Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We talk about all kinds of stuff.
I tell him about interesting things I read on DCUM. He tells me about funny memes he saw on Reddit.
He popped by while I was reading this thread and I mentioned the post by the mom who has little kids and no family nearby, which led to us talking about all the ways we found to find a few minutes of "alone time" while the kids were young. I reminded him of the one time he was trying to tell me something that had happened at work that day but the kids were boinging around underfoot and he finally said, "never mind, I'll tell you when the kids are grown and moved out of the house".
Now we finally have time to have uninterrupted conversations.
Today so far we have talked about the weather, the trash guys and whether or not they picked up the yard debris we had put out at the road before the storm came, our dentist, our kids, our pets, food, laundry. Lies our parents told us growing up, like "if you don't quit crying your face will freeze like that" . Who we have had the most fun playing cards against humanity with over the years. Whether or not to invite someone over this weekend to eat chinese food with us and who to invite and then I launched into my usual list of what all housecleaning needs to be done if we are going to have people over.
It's great these responses, like this one, show you care about your spouse and talk. But the inane nature of the conversations . . . make me sad for what's coming. And is forcing me to think about what the devil we talked about BEFORE having kids. I simply cannot remember what we did, talked about, etc. And we did a lot of stuff in the "kid years" that were not kid related. But they def take up a lot of space (by choice and which we loved).
I don't think these conversations are any more inane than the conversations younger people have. When we were young, we talked about the music we were listening to, the band we were going to see, the new movie coming out, the crazy relationship a friend was in, the funny thing that happened at work, whose turn it was to clean the bathroom, if we were saving enough money for the trip we wanted to take, whether we should move to a cheaper city, the books we were reading, what we would name our first child. It's not that different but some of the issues were weightier.
Life in general is just more boring when you are older. There are fewer big decisions to ponder. You probably go out less and you've been working with the same people for 10+ years and all your friends are in similar circumstances or you've talked them to death lol, so there is just less to talk about.
But living a comparatively boring life doesn't mean you feel bored. I don't. Or maybe it's more accurate to say that, at 58, I find that living a boring life punctuated by occasional bursts of fun/excitement (vacations e.g.) is pretty awesome.