is this the right way to improve a young person EQ?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I took my wife and three kids last conference it is not that crazy

It's one thing to take family. It's another to ask vendors to pay for your family (a bribe) and then to have your kid interfere with your work.

If vendors are ok with it, what’s the issue?

Last I checked, OP wasn't employed by the vendors. Most major companies want vendors with the best products and pricing, not who's best at bribing the company's employees. Is ethics a novel concept for you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I took my wife and three kids last conference it is not that crazy

It's one thing to take family. It's another to ask vendors to pay for your family (a bribe) and then to have your kid interfere with your work.

If vendors are ok with it, what’s the issue?

Last I checked, OP wasn't employed by the vendors. Most major companies want vendors with the best products and pricing, not who's best at bribing the company's employees. Is ethics a novel concept for you?

They do but vendors also want to keep a good networking relationship with OP so they don’t mind helping out the son. That’s how the world operates. I see this all the times.

[Anonymous]

I think it would be weird to bring your kid to practice networking at your conference. I also go to a lot of conferences where people bring spouses or friends. The guests usually are there to enjoy the resort not getting free meals or golf absent special circumstances. I sometimes bring my spouse to events and if a vendor asks me to dinner and I decline because spouse with me they often invite us both. I’ve only accepted when I consider the vendor good company and they’re splurging on a much nicer restaurant than I’d pay on my own.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You need to work on your common sense and EQ. FinTech should fire you.

OP here. Why should they fire me?

It's business, not Take My Kid To Work Trip.

Your kid doesn't work at the company.

This is OP. There are people at the company who have done worse such as taking their spouse to conferences and accepting expensive gifts from vendors. What I am doing is small potatoes compared to them. I will not get fired but putting that aside, the question I have is: if my DS does that, will it improve his EQ in the long run?

No because you have no common sense.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to work on your common sense and EQ. FinTech should fire you.

OP here. Why should they fire me?

It's business, not Take My Kid To Work Trip.

Your kid doesn't work at the company.

This is OP. There are people at the company who have done worse such as taking their spouse to conferences and accepting expensive gifts from vendors. What I am doing is small potatoes compared to them. I will not get fired but putting that aside, the question I have is: if my DS does that, will it improve his EQ in the long run?

Internships

Any job

Social classes

Performing art classes

Read all the vault guides

Talk with friends 1-2 years ahead of himself

Debate team

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to work on your common sense and EQ. FinTech should fire you.

OP here. Why should they fire me?

It's business, not Take My Kid To Work Trip.

Your kid doesn't work at the company.

This is OP. There are people at the company who have done worse such as taking their spouse to conferences and accepting expensive gifts from vendors. What I am doing is small potatoes compared to them. I will not get fired but putting that aside, the question I have is: if my DS does that, will it improve his EQ in the long run?

Internships

Any job

Social classes

Performing art classes

Read all the vault guides

Talk with friends 1-2 years ahead of himself

Debate team

Aren't conference venues a much better place to work on both networking and relationship building (e.g. improving EQ) than what listed above? At big conferences where there are thousands of people in attendance, the environment is probably the best place to work on those skills, right? I've attended many tech and non-tech conferences in Vegas, San Francisco, and San Diego and the environment at those conferences were very laid back and people were very helpful. A college student would find this much more useful than what PP listed above.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to work on your common sense and EQ. FinTech should fire you.

OP here. Why should they fire me?

It's business, not Take My Kid To Work Trip.

Your kid doesn't work at the company.

This is OP. There are people at the company who have done worse such as taking their spouse to conferences and accepting expensive gifts from vendors. What I am doing is small potatoes compared to them. I will not get fired but putting that aside, the question I have is: if my DS does that, will it improve his EQ in the long run?

Internships

Any job

Social classes

Performing art classes

Read all the vault guides

Talk with friends 1-2 years ahead of himself

Debate team

Aren't conference venues a much better place to work on both networking and relationship building (e.g. improving EQ) than what listed above? At big conferences where there are thousands of people in attendance, the environment is probably the best place to work on those skills, right? I've attended many tech and non-tech conferences in Vegas, San Francisco, and San Diego and the environment at those conferences were very laid back and people were very helpful. A college student would find this much more useful than what PP listed above.

Maybe but mostly your son won't have much to add to the conversation because he literally doesn't know anything.

Is he a good golfer at least?

I think the best way to improve these things is to do a drama class in HS but most boys don't want to do that.

Then sports and volunteering.

You can try it, you don't need to crowd source if it's a good idea, try it and find out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would like to bring my eighteen years old college freshman DS with me to conferences and also golf outing events so that he can start developing networking relationships with people at conferences and golf events. I think this will help him improve his EQ by experiencing rejections and failures.

EQ, networking and relationships are built:
-by interacting with people in-person and on the phone
-within families
-at school events
-with families of the children's friends
-at community or club events
-doing volunteer work

Can you help your teen with these?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aren't conference venues a much better place to work on both networking and relationship building (e.g. improving EQ) than what listed above? At big conferences where there are thousands of people in attendance, the environment is probably the best place to work on those skills, right?

I'd say no, because the 19 yr/old hasn't earned their way into the conference. EQ is built organically and you're looking for your child to skip a few steps. Focus on the now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aren't conference venues a much better place to work on both networking and relationship building (e.g. improving EQ) than what listed above? At big conferences where there are thousands of people in attendance, the environment is probably the best place to work on those skills, right?

I'd say no, because the 19 yr/old hasn't earned their way into the conference. EQ is built organically and you're looking for your child to skip a few steps. Focus on the now.

What do you mean by “hasn’t earned their way”?

Conferences are the best way to work on EQ. People at conferences will not turn down a 19 y/o college student. I know I wouldn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aren't conference venues a much better place to work on both networking and relationship building (e.g. improving EQ) than what listed above? At big conferences where there are thousands of people in attendance, the environment is probably the best place to work on those skills, right?

I'd say no, because the 19 yr/old hasn't earned their way into the conference. EQ is built organically and you're looking for your child to skip a few steps. Focus on the now.

What do you mean by “hasn’t earned their way”?

Conferences are the best way to work on EQ. People at conferences will not turn down a 19 y/o college student. I know I wouldn’t.

OP, you're trying. You don't give a shit what anyone else thinks because your so damn sure of yourself. If your replies are indicative of your EQ, it's severely lacking. And yeah, a 19 year old a conference is a joke. People are being nice because of you, not your son who got dragged along as a sad nepo baby.

[Anonymous]

There are hundreds of people with low EQ walking around every STEM conference I have ever been to. If immersion was the best way to improve EQ, the workplace would be a much better place.

Everyone has a baseline EQ, and from there they need to be taught.

[Anonymous]

In practice Debate team helps with logic and argumentation but it DOES NOT teach EQ. Quite the opposite.

[Anonymous]

I do not see how an 18 year old builds EQ by tagging along to play golf and eat free. How is he facing rejection and failure? Because he can't play golf as well as others? This makes no sense at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not see how an 18 year old builds EQ by tagging along to play golf and eat free. How is he facing rejection and failure? Because he can't play golf as well as others? This makes no sense at all.

OP wants a vacation with his son, and he wants vendors to bribe him by paying for everything for his son. He knows this is wrong, but wants to sleep better at night by insisting this will give some unmeasurable benefit to his son and is therefore OK. And OP didn't really want anyone's advice, because he attacks anyone who claims this isn't a good idea.