Mom Cliques. I had no idea.

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Anonymous wrote:I think this wins the prize for DCUMiest thread of all time. Well done, everybody.

Yep and every once in awhile OP shows up to drop another turd. Most recently they are all SAHM. What's next, they are all having a meeting to discuss their MLM business and it turns out that's why she wasn't invited?

Yeah, OP is a troll. Well done.

It is starting to seem that way. I had some sympathy but I'm not on board for the SAHM bashing and stereotyping. Most SAHM are doing unpaid unglamorous labor that doesn't give them time for afternoon winery meetups. Sheesh.

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Anonymous wrote:The mean girl pta vibe is heavy handed here. The defensive posture in favor of this group and antagonistic approach to op is wild.

+1, we actually don't get much info from OP here, certainly not enough to draw conclusions. The people who are assuming good intent by this group and hurling insults at OP are simply showing themselves up.

Seems the opposite to me. All we know is 15 women got together for lunch. Nothing nefarious about that. Why are they suddenly a “mean girl” mom clique? Literally nothing sail alludes to this- OP is just peeved she wasn’t invited. Which in itself isn’t mean spirited

It's typical DCUM. People loooove to dog-pile on the OP and project their own issues. The first couple pages are all mean moms telling OP it's her fault and she made it awkward based on very little info. Says tons about them.

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It’s because Op came out swinging against a group of women who dared to go anywhere without her. She’s not going to get the sisterhood rallying around her when she comes out like that.

Swinging seems intense. She wrote a potentially snarky text to a friend. It may have been reactive but not completely deranged like so many are implying. Honestly does no one have compassion or genuine friendships around here?

If a friend sent me a snarky text because I happened to have social plans that didn’t include her, I would not be clamoring to get together with her anytime soon. Who the heck wants to be guilted for having a social life that doesn’t revolve entirely around inviting that one person along to everything.

If I ran into a couple friends out in a big group I didn’t know I would smile and wave. If I happened to be in close proximity I may make pleasantries and ask how the wine is and if there’s anything they’d recommend ordering for my event. If OP had been friendly maybe she would have been introduced to the group and invited next time. She’ll never be invited now after her little tantrum. And would she really even want an invite given out of some sort of guilt trip?

If OP was my friend, I would have waved her over and asked if she had time to join us for a glass of wine.

That is good manners. Many on this board seemingly have none.

If Queen Bee gets mad and casts me out of the inner circle, then so be it. The rest of the wine mom minions can decide to hang out with and be ruled by a 15-year-old mean girl, in a grown adult's body.

Exactly. Even if it was not school related. That’s my friend. Hey, babe! So cool to see you. Come over?

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you made unnecessarily awkward. People are allowed to meet up without you. If you had just been friendly and not made an issue of it, you might have been invited to the next one.

mom-clique mom has entered the group chat.

you might have been invited to the next one.


Jr. high all over again.

Seems very Jr high to be offended and send a snarky text. Normal person would have waved, said hi, moved on.

This.

Normal person would have invited OP to join in the fun with the table of people.

Normal people would assume OP had other plans…she wasn’t just free range at a winery on a Friday.

Explain?

Like if you and your friends were at a restaurant having lunch, and a mom you know also walked in…wouldn’t you assume she had lunch plans with someone else and couldn’t join you?

Maybe. Bit is also check in and invite her to sit and chat if she had time, which she could accept or not. That’s normal behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you made unnecessarily awkward. People are allowed to meet up without you. If you had just been friendly and not made an issue of it, you might have been invited to the next one.

mom-clique mom has entered the group chat.

you might have been invited to the next one.


Jr. high all over again.

Seems very Jr high to be offended and send a snarky text. Normal person would have waved, said hi, moved on.

This.

Normal person would have invited OP to join in the fun with the table of people.

Normal people would assume OP had other plans…she wasn’t just free range at a winery on a Friday.

Explain?

Like if you and your friends were at a restaurant having lunch, and a mom you know also walked in…wouldn’t you assume she had lunch plans with someone else and couldn’t join you?

