Do you cuss at your children?

[Anonymous]

oh please. how am i much worse? i cringe when i see people hittting, pushing, screaming, belittling, shaming, and cussing at their kids. i just do.

[Anonymous]

So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh get off your high horse, OP.

I recently got laid off. Then I promptly paid $400 for DD's birthday party, $500 towards orthodontia, and $200 for her ice skating. Right after that DD overheard me venting to a friend about how scared I was, rent was coming up, etc.

Not a half hour later we were at the drugstore and DD came running over from the toy aisle with some piece of junk made in China that was totally un-needed and I'd just finished telling DD on the walk that we were then going to the grocery store to get her the special soft food she needs due to her teeth issues and I lost it and was like "Are you f*cking KIDDING me?!"

So, Dear Prissy OP,

Please stop thinking you know the whole background before you judge. Bravo to you for not cursing ever in your life. I curse. My kid will live.
Signed,
Stressed out blah blah blah mom who curses at her kid sometimes and isn't worried one wit about it,

Cursing at her in that context isn't the bad part, but making sure she knows how stressed you are about money IS. Don't let her feel that burden.

Meh. I'm not priss and have been known to curse like a sailor. I would not speak to my child that way. You can communicate the frustration w/o the cursing. Frankly, I picked up the habit from my parents who cursed every 5 minutes. I don't like that I curse as often as I do (or have) and I think it sounds terrible for the most part.

And, don't use your situation as a reason. Lots of people are stressed for lots of different reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:oh please. how am i much worse? i cringe when i see people hittting, pushing, screaming, belittling, shaming, and cussing at their kids. i just do.

IMO, you are worse because you felt no compassion for her. Your just judged her, and then posted here to shame her.

I don't in any way agree with cursing or otherwise hurting at children, but judgmental and self-satisfied people make my blood boil, too. And I am aware that I am judging you, OP, and am working to find my compassion for you. It must have been very gut-renching to witness a mom being mean to her kids.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I have cussed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I have witnessed what you mentioned. I see it all the time on the bus in particular. It definitely seems more common among lower income AA moms. I know they are stressed, working crappy jobs, and relying on public transportation. but it is NOT OK to curse at you children. If thats how they act in public, imagine what is going on behind closed doors. Its not being judgmental. Its thinking about being decent and kind to children who aren't to blame for the bad decisions of parents.

Not sure what the point of this statement is but my hometown is probably as white as they come and there are plenty of non AA moms cursing AT their kids.

[Anonymous]

OP, some people are trash. That's all there is to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, some people are trash. That's all there is to it.

Calling people "trash" is cussing too - and people who are not trash would not cuss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, some people are trash. That's all there is to it.

Calling people "trash" is cussing too - and people who are not trash would not cuss.

"Trash" is not a cuss word. I would address the "people who are not trash would not cuss," but it is either a total non-sequitur or an utter failure of an attempt at logic on your part. Put down the wine and try again.

[Anonymous]

OP, If you're honestly interested in an answer to the question you pose in the subject of this post, and not just in humblebragging about what an excellent parent you are, here you go:

Yep! I cuss directly at my children. All the time. While they both picked up casual expressions around 2 years of age ("What is this shit?" "It's fucking cold!" etc.), they have now evolved to direct insults ("You fucking godbag!" "What a sanctimonious cunt!")

Of course, you'll never hear any of this. That's just "trashy." But please know that I have done my job as a responsible parent by making sure my children are linguistically equipped to sling mud with the best, when needed. Moreover, they understand that there is both a time and place for "no no words" (Home? go for it. School? Not so much. In the car? Are the windows up or down?).

I hope I'm present the day your kid(s) let loose with some true vulgarity, aimed straight at their overbearing, tightly-puckered ass of a parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, If you're honestly interested in an answer to the question you pose in the subject of this post, and not just in humblebragging about what an excellent parent you are, here you go:

Yep! I cuss directly at my children. All the time. While they both picked up casual expressions around 2 years of age ("What is this shit?" "It's fucking cold!" etc.), they have now evolved to direct insults ("You fucking godbag!" "What a sanctimonious cunt!")

Of course, you'll never hear any of this. That's just "trashy." But please know that I have done my job as a responsible parent by making sure my children are linguistically equipped to sling mud with the best, when needed. Moreover, they understand that there is both a time and place for "no no words" (Home? go for it. School? Not so much. In the car? Are the windows up or down?).

I hope I'm present the day your kid(s) let loose with some true vulgarity, aimed straight at their overbearing, tightly-puckered ass of a parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, If you're honestly interested in an answer to the question you pose in the subject of this post, and not just in humblebragging about what an excellent parent you are, here you go:

Yep! I cuss directly at my children. All the time. While they both picked up casual expressions around 2 years of age ("What is this shit?" "It's fucking cold!" etc.), they have now evolved to direct insults ("You fucking godbag!" "What a sanctimonious cunt!")

Of course, you'll never hear any of this. That's just "trashy." But please know that I have done my job as a responsible parent by making sure my children are linguistically equipped to sling mud with the best, when needed. Moreover, they understand that there is both a time and place for "no no words" (Home? go for it. School? Not so much. In the car? Are the windows up or down?).

I hope I'm present the day your kid(s) let loose with some true vulgarity, aimed straight at their overbearing, tightly-puckered ass of a parent.

Hmm...turned the tanning bed up too high, did we?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, If you're honestly interested in an answer to the question you pose in the subject of this post, and not just in humblebragging about what an excellent parent you are, here you go:

Yep! I cuss directly at my children. All the time. While they both picked up casual expressions around 2 years of age ("What is this shit?" "It's fucking cold!" etc.), they have now evolved to direct insults ("You fucking godbag!" "What a sanctimonious cunt!")

Of course, you'll never hear any of this. That's just "trashy." But please know that I have done my job as a responsible parent by making sure my children are linguistically equipped to sling mud with the best, when needed. Moreover, they understand that there is both a time and place for "no no words" (Home? go for it. School? Not so much. In the car? Are the windows up or down?).

I hope I'm present the day your kid(s) let loose with some true vulgarity, aimed straight at their overbearing, tightly-puckered ass of a parent.

Snooki? Is that you dear?

[Anonymous]

We never, ever swore at, about or even around our kids. It just isn't necessary. I didn't set too many rules of behavior for my own boys, but that was one taboo.

[Anonymous]

Not really AT them but definitely in front of them. My boyfriend and I both do. It's a total non-issue.