Notify party host I will bring extra kid (pay privately) or not

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This doesn’t make sense. You can’t watch a five and nine year old in different areas at the same time.

A 9 year old does not need to be watched.

I have a one and wouldn’t leave them by themselves in public venue. That’s bananas.

Being in the building, at a typical kids place like the zoo is mentioning, with a younger sibling is not alone.
And sure not every kid could handle it, but some certainly could.
I absolutely let my kid play without staying with me at that age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This doesn’t make sense. You can’t watch a five and nine year old in different areas at the same time.

A 9 year old does not need to be watched.

I have a one and wouldn’t leave them by themselves in public venue. That’s bananas.

Being in the building, at a typical kids place like the zoo is mentioning, with a younger sibling is not alone.
And sure not every kid could handle it, but some certainly could.
I absolutely let my kid play without staying with me at that age.

lol, autocorrect is crazy. Like the OP is mentioning, not zoo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This doesn’t make sense. You can’t watch a five and nine year old in different areas at the same time.

A 9 year old does not need to be watched.

Nor does a 9 year old want to be at a preschool play space. Kindergarten is fine for drop-off, op. If you aren't comfortable with that, send your older kid home with someone else from game.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You text them and say “Hey, I will need to have DS with us, is that okay? Obviously we will pay for his admission”

Someone did this for my kid’s birthday and it was fine. I was even able to scrape together an extra goodie bag for the sibling.

This is perfect. It’s a public place and your kid has every right to be there, on your dime of course.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I have decided to just not to say anything in advance and just pay for his admission. They both have been there a few times before, and I don't need to watch him. He knows where to find me. It is the 5 year old that I need to take her to use bathroom, wash hands and make sure that she is safe.

Rude and bizarre but you do you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You text them and say “Hey, I will need to have DS with us, is that okay? Obviously we will pay for his admission”

Someone did this for my kid’s birthday and it was fine. I was even able to scrape together an extra goodie bag for the sibling.

See, I would be like you, but DCUm is full of people ready to take offense at anything. path of least resistance: just show up, pay, and make sure extra kid avoids the party room.

This ! We've had parties at those play places in a party room and I've seen parents on the fringes with other kids. At the end of the party I give out favors and if I have extras they get one, otherwise they were pretty invisible. It was awesome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I have decided to just not to say anything in advance and just pay for his admission. They both have been there a few times before, and I don't need to watch him. He knows where to find me. It is the 5 year old that I need to take her to use bathroom, wash hands and make sure that she is safe.

Rude and bizarre but you do you

He knows where to find her which will be in the party time just in time for food, cake and goody bags. Every time. OP is planning on having him fed too. Not even going to consider getting a ride home from the game. I assume this is on the weekend. Sounds suspect that the husband has a work meeting, while working from home, on the weekend. An unlikely story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This doesn’t make sense. You can’t watch a five and nine year old in different areas at the same time.

A 9 year old does not need to be watched.

Nor does a 9 year old want to be at a preschool play space. Kindergarten is fine for drop-off, op. If you aren't comfortable with that, send your older kid home with someone else from game.

It’s not ok in a public place as the hosts cannot watch all the kids easily. I would never drop off.

[Anonymous]

You ask if you can pay for your invited child's sibling. The host can say yes or no. Perhaps the venue has been entirely booked and no other guests are allowed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I have decided to just not to say anything in advance and just pay for his admission. They both have been there a few times before, and I don't need to watch him. He knows where to find me. It is the 5 year old that I need to take her to use bathroom, wash hands and make sure that she is safe.

It’s rude not to tell them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I have decided to just not to say anything in advance and just pay for his admission. They both have been there a few times before, and I don't need to watch him. He knows where to find me. It is the 5 year old that I need to take her to use bathroom, wash hands and make sure that she is safe.

Rude and bizarre but you do you

He knows where to find her which will be in the party time just in time for food, cake and goody bags. Every time. OP is planning on having him fed too. Not even going to consider getting a ride home from the game. I assume this is on the weekend. Sounds suspect that the husband has a work meeting, while working from home, on the weekend. An unlikely story.

100% host may not have enough food now and it will look rude if she says this extra kid can’t eat. Un f*$king believable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I have decided to just not to say anything in advance and just pay for his admission. They both have been there a few times before, and I don't need to watch him. He knows where to find me. It is the 5 year old that I need to take her to use bathroom, wash hands and make sure that she is safe.

Rude and bizarre but you do you

What? Not rude at all.
This is what a normal person would do. She doesn’t need to get the host’s permission to take a child to the play place. He isn’t part of the party- and she isn’t making him part of the party. There is zero issue here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This doesn’t make sense. You can’t watch a five and nine year old in different areas at the same time.

A 9 year old does not need to be watched.

Nor does a 9 year old want to be at a preschool play space. Kindergarten is fine for drop-off, op. If you aren't comfortable with that, send your older kid home with someone else from game.

It’s not ok in a public place as the hosts cannot watch all the kids easily. I would never drop off.

Nobody has eyes on all the kids at all times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I have decided to just not to say anything in advance and just pay for his admission. They both have been there a few times before, and I don't need to watch him. He knows where to find me. It is the 5 year old that I need to take her to use bathroom, wash hands and make sure that she is safe.

It’s rude not to tell them.

They won’t care. I would honestly think it is weird to even bring it up. Sibling is paid for my OP and playing on this own, in public, with 20 other kids also not part of the party,
Nothing to see here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe your other kid can get a ride home from the game or go home with a friend for awhile. A 9 yr old doesn’t belong at a preschool party

+1
Send your 9 year old home w/ a teammate or send your 5 year old with a preschool
Classmate to the party. A 9 year old doesn’t belong at a preschool party