Are you ever concerned when DH goes on Boys Trip?
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Anonymous
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Wives, are you generally okay with your DHs going on guys only trips with their friends? Does the location matter? Does the friend group matter?
A couple of friends recently brought up going on a guys trip next year and I'm interested because I haven't hung out with the entirety of this particular group in close to 10 years (shortly after our first child was born). I'm certain DW wouldn't object but its not something we've ever really discussed either. The catch is that the location we're primarily considering is Brazil (if there is an NFL game there next year) and it has a reputation for a certain type of tourism. I would never engage in thosebtype of activities (I don't judge others or the workers but it's absolutely disgusting for me) neither would the friends I'd go with (although I have other friends that absolutely would). Our trip would likely just be drinking too much, trash talking, hanging out at a pool/beach, excursions, and going to an NFL and, hopefully, soccer game. I want to make the idea as comfortable as possible for DW, but curious how comfortable other wives are with these types of guys trips. |
Anonymous
| Not worried. I’d say that the DH matters more than the location or friend group. Shady people gonna shady, and it doesn’t matter where or with whom. |
Anonymous
I agree with this. The only concern I have about guys trips is 1) does it seem like a guys trip is a bigger priority than DH spending time with me 2) is it scheduled for a really tight time with the kids 3) am I getting enough time off from family responsibilities too (although when I feel envious about this I realize it’s usually my fault for not doing something about it). |
Anonymous
| I think your wife must know and trust you by now, right? I wouldn't be concerned at all, if it was my husband. |
Anonymous
+1 Nor do shady people care where or with whom. |
Anonymous
| Going to Brazil requires a decent amount of time and money. Just make sure you are putting that same effort into your relationship or encouraging to do her own thing. |
Anonymous
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I would not worry about my DH in this situation. But I do think some "boys' trips" can raise a different vibe - if a bunch of the guys are divorced or going through a midlife thing, I would be less thrilled abou the entertainnment than what my DH usually experiences, which is a bunch of family-oriented beer nerds going to breweries together in a new city.
Make sure though, that if you're going to Brazil with your boys, you're doing another trip at least as cool with your wife/family. If DH was in Rio with his buddies and then wanted to go to Ocean City for our family vacation I'd feel some type of way about his priorities. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't be concerned. But DH isn't a huge partier so this trip wouldn't really be his thing. He goes on a annual boys trip but its much more low key. Assuming no one in your group is interested in that type of activity, I wouldn't focus on it. |
Anonymous
| Concerned about what? |
Anonymous
| Concerned as in like cheating?? No. Not at all. Just don't come home and do nothing all day claiming how tired you are from all the partying, while I was handling all the carpools/meals/cleaning/etc all week. |
Anonymous
| Thanks for the feedback. Sounds like the biggest concern is doing something equally interesting/expensive with DH lol |
Anonymous
| Lots a beautiful Brazilian trans women in Brazil. A few drinks and he could be getting bent over. 😁 |
Anonymous
| I'm fine with DH going on guys trips as long as it doesn't eat up all the PTO and travel budget for us to have a nice family vacation. |
Anonymous
| Would be fine with me! I go on a girl's trip every year, he should be able to go on a guy's trip |
Anonymous
| The only guys trips DH ever does are camping/fishing trips. Honestly, his friends are just as much my friends (we met through them) and I wouldn't worry. |