Pregnancy test found in boyfriends room

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: seems to be a consensus that the pregnancy test (among other things) are red flags. Still deciding what to do honestly, I really love spending time with him.

It’s as if you didn’t read any of our comments. Do what you want to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: seems to be a consensus that the pregnancy test (among other things) are red flags. Still deciding what to do honestly, I really love spending time with him.

It’s as if you didn’t read any of our comments. Do what you want to do.

+1

And be sure to come back here when things go bad, wailing "How did this ever happen?"

[Anonymous]

Guys major troll alert. Don’t you know how to spot them at this point?

[Anonymous]

You’re both a mess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: seems to be a consensus that the pregnancy test (among other things) are red flags. Still deciding what to do honestly, I really love spending time with him.

OP, this is how abusers reel their victim in. Abusers can actually be fun and make you feel loved. But then they do something abusive or fishy and you feel bad for awhile and then they make it up and things are good again. You are being conditioned to tolerate the bad by repeated access to the good. Over time, the bad will slowly be turned up but it will be harder to leave because there will be more ties.

Run.

You will learn to love spending time with yourself and you will make new relationships with people you truly love to spend time with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I should add he doesn't like condoms and I wasn't on BC when we met. He has been fine with unprotected sex and doesn't like pulling out. I had to take plan b and now I started the pill even though I hate the hormones. I said if I got pregnant that I would want an abortion since it's so early, he says he would be happy with me having his baby.
Just makes me more suspicious that he could be careless like this with another woman, since he seems to want a baby and doesn't care about waiting too much first. That's why it wouldn't surprise me if he needed the test for another woman.

Weird. I would run.

[Anonymous]

I found a condom wrapper in my bedside table drawer recently. The last time I used condoms was 9 years ago. Have no idea how / why this wrapper was at the back of the drawer especially since I’ve cleaned it since then. Sometimes things turn up.

[Anonymous]

Pp here. I hadn’t read all the replies. No way I would stay with a person who wanted unprotected sex after two months. Maybe if I saw the std test results but I don’t think I’d have enough confidence / trust even then to risk it.

[Anonymous]

This is weird, and I don't blame you for looking in his bathroom drawers. I wouldn't care if a boyfriend looked in my bathroom drawers or medicine cabinet. I've looked in my boyfriend's bathroom drawer for toothpaste when I forgot mine.

Honestly, I'm not sure I would trust this guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: seems to be a consensus that the pregnancy test (among other things) are red flags. Still deciding what to do honestly, I really love spending time with him.

People, this reminds me of that Valentine's Day poster who travelled to see a guy who was still crushing on his ex. Everyone was telling her to end it but she kept making excuses for the situation. It was trage-comedic.
What is the point of coming here soliciting advice if such OPs already know they will accept the skanky tawdriness?

[Anonymous]

I would bet that 99.99% of women who found a pregnancy test in their new boyfriend’s bedroom would most definitely have a huge issue w/it!

[Anonymous]

OP here. We broke up just now.

He sent me a long rambling text with tons of errors (he said he used voice talk and it showed, how do you not even re read it before sending..?)

I think he knows that I know what's up. His rambles included the fact that I smoke marijuana, and how he's past that in his life. (He's usually the one asking to smoke). And also the fact that I am Bi.

I think he knows that I've caught on to his bs, and he's getting out now. He asked to be good friends and hang out still.

I did play a bit of a mind game. I told him the last time I saw him (before I saw the test) that if we ever broke up, it would be very hard to stop seeing him to hookup. We were joking around about it. But in my mind, I was trying to get him to think he can have sex either way, to see if he was just with me for sex. Well, that worked. He's probably thinking he will still get it. Ha. I'm ready to block him now 😊 don't even feel the need to talk to him about it. I think it's for the best that he did the breakup. I obviously couldn't make my mind up no matter what the red flags were.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We broke up just now.

He sent me a long rambling text with tons of errors (he said he used voice talk and it showed, how do you not even re read it before sending..?)

I think he knows that I know what's up. His rambles included the fact that I smoke marijuana, and how he's past that in his life. (He's usually the one asking to smoke). And also the fact that I am Bi.

I think he knows that I've caught on to his bs, and he's getting out now. He asked to be good friends and hang out still.

I did play a bit of a mind game. I told him the last time I saw him (before I saw the test) that if we ever broke up, it would be very hard to stop seeing him to hookup. We were joking around about it. But in my mind, I was trying to get him to think he can have sex either way, to see if he was just with me for sex. Well, that worked. He's probably thinking he will still get it. Ha. I'm ready to block him now 😊 don't even feel the need to talk to him about it. I think it's for the best that he did the breakup. I obviously couldn't make my mind up no matter what the red flags were.

You sound incredibly immature.

[Anonymous]

I really hope he didn't get you pregnant. You aren't ready to be a mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really hope he didn't get you pregnant. You aren't ready to be a mom.

I'm already a mom. Co-parenting with their dad pretty well. I will not be having this guys baby. I've never had an abortion, but it's my only option. There's no way I will have a baby with this guy. Blocked him and feel relief. Ready to focus on myself and my children. I was single for years before this and thought I was healed. Looks like I'm going back to therapy.