Maybe. Bit is also check in and invite her to sit and chat if she had time, which she could accept or not. That’s normal behavior.

Why was OP so shocked at seeing them. She "was like WHAT!?" Like how dare they have a life without her. Bizarre.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you made unnecessarily awkward. People are allowed to meet up without you. If you had just been friendly and not made an issue of it, you might have been invited to the next one.

mom-clique mom has entered the group chat.

you might have been invited to the next one.


Jr. high all over again.

Seems very Jr high to be offended and send a snarky text. Normal person would have waved, said hi, moved on.

This.

Normal person would have invited OP to join in the fun with the table of people.

Normal people would assume OP had other plans…she wasn’t just free range at a winery on a Friday.

Explain?

Like if you and your friends were at a restaurant having lunch, and a mom you know also walked in…wouldn’t you assume she had lunch plans with someone else and couldn’t join you?

Maybe. Bit is also check in and invite her to sit and chat if she had time, which she could accept or not. That’s normal behavior.

Why was OP so shocked at seeing them. She "was like WHAT!?" Like how dare they have a life without her. Bizarre.

+1 The language she uses is so over-the-top. Even the title of this thread is really irksome—“I had no idea.” Really? You had no idea that people meet up for lunch sometimes while the kids are in school? Was that your first time leaving home, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here—I didn’t ask for your kind opinions on my mom clique story. Believe the post asks to share your favorite mom clique story.

Your’s is my favorite.

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Anonymous wrote: Ran into about 15 or so moms from our elementary school having wine and apps at a local winery on Friday around noon. I was like WHAT???? I didn’t realize mom cliques are still a thing. They felt uber uncomfortable seeing me there. I texted one of the mom’s later and said I didn’t realize there was an invite only Friday gatherings. Bus stop interactions will be interesting on Monday! LMAO! Share your favorite mom clique story DCUM.

First of all… yeah you did “realize” this.
And second—this doesn’t even sound like a mom clique. 15 or so sounds like a pretty large gathering to which you just didn’t happen to be invited. (4-6 is a clique)
Just because you saw them gathering ince doesn’t mean it’s an “every Friday” thing.
And even if it were, you sound petty and immature, pointing it out in such a whiny butthurt way.
Chances are, if you’d just been casual about it and said “hey great to see you guys! Let me know when the next one is—I’d love to join!”—-then they probably would have included you in the next one.
Why? Because they aren’t 14.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you made unnecessarily awkward. People are allowed to meet up without you. If you had just been friendly and not made an issue of it, you might have been invited to the next one.

mom-clique mom has entered the group chat.

you might have been invited to the next one.


Jr. high all over again.

Seems very Jr high to be offended and send a snarky text. Normal person would have waved, said hi, moved on.

This.

Normal person would have invited OP to join in the fun with the table of people.

Normal people would assume OP had other plans…she wasn’t just free range at a winery on a Friday.

Explain?

Like if you and your friends were at a restaurant having lunch, and a mom you know also walked in…wouldn’t you assume she had lunch plans with someone else and couldn’t join you?

Maybe. Bit is also check in and invite her to sit and chat if she had time, which she could accept or not. That’s normal behavior.

Why was OP so shocked at seeing them. She "was like WHAT!?" Like how dare they have a life without her. Bizarre.

+1 The language she uses is so over-the-top. Even the title of this thread is really irksome—“I had no idea.” Really? You had no idea that people meet up for lunch sometimes while the kids are in school? Was that your first time leaving home, OP?

Sadly, OP seems to live for the drama—perceived or created.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you made unnecessarily awkward. People are allowed to meet up without you. If you had just been friendly and not made an issue of it, you might have been invited to the next one.

mom-clique mom has entered the group chat.

you might have been invited to the next one.


Jr. high all over again.

Seems very Jr high to be offended and send a snarky text. Normal person would have waved, said hi, moved on.

This.

Normal person would have invited OP to join in the fun with the table of people.

Normal people would assume OP had other plans…she wasn’t just free range at a winery on a Friday.

Explain?

Like if you and your friends were at a restaurant having lunch, and a mom you know also walked in…wouldn’t you assume she had lunch plans with someone else and couldn’t join you?

