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DS's ex-gf sent him a "sext"- should I tell her parents?
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Anonymous
| They are both 16; she sent him a topless photo apparently to encourage them to get back together. I made sure DS deleted it and I'm quite sure he didn't forward it. I don't know her parents very well, but if I were her mom, I'd want to know. Thoughts? |
Anonymous
| Yes, its illegal and she can get arrested for emailing pornography. Definitely make sure it's deleted from your son's account. |
Anonymous
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Check out www.netsmartz.org for information.
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Anonymous
| No advice, but as a mom of a DD I would want to know. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't. As much as I, theoretically, would want to know if I were her mother (I'm curious), you are going to unleash a shit-storm on her. Having been a teenage girl who always. got. caught. I understand the need for boundaries and privacy. This is private. Mothers should not know about their daughter's sex life, no matter how curious they are. |
Anonymous
I disagree--her sending these messages will affect whoever receives them. OP's son could be in trouble for having the photo on his phone I someone in authority found it. |
Anonymous
So how did you find it? Was DS angry and showed you or did you see his phone? If it arrived when he was at school or with friends chances are others saw it or another teen could even have opened the text. Or forwarded it. You need to communicate with her parents in writing ASAP. |
Anonymous
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As pp noted there are legal issues involved, in certain jurisdictions kids who have been caught have had to register as sex offenders for sexting. Her parents need to know so they can nip it in the bud with their daughter. I am sure you nipped it with your son.
Besides legal issues there are other consequences like kids forwarding the photo and being humiliated. And it the worst case scenario kids have committed suicide over nude photos that were distributed to the entire school - you need to tell her parents. Even though I wouldn't bring this incident up to school officials - it seems like this could be a broader discussion for your school. http://abcnews.go.com/Video/playerIndex?id=7340504 |
Anonymous
| I would tell her parents, absolutely. |
Anonymous
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and make sure your son understands the importance of respecting her privacy after she did something so, so, very stupid.
(I think you have a handle on that.) |
Anonymous
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Tell the parents.
Teens are not getting the message as to how serious this is. She is putting your son at risk, OP. Do not hesitate. TELL THEM. |
Anonymous
| Another vote for telling the parents. ASAP. |
Anonymous
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I would tell the parents. In fact, I might follow up with an email that casually reiterates your phone conversation. Just to cover your son.
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Anonymous
| Tell the parents. Serious issues for her and for the people she sends them to. |
Anonymous
Am I the only one who would leave all of this out of writing? |