My daughter has a girlfriend. Thank God.

[Anonymous]

I'm just thrilled that she FINALLY has found someone she authentically connects with, who lives nearby, and whose mother is supportive.

She spent the pandemic in total isolation. She met her through a mutual friend, and we took them on their first date by meeting up at a city park.

Their first embrace was epic.

At 15, they are both in their very first relationship ever.

It's just so cute and so much healthier and so much more like what I would have wanted from the hetero relationships I was in at the same age.

They spent so much time together online and then video chat, and they were able to establish this all translated into chemistry IRL.

I am so happy. I just never knew how it was going to happen.

That's all.

[Anonymous]

So happy for your daughter!!

[Anonymous]

So excited for your daughter!

[Anonymous]

So happy for your daughter and you! Keeping my fingers crossed that my son will find a bf this year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So happy for your daughter and you! Keeping my fingers crossed that my son will find a bf this year.

OP here. I seriously had no idea how it was going to happen.

She kept meeting people online through gaming and art stuff that were far away. She had a few "boyfriends" that she was "dating", who she never met in person and would never be able to meet in person.

I put these two words in quotes because it was just really an adjustment for me to listen to her use these terms, when the way it was all unfolding was nothing like what I associate with either of those terms!!

They were nice kids, though, and in fact she is good friends with them now still. I think our teens sometimes know what they need and while we may not approve of them spending so much time online, for example, sometimes a void is filled and not in a negative way.

Its just so interesting that "online" became the way she met someone that lives in our same city. And thats because she kept in touch with a few IRL friends online during the pandemic,

And, well, here we are.

Her girlfriend is also a nice and intelligent person. They are clearly a good match as friends and now as "partners" as she calls it.

The cuteness factor of it all is pretty over the top.

[Anonymous]

OP again: It was difficult to watch her flounder in so much aloneness and inexperience with ANY romantic relationship.

Not even having kissed anyone at 15 is really unimaginable to me. Not even holding hands romantically. Zero romance in real life.

The only silver lining here, and its a pretty good one, is that she was able to mature and be ready to HAVE a relationship that is mutual and respectful. That's a great model for a first relationship. I hope they stay together a long time!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again: It was difficult to watch her flounder in so much aloneness and inexperience with ANY romantic relationship.

Not even having kissed anyone at 15 is really unimaginable to me. Not even holding hands romantically. Zero romance in real life.

The only silver lining here, and its a pretty good one, is that she was able to mature and be ready to HAVE a relationship that is mutual and respectful. That's a great model for a first relationship. I hope they stay together a long time!!

Really? The majority of my high school students have not had any sort of romantic relationship at 15. Many aren't allowed to date until 16/18/graduation. I'm happy for you and your daughter, but I promise she wasn't abnormal!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again: It was difficult to watch her flounder in so much aloneness and inexperience with ANY romantic relationship.

Not even having kissed anyone at 15 is really unimaginable to me. Not even holding hands romantically. Zero romance in real life.

The only silver lining here, and its a pretty good one, is that she was able to mature and be ready to HAVE a relationship that is mutual and respectful. That's a great model for a first relationship. I hope they stay together a long time!!

This is really not so unusual at all, regardless of orientation, and now your exuberance about this strikes me as a little odd, to be honest. I glad your daughter’s happy and I’m sorry she felt isolated for so long. But if you started a thread titled “My daughter has a boyfriend. Thank God.”, I don’t think you’d get much support at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again: It was difficult to watch her flounder in so much aloneness and inexperience with ANY romantic relationship.

Not even having kissed anyone at 15 is really unimaginable to me. Not even holding hands romantically. Zero romance in real life.

The only silver lining here, and its a pretty good one, is that she was able to mature and be ready to HAVE a relationship that is mutual and respectful. That's a great model for a first relationship. I hope they stay together a long time!!

This is really not so unusual at all, regardless of orientation, and now your exuberance about this strikes me as a little odd, to be honest. I glad your daughter’s happy and I’m sorry she felt isolated for so long. But if you started a thread titled “My daughter has a boyfriend. Thank God.”, I don’t think you’d get much support at all.

I hope your DD is happy OP, but I'm here. I have a very normal, typical 15 YO DD and she hasn't kissed anyone yet that I know of, and I'm not worried. You need to be careful not to overly invest in her love life. She's more than likely 99.9999% not going to be with her first love for long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again: It was difficult to watch her flounder in so much aloneness and inexperience with ANY romantic relationship.

Not even having kissed anyone at 15 is really unimaginable to me. Not even holding hands romantically. Zero romance in real life.

The only silver lining here, and its a pretty good one, is that she was able to mature and be ready to HAVE a relationship that is mutual and respectful. That's a great model for a first relationship. I hope they stay together a long time!!

This is really not so unusual at all, regardless of orientation, and now your exuberance about this strikes me as a little odd, to be honest. I glad your daughter’s happy and I’m sorry she felt isolated for so long. But if you started a thread titled “My daughter has a boyfriend. Thank God.”, I don’t think you’d get much support at all.

OP here. You are correct it is not unusual FOR THE TIMES NOW. In fact, kids are having less sex than their peers decades ago.

Social psychologists write on this topic, in fact.

What is REALLY odd, to be honest, is why you would think I wouldn't get much support for posting about my bi daughters first ever relationship on a LQBTQIA+ relationship forum if it was with a boy. If not here, where else would I get "support"?

[Anonymous]

At 53, I am pretty sure I understand whats ok to be excited about. My daughter has a first love. They waited 4 months to finally be able to be together, and it was lovely.

My realm of experience makes me not at all naiive about what teen romance is. But I also know an exceptional connection when I see one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again: It was difficult to watch her flounder in so much aloneness and inexperience with ANY romantic relationship.

Not even having kissed anyone at 15 is really unimaginable to me. Not even holding hands romantically. Zero romance in real life.

The only silver lining here, and its a pretty good one, is that she was able to mature and be ready to HAVE a relationship that is mutual and respectful. That's a great model for a first relationship. I hope they stay together a long time!!

This is really not so unusual at all, regardless of orientation, and now your exuberance about this strikes me as a little odd, to be honest. I glad your daughter’s happy and I’m sorry she felt isolated for so long. But if you started a thread titled “My daughter has a boyfriend. Thank God.”, I don’t think you’d get much support at all.

OP here. You are correct it is not unusual FOR THE TIMES NOW. In fact, kids are having less sex than their peers decades ago.

Social psychologists write on this topic, in fact.

What is REALLY odd, to be honest, is why you would think I wouldn't get much support for posting about my bi daughters first ever relationship on a LQBTQIA+ relationship forum if it was with a boy. If not here, where else would I get "support"?

Oh my. Ok. I wish you and your daughter the best.

And for the record, it was not unusual for my times decades ago, either.

[Anonymous]

Didn't think there were so many Debbie Downer in this forum.

[Anonymous]

Congrats, OP! It’s such a relief for them to find that first special someone.

My DD (15) had her first gf during the height of the pandemic when everything went virtual. They were classmates who were just flirty before that because my DD was too nervous to make a move. They got to see each other in person a handful of times after 8 months of texting and FT. Then they broke up. And now, my DD says she doesn’t fancy anyone enough to even flirt.

[Anonymous]

Did you know she was a lesbian before Covid? I am just curious..or was this is a total shock? I mean to me, that's the elephant in this room/thread. Where did that piece fit in? Did she tell you before or sprung it upon you after?

You sound really accepting and open and she is so lucky to have you as not all kids have it that easy. Have a friend whose son went through same thing and neither of his parents had any idea and lets just say, they are having an incredibly difficult time dealing with this.