

“Underpants”