There was not a chance he wasnt aware.. he's lying to you because he doesnt want to lose his weekly sex date. |
That’s probably it. The man lives on his phone. It’s his life. I can’t imagine him not being aware. Ugh. I am moving on, albeit slowly. |
+1 million |
Sorry, OP, but good thing you recognized this. It means your picker is still a-ok. Next! |
I’m sorry. That’s not a good sign. There is no rational explanation. You have a cheater on your hands. I suspect you’re better off leaving now be later. |
Haven’t read the responses but my gut is that only seeing someone you are dating for a year 5-6x a month is very weird. I mean yes of course then he’s also doing something else. If you were really into someone you would be seeing them a lot more often than that |
Why do posters trickle truth? |
Immature and toxic both of you. Just be done with this guy and grow up |
Yeah but is it that unusual if we both have kids & were not ready to merge our lives together? |
I understand why you are calling my behavior immature & toxic. But when I was married, I 100 percent trusted ex DH until he cheated. I never went thru his phone, email, etc. I feel like I can’t be that trusting ever again, which is why I was trying to see if my bf had an OLD profile. I only left my profile on after I found his to figure out what to do. This is a complicated part of dating that I’m still trying to figure out — how do we draw these digital boundaries. Bf reached out again and he is swearing he left it on and forgot to delete, with no notifications that it was on. I feel so confused. |
I'm genuinely curious how you discovered he'd changed the profile if ... well ... you weren't browsing FB Dating yourself? |
I’m married and didn’t live in the world of social media and online dating.
When I was first dating my boyfriend, I made a match.com profile. I think my single friend had it and I was helping her make hers. I put up a pic and got hundreds of messages like the first 2 days. It was flattering. I never met anyone and forgot about it. I remember DH, then boyfriend, finding out about it and being upset. I had barely messaged with a handful of people. He got over it and we eventually got married and had 3 kids. I dont know if those accounts expire. I may never have cancelled it. |
If you both have a family already, I think it’s better to keep it casual anyway. |
It's over, OP. Stop ruminating on it. There's no getting back together -- while he shouldn't have done that, your impulse to constantly monitor his behavior is unsustainable and toxic. This was never going to last. You're not ready for another relationship. I hope you finding healing in therapy. Then, maybe, you might be. |
You are simply not ready for a relationship. That is reason enough to end things. You have children who should be your first priority. Anything which causes you pain, doubt and distraction is not good for you and it is bad for your kids. Scrub your OLD accounts, work on yourself and healing from your marriage and then try again. |