If I call CPS

Anonymous
Can you move first and then report it?
Anonymous
OP, please call and say you have to stay anonymous for your own safety. I make mandated reporter calls all the time. They definitely do not investigate every call, and they have been very easy to deal with.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:I am not making a false claim.

I asked because I feel my own family would be in danger if it was known who called.


What is claim? And why do you feel your family would be in danger?


I really don't want to give that information on a public forum.

It's dangerous because this person has a history of violence and of seeking revenge.

But it's ok with you to keep a child in harm's way
sigh


I understand why Op wouldn't want to put her own children in harms way.


Yes, and she is trying to figure out what to do. If she didn't care, she wouldn't be doing that.

Yea
Cause posting in DCUM is helping an amused child.
Shame on you and OP.


Getting advice and different ideas on how to proceed is helping. Good for you OP!


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Anonymous wrote:I tried to report something to CPS in Montgomery County. They wanted my name and phone number which was fine with me. I decided not to report it because while they wouldn't give the parent involved my name, they would have to describe the situation in which it occurred. It would have been obvious who could have reported it. I wear a name badge and I have no idea if he noticed it, but I did not want him to have any personal information about me.

It is really tough to see something bad happen to a child and not report it because of fear of personal safety.

This was ten years ago and I still am horrified.



Frankly, I'm a little horrified that you claim to have witnesses something CPS-worthy, and yet you were afraid of a confrontation so you let it go.


Im horrifed too. But if they lost all morals and are willing to rape their own child I'd be fearful what they could do to my family.
Anonymous
Are you paranoid because everyone knows who called the county to complain about the neighbors' yards? Don't worry, that was OBVIOUS.
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am not making a false claim.

I asked because I feel my own family would be in danger if it was known who called.


What is claim? And why do you feel your family would be in danger?


I really don't want to give that information on a public forum.

It's dangerous because this person has a history of violence and of seeking revenge.

But it's ok with you to keep a child in harm's way
sigh


I understand why Op wouldn't want to put her own children in harms way.


Yes, and she is trying to figure out what to do. If she didn't care, she wouldn't be doing that.

Yea
Cause posting in DCUM is helping an amused child.
Shame on you and OP.


Uh ... she is trying to help the abused child(ren) and trying to find a way to do it that doesn't put her own child(ren) in danger. That isn't shameful at all.

What is wrong with you?

What is wrong with you?
If something is going on, you call CPS, end of story.
A child has no protection, NONE. While OP has the option to call the police, get a handgun to protect themselves, a child is being abused enough that it is obvious to other people and is not getting help. How are they going to know it was OP who called? You can make an anonymous report. Mandatory Reporters, teachers, pastors, counselors, teachers, do not have a choice. OP is burning daylight wondering what if about something that might not happen and failing to report what they do see is ACTUALLY happening. And then folks turn around and wonder what is wrong with this world. Kitty Genovese all over again.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am not making a false claim.

I asked because I feel my own family would be in danger if it was known who called.


What is claim? And why do you feel your family would be in danger?


I really don't want to give that information on a public forum.

It's dangerous because this person has a history of violence and of seeking revenge.

But it's ok with you to keep a child in harm's way
sigh


I understand why Op wouldn't want to put her own children in harms way.


Yes, and she is trying to figure out what to do. If she didn't care, she wouldn't be doing that.

She knows what to do, just not willing to do it.Scared, get licensed to have a gun. But when this kid turns up dead, and you did nothing, don't just blame the abuser.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I tried to report something to CPS in Montgomery County. They wanted my name and phone number which was fine with me. I decided not to report it because while they wouldn't give the parent involved my name, they would have to describe the situation in which it occurred. It would have been obvious who could have reported it. I wear a name badge and I have no idea if he noticed it, but I did not want him to have any personal information about me.

It is really tough to see something bad happen to a child and not report it because of fear of personal safety.

This was ten years ago and I still am horrified.



Frankly, I'm a little horrified that you claim to have witnesses something CPS-worthy, and yet you were afraid of a confrontation so you let it go.


Im horrifed too. But if they lost all morals and are willing to rape their own child I'd be fearful what they could do to my family.

So you let a child rapist go -- you are just as bad as the rapist.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I tried to report something to CPS in Montgomery County. They wanted my name and phone number which was fine with me. I decided not to report it because while they wouldn't give the parent involved my name, they would have to describe the situation in which it occurred. It would have been obvious who could have reported it. I wear a name badge and I have no idea if he noticed it, but I did not want him to have any personal information about me.

