The “list was incredibly insulting” but you gave one item that was a bit over the top? The point is that out of 100 you can probablyCount on one hand things that dont apply to you. Better yet, let’s ask your wife. |
I was all ready to agree with this list, but I can’t imagine reading this to any man in my life, including men a generation older than me who pretty readily admit that a lot more is expected from mothers than fathers. It’s just written in an antagonistic tone. |
It's a crowd-sourced list of petty grievances and projections, most of which are unsupported by any real data or facts. And, yes, it has a "when did you stop beating your wife" tone to it. It's not written in any sort of good faith. |
This was done more thoughtfully and comprehensively in Fair Play, and anyone struggling with these issues should pick up a copy and start a conversation around rebranding responsibilities instead of getting more aggravated. |
The article would be better if there were a list of things that women don’t have to worry about.
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First of all, you don't get it. That list is close to 95% accurate in almost every household with a mom and a dad. Just because you do a few things to "help" parent, and clearly dislike your wife, like most fathers, doesn't mean that list isn't accurate. Get over yourself and try to understand that we do, in fact, still have a very sexist society. |
Cleaning the gutters? I mean, as long as she can call someone else to do it. Otherwise, go ahead and list them. |
It might be insulting but it’s also true. |
I had a narcissist old school father growing up and I appreciate this list and will probably save it somewhere on my phone. My father literally did none of the things in the list and thought it was funny that he didn’t know our birthdays or how old we were. Anytime I wonder if I was too hard on him and he was actually a great guy I will look at this list. Really. Literally did none of the things. |
+1 |
Well said. This list is complete garbage. |
Never worry about the grass getting cut Never has to discuss whether the tires need to be rotated Never gives actors sound in the car a 2nd thought Doesn’t know the vets name or even where they are Never worry about lightbulbs Never need to replace a light switch or ceiling fan Don’t worry about the kids learning an instrument since he teaches them that Don’t need to talk sorta (though I can but not to the level they care to) Never edited a paper Mousetraps Never even need to understand how to trim a tree Have no clue what indigenous plants are Never split wood Never started a fire Don’t clean cars Never grilled anything ever No clue what days the trash goes to the curb No idea how to get large trash pickups Never made coffee I could obviously learn or do all these but I don’t need to |
We divide and conquer. For example, I handle paperwork like school registration, health forms for camp, and paying tuition. I'm good at bureaucratic stuff. I also take the kids to the library so I know when there's a new Dork Diaries book and what books my kids like. DW has no idea. I help with homework, so I can name which homework tasks they struggle with and which they like.
DW handles clothes, including laundry and buying clothes. I have no clue what size my kids wear these days, in clothes or shoes. She does a bunch of other tasks too, like she was responsible for breastfeeding them (hey, it was on that list in the link). We do what works best for us, based on who has time for various tasks and who is good at them. We don't really keep score. |
Not actors … Weird
Not sorta … sports |
I’m a wife and that list is written so condescendingly. I’m insulted that people feel that poorly towards men and that I would even need to stand up for him.
Dh does most of the things on that list. And the ones he doesn’t? I actively want to do them and like doing them. Like clothes shopping, laundry or school supply shopping. |