Maybe. Bit is also check in and invite her to sit and chat if she had time, which she could accept or not. That’s normal behavior.

Why was OP so shocked at seeing them. She "was like WHAT!?" Like how dare they have a life without her. Bizarre.

+1 The language she uses is so over-the-top. Even the title of this thread is really irksome—“I had no idea.” Really? You had no idea that people meet up for lunch sometimes while the kids are in school? Was that your first time leaving home, OP?

I guess women who SAHM have no business going somewhere during working hours lest they be seen out and about by someone who is supposed to be working. No socializing may occur between school drop off and school pick up. Ever.

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Anonymous wrote:The mean girl pta vibe is heavy handed here. The defensive posture in favor of this group and antagonistic approach to op is wild.

+1, we actually don't get much info from OP here, certainly not enough to draw conclusions. The people who are assuming good intent by this group and hurling insults at OP are simply showing themselves up.

Seems the opposite to me. All we know is 15 women got together for lunch. Nothing nefarious about that. Why are they suddenly a “mean girl” mom clique? Literally nothing sail alludes to this- OP is just peeved she wasn’t invited. Which in itself isn’t mean spirited

It's typical DCUM. People loooove to dog-pile on the OP and project their own issues. The first couple pages are all mean moms telling OP it's her fault and she made it awkward based on very little info. Says tons about them.

+10000

It’s because Op came out swinging against a group of women who dared to go anywhere without her. She’s not going to get the sisterhood rallying around her when she comes out like that.

Swinging seems intense. She wrote a potentially snarky text to a friend. It may have been reactive but not completely deranged like so many are implying. Honestly does no one have compassion or genuine friendships around here?

If a friend sent me a snarky text because I happened to have social plans that didn’t include her, I would not be clamoring to get together with her anytime soon. Who the heck wants to be guilted for having a social life that doesn’t revolve entirely around inviting that one person along to everything.

If I ran into a couple friends out in a big group I didn’t know I would smile and wave. If I happened to be in close proximity I may make pleasantries and ask how the wine is and if there’s anything they’d recommend ordering for my event. If OP had been friendly maybe she would have been introduced to the group and invited next time. She’ll never be invited now after her little tantrum. And would she really even want an invite given out of some sort of guilt trip?

If OP was my friend, I would have waved her over and asked if she had time to join us for a glass of wine.

That is good manners. Many on this board seemingly have none.

If Queen Bee gets mad and casts me out of the inner circle, then so be it. The rest of the wine mom minions can decide to hang out with and be ruled by a 15-year-old mean girl, in a grown adult's body.

Exactly. Even if it was not school related. That’s my friend. Hey, babe! So cool to see you. Come over?

Except that it sounds like they’re bus stop moms who see each other most days, and she was deliberately excluded.

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Anonymous wrote:The mean girl pta vibe is heavy handed here. The defensive posture in favor of this group and antagonistic approach to op is wild.

+1, we actually don't get much info from OP here, certainly not enough to draw conclusions. The people who are assuming good intent by this group and hurling insults at OP are simply showing themselves up.

Seems the opposite to me. All we know is 15 women got together for lunch. Nothing nefarious about that. Why are they suddenly a “mean girl” mom clique? Literally nothing sail alludes to this- OP is just peeved she wasn’t invited. Which in itself isn’t mean spirited

It's typical DCUM. People loooove to dog-pile on the OP and project their own issues. The first couple pages are all mean moms telling OP it's her fault and she made it awkward based on very little info. Says tons about them.

+10000

It’s because Op came out swinging against a group of women who dared to go anywhere without her. She’s not going to get the sisterhood rallying around her when she comes out like that.

Swinging seems intense. She wrote a potentially snarky text to a friend. It may have been reactive but not completely deranged like so many are implying. Honestly does no one have compassion or genuine friendships around here?

If a friend sent me a snarky text because I happened to have social plans that didn’t include her, I would not be clamoring to get together with her anytime soon. Who the heck wants to be guilted for having a social life that doesn’t revolve entirely around inviting that one person along to everything.

