Drunk Elephant and Lululemon at private schools

[Anonymous]

That’s all my DD says the girls talked about during her shadow day. She starts the private school in the fall and wants me to buy it for her. What am I going to do? This stuff is expensive. I don’t think the online reviews are all that great for Drunk Elephant and she will be wearing uniforms so I do not know when she will wear all the Lululemon she picked out. Are there any discount stores for Lululemon?

[Anonymous]

On the chance this serious, poshmark nwt.

[Anonymous]

We go to a public middle school and my daughter still wears Lululemon and uses drunk elephant. How are you affording private if $60 for one pair of shorts is going to break the bank?

[Anonymous]

It’s all over public schools too

[Anonymous]

Underage drinking is inappropriate, even for your fancy private school students.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Underage drinking is inappropriate, even for your fancy private school students.

huh?

[Anonymous]

Look for sales and buy a few for her birthday or something.

[Anonymous]

You have to learn to say no to this, or to satisfy these requests in ways that meet her needs without actually dumping a bunch of money on it.

Like Drunk Elephant -- this is about being able to say it's what she uses. She doesn't actually "need" it and don't go out and by a $100 serum. Get something like this as gift for a special occasion (the occasion can be starting at a new school):

https://www.ulta.com/p/day-dream-kit-pimprod2035175

Tell her this is it for the year -- you are not buying full size bottle and you aren't replenishing this unless she asks for it again for Christmas/Hannukah or a birthday. So she can use small amounts if she wants to experiment, and she can tell her friends she has Drunk Elephant, whatever.

Same with Lululemon. You can get stuff on Poshmark or you can shop their "We Made Too Much Sales" to get her a couple things. If she wants specific full price items in specific colors, she needs to ask for it for a birthday or holiday and it is not a gift on top of what else she might get -- it's one of her big-ticket gifts.

Or you can say no and explain that this is not part of the family's value system to spend money on these things and if she wants them, she needs to ask grandma or save up birthday money or get a summer job or something.

You need to figure out what matters to you and then go from there. But you aren't required to spend $800 on skincare and athleisure for your teenage daughter just because some girls at school were bragging about it. If you go that route, you're screwed because it's just going to be one thing after another.

[Anonymous]

Tell her to start babysitting and she can earn the money for that herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Underage drinking is inappropriate, even for your fancy private school students.

huh?

I’m not PP, but…really? Zooming over your head?

[Anonymous]

Today Drunk Elephant and Lululemon. Tomorrow, "Why aren't you spending Christmas break in Aspen or St Barts?" This isn't going to end, so simply getting her a bit of Drunk Elephant and a couple of pieces of Lululemon are a short term solution to a longterm issue you will probably spend at least a couple of years dealing with.

[Anonymous]

Give her a budget and let her choose a few things. The budget will go farther on Thredup or Poshmark! But it would be nice for her to start the year feeling like she fits in.

[Anonymous]

I have two girls in a private middle school, they get a couple of items from drunk elephant or lululemon for their birthdays or Christmas, that’s it. Most of their normal play clothes are Athleta or Old Navy.

[Anonymous]

"get a job"

[Anonymous]

I’m a grown woman, but I buy a lot of my Lululemon on “Lulu Like New” on the Lululemon website. I have a favorite pair of running tights and I’m scared they’ll stop making them.