Bumble - new “opening move”?

[Anonymous]

Woman ISO men on Bumble. How is the “new” opening move supposed to work? It isn’t showing up on all matches. Do I still need to send first messsge?

[Anonymous]

No you don’t. A guy can choose to answer your question or just message you.

[Anonymous]

It's the same - no one messages each other! When I try to message my matches half the time they unmatch. I'm female and when I message it's very low-key, just hi and something based on their profile to get the conversation started, like "hi, I see you like movies, what have you seen recently?" I have no idea how people actually meet!

[Anonymous]

Yes, the apps are pretty useless now. Even when there are matches and conversations they go nowhere. It seems hardly anyone is motivated to actually meet in person.

[Anonymous]

It was apparently too much work for women to message first.

[Anonymous]

Pretty bad sign for Bumble. It means male engagement was dropping off big time. Women are the product on the dating apps; men are the source of funds. If men leave the app due to lack of engagement, then Bumble nosedives from a financial perspective.

Scott Galloway is right - 10% of men get 90% of attention on these apps. Rest of the guys were chumps for paying for so long. Lots of guys are dumping the apps - it’s a black hole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pretty bad sign for Bumble. It means male engagement was dropping off big time. Women are the product on the dating apps; men are the source of funds. If men leave the app due to lack of engagement, then Bumble nosedives from a financial perspective.

Scott Galloway is right - 10% of men get 90% of attention on these apps. Rest of the guys were chumps for paying for so long. Lots of guys are dumping the apps - it’s a black hole.

The apps have worked great for me and my guy friends. It seems unlikely we're all in the 10 percent. This stat seems bogus.

[Anonymous]

As a woman, I found Bumble to be demoralizing. In my experience, men matched and vetted me AFTER I messaged. I thought they were interested in my profile and pictures, but no. They just liked all women, and when a woman would message as a result of the match, only then would a man decide whether he would consider actually matching. So often times, I would be unmatched after my first message sent. It was an esteem roller coaster and an unforeseen and gross antithesis to the actual intent of women messaging first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I found Bumble to be demoralizing. In my experience, men matched and vetted me AFTER I messaged. I thought they were interested in my profile and pictures, but no. They just liked all women, and when a woman would message as a result of the match, only then would a man decide whether he would consider actually matching. So often times, I would be unmatched after my first message sent. It was an esteem roller coaster and an unforeseen and gross antithesis to the actual intent of women messaging first.

Why did you message them first? Can’t you just wait until someone really interested messages you ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's the same - no one messages each other! When I try to message my matches half the time they unmatch. I'm female and when I message it's very low-key, just hi and something based on their profile to get the conversation started, like "hi, I see you like movies, what have you seen recently?" I have no idea how people actually meet!

Most women on Bumble are too lazy to do even that. They just say "hi" and let you take it from there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's the same - no one messages each other! When I try to message my matches half the time they unmatch. I'm female and when I message it's very low-key, just hi and something based on their profile to get the conversation started, like "hi, I see you like movies, what have you seen recently?" I have no idea how people actually meet!

Most women on Bumble are too lazy to do even that. They just say "hi" and let you take it from there.

Everybody’s lazy, apparently, including the men. I get the hi or wave a lot of from guys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's the same - no one messages each other! When I try to message my matches half the time they unmatch. I'm female and when I message it's very low-key, just hi and something based on their profile to get the conversation started, like "hi, I see you like movies, what have you seen recently?" I have no idea how people actually meet!

Most women on Bumble are too lazy to do even that. They just say "hi" and let you take it from there.

Because we know the men swipe on everyone and aren’t necessarily interested. The ones who are will message back to a hi and then I’d expend some effort.

The single people I know are dumping the apps in droves. It’s mostly married men in there now..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I found Bumble to be demoralizing. In my experience, men matched and vetted me AFTER I messaged. I thought they were interested in my profile and pictures, but no. They just liked all women, and when a woman would message as a result of the match, only then would a man decide whether he would consider actually matching. So often times, I would be unmatched after my first message sent. It was an esteem roller coaster and an unforeseen and gross antithesis to the actual intent of women messaging first.

Why did you message them first? Can’t you just wait until someone really interested messages you ?

No. The whole point of Bumble, and the way it was set up, was that women only could message first in order to avoid unwanted (and sometimes crass or inappropriate) first messages from men.

[Anonymous]

You guys are MORONS for using bumble

You know that the founder of bumble met her husband IRL well after she founded bumble, right?

What’s that tell you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You guys are MORONS for using bumble

You know that the founder of bumble met her husband IRL well after she founded bumble, right?

What’s that tell you?

Tells me nothing. Maybe Bumble gave her a chance to meet people to date and learn how to be comfortable with it, which gave her confidence to engage with someone new offline.