It is really tough to see something bad happen to a child and not report it because of fear of personal safety.

This was ten years ago and I still am horrified.



Frankly, I'm a little horrified that you claim to have witnesses something CPS-worthy, and yet you were afraid of a confrontation so you let it go.


Im horrifed too. But if they lost all morals and are willing to rape their own child I'd be fearful what they could do to my family.

So you let a child rapist go -- you are just as bad as the rapist.


Wait, you WITNESSED a child being raped and you didn't do anything?
Anonymous
OP I had to call the cops recently for a welfare check on a teen neighbor.
If you are worried, do as other posters say, get a disposable phone, remain anonymous. Please don't hesitate.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I tried to report something to CPS in Montgomery County. They wanted my name and phone number which was fine with me. I decided not to report it because while they wouldn't give the parent involved my name, they would have to describe the situation in which it occurred. It would have been obvious who could have reported it. I wear a name badge and I have no idea if he noticed it, but I did not want him to have any personal information about me.

It is really tough to see something bad happen to a child and not report it because of fear of personal safety.

This was ten years ago and I still am horrified.



Frankly, I'm a little horrified that you claim to have witnesses something CPS-worthy, and yet you were afraid of a confrontation so you let it go.


Im horrifed too. But if they lost all morals and are willing to rape their own child I'd be fearful what they could do to my family.

So you let a child rapist go -- you are just as bad as the rapist.


Wait, you WITNESSED a child being raped and you didn't do anything?


I'm the PP who tried to report something to CPS in Montgomery County. It was not rape. I could never let that go. What I witnessed wasn't good, but it certainly wasn't rape.

As to being afraid of a confrontation -- I wouldn't have confronted him, but if CPS told him about the incident, he would have known it was me. What I didn't know was whether he knew my name. I do not want to endanger my own children for some crazy person seeking revenge.
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Anonymous wrote:I am a mandated reporter who makes 1-2 reports/week.

1. They don't tell who made the report, and in some cases it is very evident, in other cases it isn't. I have families mad at me because they think I called (I didn't, but won't disclose who did, if I know.)

2. Not all calls are investigated. Some calls get screened out. Some calls are taken as I&R calls (information and referral.) But even if a case isn't opened, the report is documented in case they get additional/future calls there will be a paper trail of reports.


Not true. To what jurisdiction are you referring? Where we live, CPS is mandated by law to go out and investigate, which involves ALL members of the household AND the school.


This is true, at least in Montgomery County. My husbands ex wife has called CPS on us multiple times for truly outlandish and crazy things. In those cases, CPS has placed a phone call to my husband and spoken to my stepson and the cases have been dismissed without a home investigation. In one case the CPS person came to our house because his ex gave the phone number incorrectly, she didn't step foot inside out house and was coming out just to let my husband know it was being dismissed.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am a mandated reporter who makes 1-2 reports/week.

1. They don't tell who made the report, and in some cases it is very evident, in other cases it isn't. I have families mad at me because they think I called (I didn't, but won't disclose who did, if I know.)

2. Not all calls are investigated. Some calls get screened out. Some calls are taken as I&R calls (information and referral.) But even if a case isn't opened, the report is documented in case they get additional/future calls there will be a paper trail of reports.


Not true. To what jurisdiction are you referring? Where we live, CPS is mandated by law to go out and investigate, which involves ALL members of the household AND the school.


This is true, at least in Montgomery County. My husbands ex wife has called CPS on us multiple times for truly outlandish and crazy things. In those cases, CPS has placed a phone call to my husband and spoken to my stepson and the cases have been dismissed without a home investigation. In one case the CPS person came to our house because his ex gave the phone number incorrectly, she didn't step foot inside out house and was coming out just to let my husband know it was being dismissed.


Wow, now that seems completely overboard. Why did they take his word for it? That seems crazy too!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Are you paranoid because everyone knows who called the county to complain about the neighbors' yards? Don't worry, that was OBVIOUS.


Say what?

A whiny neighbor who fabricates stories about neighbors' yards is a different situation than OP. OP doesn't seem to be whining here. OP seems genuinely concerned about a real situation - a child - not some petty neighbor with too much time on their hands.
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