lol me: "women are held to a different beauty standard and it's unfair" you: "Leave it to a man to twist gender discrimination against women to somehow paint himself as a victim" and "you will NEVER get it" Way to alienate allies. I hope your lonely rage brings you comfort. |
Women impose it on themselves, lol. |
I WFH with an immediate team of mostly women. When it’s just women in a meeting, it’s highly likely that no one puts makeup on. Hair’s often wet or pulled up in a quick pony tail. Clothing is t-shirts and sweatshirts. No one blinks because we it’s a relief to not have to take the time to put on makeup or fix our hair sometimes. We know we’re getting our work done, we don’t care. When the meetings expand to include more men, there’s an unstated expectation that you put more effort into your appearance. Not to attract, but to be taken seriously. The men, meanwhile, can show up the same each and every time. Throw a baseball cap on and join the Zoom. |
The patriarchy at this point is basically just women v women. And religion. |
I had written a long-winded post but this pretty much sums it up |
Try working in the medical pharmacy industry. |
She said she blew out her own hair not done professionally |
When I worked in recruiting and in hospitality in the mid - 80’s there was a strict dress code for women. No pants and you had to wear pantyhose. |
Sure you do. |
How about how elite female athletes have to show off their bodies (become eye candy) and men don’t. Examples: volleyball and gymnastics |
I wear a little bit of makeup (bad skin) but never blow out my hair LOL. I'm trying to bring beachy waves back. |
Pretending that our society doesn’t reward women for dolling up doesn’t make that true, unfortunately. And suggesting it’s simply the woman’s fault for feeling that immense pressure and “choosing” to do so is essentially victim-blaming and does nothing to help the actual problem. |
If you are pale then you really need some makeup to not look washed out on Zoom/Teams. With light makeup I don't look like I'm wearing makeup, I just don't look like a ghost. I don't like looking like a featureless ghost so I spend 2 minutes every morning putting makeup on, then 10 seconds a couple times a day reapplying lipstick. Yes, men don't do this but it's also not that difficult to do. |
Men can be bald or have whatever hair God gave them but every single woman in a managerial position where I work has stick straight, shoulder length hair. Shorter is too matronly and absolutely no curl whatsoever! It's unprofessional! The black women wear wigs. |
So what if you look pale? What’s wrong with light skin tones? Wear all the makeup you want, just be honest that it’s an attempt to be more attractive and perpetuating the patriarchy. |