So sad for my son

[Anonymous]

We're experiencing this in 8th. Surprised it took this long tbh. We spoke with the coach and he gave a speech on sportsmanship etc. I think that was helpful. I'm not afraid to pull my kiddo for another team if need be. Bullying doesn't toughen up your kid, it just damages their self esteem to the point of no return. Don't listen to the bullies on the board

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Find a new team

That's not helpful, good lord.

It is exactly the right answer. You can't make a group of kids be nice to your kid at this age. Find a place where your kid is valued.

From thin air?

There are a lot of baseball leagues and teams, even rec. What school has a baseball team for 6th graders by the way?

It's called softball at some MCPS MS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, I'm sorry for your son. The same thing happened to my son with baseball. That said, grade six is the last year of Little League and often the most politcal. After that, there are lots of other options.

FWIW, my kid used to love baseball, and then soured on the sport bc of this behavior. He now loves a completely different sport with a completely different set of kids.

Same thing happened with my DC. Played little league until the end and school ball through 8th grade - after that quit the sport due to clique-y, judgy, hyper competitive teammates (zero of which will go to the MLB). It stinks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We're experiencing this in 8th. Surprised it took this long tbh. We spoke with the coach and he gave a speech on sportsmanship etc. I think that was helpful. I'm not afraid to pull my kiddo for another team if need be. Bullying doesn't toughen up your kid, it just damages their self esteem to the point of no return. Don't listen to the bullies on the board

Agreed. Also, the advice to try and be friends with the parents and/or kids to improve social status in hopes it will stop is the saddest thing ever. As adults, we can often strategically navigate the politics of the workplace or hobbies to get what we want. But a sixth grader entering puberty? To extend the 2000s movie analogy, there is always the trope of the one kid in the cool kid friend group who doesn't quite fit in and seems to serve as a punching bag for the others. They take it so that they can be included. Is that what these people want for their children?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Find a new team

That's not helpful, good lord.

It is exactly the right answer. You can't make a group of kids be nice to your kid at this age. Find a place where your kid is valued.

From thin air?

There are a lot of baseball leagues and teams, even rec. What school has a baseball team for 6th graders by the way?

I don’t know where OP is but Prince William County has middle school sports, including baseball.

[Anonymous]

New team. That’s the only reasonable solution.

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Anonymous wrote:Leave the team. This is not a healthy environment for him.

Maybe parents should teach their kids how to act and behave.

And maybe pigs will fly.

You have to deal with it as is.

DP. I deal with it as it is by getting the worthless kids and immoral adults in charge in trouble.

It’s fair to try but not sure what “trouble” means in this instance. MS boys aren’t being inclusive and the parents aren’t….parenting well? The coach isn’t the greatest?

I mean, it sucks but what trouble?

I would first have a serious talk with the coach. If it didn’t work, I would threaten to sue and be willing to follow through. If he agrees to negotiate, the “cool boys” should be on a tight leash.

Even if OP’s son leaves the team, he deserves to prevail; and as members of the community, I feel that we shouldn’t pass our problems to the next victim.

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Anonymous wrote:Leave the team. This is not a healthy environment for him.

Maybe parents should teach their kids how to act and behave.

And maybe pigs will fly.

You have to deal with it as is.

DP. I deal with it as it is by getting the worthless kids and immoral adults in charge in trouble.

It’s fair to try but not sure what “trouble” means in this instance. MS boys aren’t being inclusive and the parents aren’t….parenting well? The coach isn’t the greatest?

I mean, it sucks but what trouble?

I would first have a serious talk with the coach. If it didn’t work, I would threaten to sue and be willing to follow through. If he agrees to negotiate, the “cool boys” should be on a tight leash.

Even if OP’s son leaves the team, he deserves to prevail; and as members of the community, I feel that we shouldn’t pass our problems to the next victim.

lol

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Leave the team. This is not a healthy environment for him.

Maybe parents should teach their kids how to act and behave.

And maybe pigs will fly.

You have to deal with it as is.

DP. I deal with it as it is by getting the worthless kids and immoral adults in charge in trouble.

It’s fair to try but not sure what “trouble” means in this instance. MS boys aren’t being inclusive and the parents aren’t….parenting well? The coach isn’t the greatest?

