So this must mean that some very high percentage of women are hypocrites, then. |
There are risks at any age. The 3 people I know who have children with Down syndrome all conveived and delivered when they were in their late 20's. Yes, the risk is high as you get older, but the risk is alawys there.
The biggest issue with 35+ is getting pregnant in the first place as fertility does decrease with age, but once you are pregnant the risk of abnormalities aren't much different. There have also been studie lately on the risk of older fathers an increased risk of autism. |
Why, yes, I believe it does mean that. (And also, that men are hypocrites as well, since the husbands also agree to this, in most cases.) |
Sad, but true on both counts. |
OP, I had a pregnancy with serious abnormalities in my 20s. Age changes the angle of the line on the graph, but the majority of people with SN kids had them in their 20s because more women have kids in their 20s. If you want another child, you can do prenatal testing and terminate a pregnancy with serious issues, but you could have done this when you were younger as well. |
I agree. Policy issues aside, I believe it is immoral to abort Down's babies, especially with the very clear information we have these days about the dramatic increase in risk with older moms. There are long waiting lists of families who wish to adopt DS babies, so that if a family feels unable to care for the child, someone else gladly would help. Down Syndrome is a significant though not insurmountable abnormality. We do ourselves, our society and indeed all of humanity a grave disservice (reminiscent of Nazi Germany) by perpetuating the myth that these people are "too much" to care for or that they would be better off dead. OP, I think you will find very few women who are afraid to get pregnant beyond 35 in the DC Metro area. This is when childbearing tends to happen for many of the educated, career-track families around here. And, the vast majority will abort if they discover an abnormality. If you are comfortable following this trend, then you can rest assured that you are in good company and should not have any concerns about getting pregnant at 37. And of course, the chances are highly in your favor that your baby will turn out to be genetically "perfect". |
Yet, you personally believe that they are better off not being born - because they might demand too much sacrifice. I myself find this absolutely vile and truly horrifying. What the hell have we come to, people?! |
It's not that DS fetuses are better off dead - it is (healthy) children that are born in their place + families, on balance, that are better off. For every child born with DS there is another child not born for the simple reason that people only desire some fixed number of children. |
I take it you are one of those pro-choice posters as well? |
I can't stand this kind of casual utilitarianism. I never really noticed how much people rely on these kinds of arguments until I had a premature baby (now a smart, lovely, charming toddler). For me, being pro choice means that human life is never is not interchangeable or reducible to a simple arithmetic problem. |
This is some pretty convoluted mental gymnastics you are playing here (unless your post was meant to be sarcastic - hard to tell here). Why do you - or why does anyone - believe that a family would be "worse off" with one of their two children having DS? A bigger question -- why do we feel that struggles with our children, be they emotional or financial, make our lives worse? As a culture we have to really look at ourselves and question this notion that personal sacrifice or suffering causes life to be worse. I think we should all be asking ourselves: why are we so SURE that we cannot handle unexpected challenges that come our way? |
Actually, I believe people discard them in disgust. A sense of repulsion overcomes all other senses. Yet, ones logical and rational brains must come up with a reasonable sounding argument, so people say that "the burden will be too great" either financially or physically. This, coming from families who have managed to accomplish what less than 1% of people world-wide have been able to accomplish in their lives; who are by every count the most successful, most highly educated and wealthiest of all living humans on the planet. But, they "can't" handle a simpleton child - heaven forbid, the burden! The challenge! So rich, yet we are emotionally and morally bankrupt. Even the very temporary strain of simply carrying a child to term and handing it over to another loving family to raise, would be too much of an emotional burden. Too much! Instead, sacrifice the baby on the altar of moral impoverishment. |
There are already 4 billion people in the world. One less child is not going to hurt anything. |
I am pregnant at age 40. If my fetus tests for T21 I will abort. At my age, a child with such a disability may well need assistance its whole life, will outlive me, and our "wonderful" American society I do not trust to care for such a human being. America doesn't even care for its non-disabled seniors who can fight for their needs better than a disabled person. So I would not knowingly have a child faced with that kind of fate. |
This thread is totally about birth defects, but there are other aspects to AMA, like having the energy/money for another when older. |