I find this annoying , but don't feel I can ask friend to stop

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who I generally like but she does one thing that I find irritating. We generally make a restaurant reservation in one of our names when we meet up. She routinely arrives 15-20 minutes in advance of the reservation and immediately texts me, "I'm here." What am I supposed to do with that info? I am usually in transit and it just makes me feel stressed out, even though she is early and I am not late. What is the purpose of sending such a text? And there is no way I can ask her not to, right?

[Anonymous]

You talk to someone about this because you have some uncontrolled anxiety if this stresses you out

[Anonymous]

She is just letting you know she is there so you know to look for her when you get there. I doubt it is a summons for you to immediately show up. Maybe you could turn your. notifications off next time so it does not bother you. Or - if she is a good friend just tell her it stresses you out.

[Anonymous]

I think it's something you can address in kind of a joking way in person when you get there.

[Anonymous]

This is something I would find mildly annoying, but not let stress me out.

I would just ignore the texts, get there on time, and never mention the texts. It will discourage the behavior without you having to be confrontational.

[Anonymous]

You don’t need to do anything. You just say thanks I’ll see you at noon or whatever your agreed upon time was. It’s her issue.

[Anonymous]

Just text back and say, "en route, see you in 20 mins"

After a glass of wine ask her why she's always so early - and tell her it stresses you out! But don't be a d**k about it.

[Anonymous]

What can you supposed to do with that info? Nothing. Get there when you get there.

[Anonymous]

Silence your notifications when you are in transit. If you are driving to meet with her, there’s no way you should be looking at your phone.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes if I’m early, I’ll wait in my car answering emails or texting my spouse. But if the person I’m meeting lets me know they are there, then I would just go in. Its just a curtesy text, you don’t have to do anything with it.

[Anonymous]

Ironically, she is trying to save you anxiety over where she is and when she will be there. Do nothing with the info because there is nothing to do.

[Anonymous]

Ignore. How about you silence your phone when you're driving. When you get there *on time* then you learn that she texted.

[Anonymous]

My father does this too, and it also annoys me. He is early because he is worried about being late. I try to remember that and let it roll off my back.

[Anonymous]

Why can't you just reply that you're still in transit and your ETA?

[Anonymous]

You need to chill! It’s better than always being 20 minutes late. Just text back and say we’ll be there at 7.