I mean, it sucks but what trouble?

I would first have a serious talk with the coach. If it didn’t work, I would threaten to sue and be willing to follow through. If he agrees to negotiate, the “cool boys” should be on a tight leash.

Even if OP’s son leaves the team, he deserves to prevail; and as members of the community, I feel that we shouldn’t pass our problems to the next victim.

Definitely don’t do this OP- it will make things so much worse for your son. And sue for what? Bad parenting and daddyball? LOL.

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Anonymous wrote:Leave the team. This is not a healthy environment for him.

Maybe parents should teach their kids how to act and behave.

And maybe pigs will fly.

You have to deal with it as is.

DP. I deal with it as it is by getting the worthless kids and immoral adults in charge in trouble.

It’s fair to try but not sure what “trouble” means in this instance. MS boys aren’t being inclusive and the parents aren’t….parenting well? The coach isn’t the greatest?

I mean, it sucks but what trouble?

I would first have a serious talk with the coach. If it didn’t work, I would threaten to sue and be willing to follow through. If he agrees to negotiate, the “cool boys” should be on a tight leash.

Even if OP’s son leaves the team, he deserves to prevail; and as members of the community, I feel that we shouldn’t pass our problems to the next victim.

Definitely don’t do this OP- it will make things so much worse for your son. And sue for what? Bad parenting and daddyball? LOL.

It made things much better for my DD. It was a school situation, though.

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Anonymous wrote:Find a new team

That's not helpful, good lord.

It's literally the only solution.

Maybe PP could have phrased it better to be like "start the conversation about finding a new team next year" bc it does take time for the kids to wrap their heads around that.

But sticking with this team and this group is not the right course

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We're experiencing this in 8th. Surprised it took this long tbh. We spoke with the coach and he gave a speech on sportsmanship etc. I think that was helpful. I'm not afraid to pull my kiddo for another team if need be. Bullying doesn't toughen up your kid, it just damages their self esteem to the point of no return. Don't listen to the bullies on the board

Agreed. Also, the advice to try and be friends with the parents and/or kids to improve social status in hopes it will stop is the saddest thing ever. As adults, we can often strategically navigate the politics of the workplace or hobbies to get what we want. But a sixth grader entering puberty? To extend the 2000s movie analogy, there is always the trope of the one kid in the cool kid friend group who doesn't quite fit in and seems to serve as a punching bag for the others. They take it so that they can be included. Is that what these people want for their children?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your post is so baseball you didn't even have to reveal the sport and I already knew. It's called "dadball" for a reason. If your kid's dad isn't one of the staff and your kid isn't friends with one of the dada's boys, good luck.

Long term, dadball is one of the worst sports in terms of time and money invested vs probability of having an adult professional career. The best that college dadball players can hope for is living on food stamps for several years while playing for a farm team. Middle school is a good time to transition to another sport with a different parent culture. Track and field parents do not seem as unhinged in my experience.

FYI - it's not "dadball"

It's "Daddybally", which is much more fitting and insulting. Bc it suggests that the coach's kids are babies

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find a new team

That's not helpful, good lord.

It's literally the only solution.

Maybe PP could have phrased it better to be like "start the conversation about finding a new team next year" bc it does take time for the kids to wrap their heads around that.

But sticking with this team and this group is not the right course

DP. He can leave, and maybe he should, but it’s bad for the boy to leave DEFEATED.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Leave the team. This is not a healthy environment for him.

Maybe parents should teach their kids how to act and behave.

And maybe pigs will fly.

You have to deal with it as is.

DP. I deal with it as it is by getting the worthless kids and immoral adults in charge in trouble.

It’s fair to try but not sure what “trouble” means in this instance. MS boys aren’t being inclusive and the parents aren’t….parenting well? The coach isn’t the greatest?

I mean, it sucks but what trouble?

I would first have a serious talk with the coach. If it didn’t work, I would threaten to sue and be willing to follow through. If he agrees to negotiate, the “cool boys” should be on a tight leash.

Even if OP’s son leaves the team, he deserves to prevail; and as members of the community, I feel that we shouldn’t pass our problems to the next victim.

Ok. And what would your case be? My little timmy bats 11th but has an OPS that is .055 points higher than the kid batting 8th?