Rough sex amongst teens

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the point is that it's not just teenaged boys who need to be told that acting out what you see in extreme porn is not OK.

The problem is they don't think it's extreme. It's been normalized.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did you read it? Some said they could not speak and they blacked out and therefore could not withdraw consent even if they had given it! Scary that this is your reaction is blaming the girls, and not concern for them and the horribly abusive culture we adults have created.

I am not blaming them but making it clear it is a problem for both sexes. OP was making it about boys only when both boys and girls need to be aware and parents need to speak to both.

Seriously, DID YOU READ IT?!?

Some of these girls have been seriously harmed or even died!!

So? It appears to be consensual. Blaming this on boys is sexist. And wrong.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did you read it? Some said they could not speak and they blacked out and therefore could not withdraw consent even if they had given it! Scary that this is your reaction is blaming the girls, and not concern for them and the horribly abusive culture we adults have created.

I am not blaming them but making it clear it is a problem for both sexes. OP was making it about boys only when both boys and girls need to be aware and parents need to speak to both.

Seriously, DID YOU READ IT?!?

Some of these girls have been seriously harmed or even died!!

So? It appears to be consensual. Blaming this on boys is sexist. And wrong.

Is it truly consensual as in something that the girls would want for themselves even if they had never been exposed to porn? Or porn-addled guys asking for it (or just doing it without asking) and then she comes to see it as an expectation/a normal thing?

I’m not blaming it on boys BTW, I’m blaming it on porn.

[Anonymous]

To those of you who don't see the problem, I really beg you to consider whether you want to raise a kid who is capable of squeezing life out of someone for pleasure. Do you not understand that if things go wrong, they are looking at very serious felony charges including life in prison?

[Anonymous]

I’m not sure why everyone is so defensive. It’s a sickening trend if it’s real (NYTimes is constantly drumming up “trends”) and the article clearly states that it’s boots and girls who are partaking. There’s no reason to believe the article and then not believe that part of it. If this is a problem then rather than turn it into a boy vs girl issue it would behoove everyone to just talk to their kids about sex and ways that are loving and fun and helpful
And ways that are not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did you read it? Some said they could not speak and they blacked out and therefore could not withdraw consent even if they had given it! Scary that this is your reaction is blaming the girls, and not concern for them and the horribly abusive culture we adults have created.

I am not blaming them but making it clear it is a problem for both sexes. OP was making it about boys only when both boys and girls need to be aware and parents need to speak to both.

Seriously, DID YOU READ IT?!?

Some of these girls have been seriously harmed or even died!!

So? It appears to be consensual. Blaming this on boys is sexist. And wrong.

I guess you didn't read the article? It describes some consensual behavior but also boys strangling girls mid-sec without asking. Girls can't breathe to say no. Criminal, not consensual.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did you read it? Some said they could not speak and they blacked out and therefore could not withdraw consent even if they had given it! Scary that this is your reaction is blaming the girls, and not concern for them and the horribly abusive culture we adults have created.

I am not blaming them but making it clear it is a problem for both sexes. OP was making it about boys only when both boys and girls need to be aware and parents need to speak to both.

Seriously, DID YOU READ IT?!?

Some of these girls have been seriously harmed or even died!!

So? It appears to be consensual. Blaming this on boys is sexist. And wrong.

I guess you didn't read the article? It describes some consensual behavior but also boys strangling girls mid-sec without asking. Girls can't breathe to say no. Criminal, not consensual.

True but also girls apparently need to be explicitly told that this is dangerous and stupid and to not experiment or think it's ok. Both can be true. So, talk to your daughters about safe sex beyond contraception.

[Anonymous]

Those of you who think you are stopping your kids from accessing it are just wrong. There is no way to prevent a kid from seeing porn whether or not they have a phone and whether or not you are under the impression that you are on top of their online activities. Your kids are likely more tech savvy than you are and they have friends and school and the library and your computer when you aren't looking and so many other options. You can and should talk to them about it but you can't stop it or block access. It's just not physically or technically possible.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did you read it? Some said they could not speak and they blacked out and therefore could not withdraw consent even if they had given it! Scary that this is your reaction is blaming the girls, and not concern for them and the horribly abusive culture we adults have created.

I am not blaming them but making it clear it is a problem for both sexes. OP was making it about boys only when both boys and girls need to be aware and parents need to speak to both.

Seriously, DID YOU READ IT?!?

Some of these girls have been seriously harmed or even died!!

So? It appears to be consensual. Blaming this on boys is sexist. And wrong.

Everyone should check out this organization. This is not a new phenomenon.

https://wecantconsenttothis.uk/

[Anonymous]

This part alone is shocking to me:

The rate of those women who said they were between the ages 12 and 17 the first time that (strangling) happened had shot up to 40 percent from one in four.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a young teen daughter (not sexually active yet) and just read this article and now feel sick: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/04/12/opinion/choking-teen-sex-brain-damage.html

Please, please, please if you have heterosexual boys, talk to them and tell them this is not okay, and is truly dangerous.

I happen to be criminal defense attorney and can tell you that anyone who was accused of doing this to someone against their will would be looking at attempted murder charges if reported.

This is 100% a pron thing. There is a disturbing amount of pron content that depicts men choking their partners and their partners appearing to like it.

While I'm sure it's true some women legit DO enjoy being choked, I am willing to bet that's an extreme minority. And so you need to empower your daughters to assert themselves if someone tries this with them without their consent (and also teach them they don't need to consent just to please a partner). Knee the guy in the testes if you need to. Scratch him if you need to. Whatever it takes to get him off you. Then either have a frank conversation about consent and boundaries or kick him to the curb.

Do you remember the famous actor, David Caradine?

He was killed during a session of erotic auto-asphyxiation. He was alone at the time.

It’s a kink he was into. Because, he enjoyed it.

[Anonymous]

I had no idea this was so popular. I'm so glad to be vanilla.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This part alone is shocking to me:

The rate of those women who said they were between the ages 12 and 17 the first time that (strangling) happened had shot up to 40 percent from one in four.

Twelve. Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had no idea this was so popular. I'm so glad to be vanilla.

Yeah whenever I see these guys on this website who complain about women being too vanilla, I think tjey are probably these guys.

This is really sickening. I am gojng to talk to my teen son about this and he is gojng to be SO IRRITATED with me for it.

[Anonymous]

Stop/prevent your kids from watching porn. They're delusional and completely desensitized to reality. It's incredibly harmful. Definitely start talking to them from a young age about it.