This ! We've had parties at those play places in a party room and I've seen parents on the fringes with other kids. At the end of the party I give out favors and if I have extras they get one, otherwise they were pretty invisible. It was awesome. |
He knows where to find her which will be in the party time just in time for food, cake and goody bags. Every time. OP is planning on having him fed too. Not even going to consider getting a ride home from the game. I assume this is on the weekend. Sounds suspect that the husband has a work meeting, while working from home, on the weekend. An unlikely story. |
It’s not ok in a public place as the hosts cannot watch all the kids easily. I would never drop off. |
You ask if you can pay for your invited child's sibling. The host can say yes or no. Perhaps the venue has been entirely booked and no other guests are allowed.
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It’s rude not to tell them. |
100% host may not have enough food now and it will look rude if she says this extra kid can’t eat. Un f*$king believable. |
What? Not rude at all. This is what a normal person would do. She doesn’t need to get the host’s permission to take a child to the play place. He isn’t part of the party- and she isn’t making him part of the party. There is zero issue here |
Nobody has eyes on all the kids at all times. |
They won’t care. I would honestly think it is weird to even bring it up. Sibling is paid for my OP and playing on this own, in public, with 20 other kids also not part of the party, Nothing to see here |
+1 Send your 9 year old home w/ a teammate or send your 5 year old with a preschool Classmate to the party. A 9 year old doesn’t belong at a preschool party |
+1 it’s so annoying to see these older kids at preschool places. Yeah he’s not part of the party, but what if he’s thirsty or hungry and just happens to be near for food room? Host will look rude if she doesn’t offer him anything and now she may not have enough food. He can be dropped off at home with your “working on a weekend” husband and you can be a bit late to the party. But absolutely do not bring your older kid. Lame AF. |
OP - if you show up with your older kid unannounced I can guarantee your other child won’t be invited to the party next year. I made a point to not invite people who sprung extra guests rudely on me. |
+3 this is the way to go. Make a deal where your DS goes home with a teammate and you drive/host the teammate another time. |
A normal person doesn't bring a much older kid to a preschool party and then demand he play alone. Why would a kid want to do that anyway? Have dad pick him up (working from home on a zoom call the entire time? yeah, right!) or send him from the game with a friend. |
Make other arrangements for your son. |