If I ran into a couple friends out in a big group I didn’t know I would smile and wave. If I happened to be in close proximity I may make pleasantries and ask how the wine is and if there’s anything they’d recommend ordering for my event. If OP had been friendly maybe she would have been introduced to the group and invited next time. She’ll never be invited now after her little tantrum. And would she really even want an invite given out of some sort of guilt trip?

If OP was my friend, I would have waved her over and asked if she had time to join us for a glass of wine.

That is good manners. Many on this board seemingly have none.

If Queen Bee gets mad and casts me out of the inner circle, then so be it. The rest of the wine mom minions can decide to hang out with and be ruled by a 15-year-old mean girl, in a grown adult's body.

Exactly. Even if it was not school related. That’s my friend. Hey, babe! So cool to see you. Come over?

Except that it sounds like they’re bus stop moms who see each other most days, and she was deliberately excluded.

I was sharing what I’d say if I saw someone I knew. Invited or not.

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Anonymous wrote:The mean girl pta vibe is heavy handed here. The defensive posture in favor of this group and antagonistic approach to op is wild.

+1, we actually don't get much info from OP here, certainly not enough to draw conclusions. The people who are assuming good intent by this group and hurling insults at OP are simply showing themselves up.

Seems the opposite to me. All we know is 15 women got together for lunch. Nothing nefarious about that. Why are they suddenly a “mean girl” mom clique? Literally nothing sail alludes to this- OP is just peeved she wasn’t invited. Which in itself isn’t mean spirited

It's typical DCUM. People loooove to dog-pile on the OP and project their own issues. The first couple pages are all mean moms telling OP it's her fault and she made it awkward based on very little info. Says tons about them.

+10000

It’s because Op came out swinging against a group of women who dared to go anywhere without her. She’s not going to get the sisterhood rallying around her when she comes out like that.

Swinging seems intense. She wrote a potentially snarky text to a friend. It may have been reactive but not completely deranged like so many are implying. Honestly does no one have compassion or genuine friendships around here?

If a friend sent me a snarky text because I happened to have social plans that didn’t include her, I would not be clamoring to get together with her anytime soon. Who the heck wants to be guilted for having a social life that doesn’t revolve entirely around inviting that one person along to everything.

If I ran into a couple friends out in a big group I didn’t know I would smile and wave. If I happened to be in close proximity I may make pleasantries and ask how the wine is and if there’s anything they’d recommend ordering for my event. If OP had been friendly maybe she would have been introduced to the group and invited next time. She’ll never be invited now after her little tantrum. And would she really even want an invite given out of some sort of guilt trip?

If OP was my friend, I would have waved her over and asked if she had time to join us for a glass of wine.

That is good manners. Many on this board seemingly have none.

If Queen Bee gets mad and casts me out of the inner circle, then so be it. The rest of the wine mom minions can decide to hang out with and be ruled by a 15-year-old mean girl, in a grown adult's body.

Exactly. Even if it was not school related. That’s my friend. Hey, babe! So cool to see you. Come over?

Except that it sounds like they’re bus stop moms who see each other most days, and she was deliberately excluded.

Only 2 are bus stop moms. The rest aren't.

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OP was sharing her experience and how it made her feel. She wasn’t asking for your analysis of the situation but looking to see if others have had similar experiences. Some of you are so self absorbed and didn’t even read, understand, or care to, what the poster was looking to discuss. So why engage? To show anonymously your viscous selves and then smile to women you don’t like tomorrow at school pick up?

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Anonymous wrote:OP was sharing her experience and how it made her feel. She wasn’t asking for your analysis of the situation but looking to see if others have had similar experiences. Some of you are so self absorbed and didn’t even read, understand, or care to, what the poster was looking to discuss. So why engage? To show anonymously your viscous selves and then smile to women you don’t like tomorrow at school pick up?

Get over it. OP never said her feelings were hurt, or she felt sad or left out. She expressed faux shock that a group could possibly be doing anything on a Friday without her and she's laughing about it. And know, we are not viscous. You might be, that's a weird way to describe people.

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Anonymous wrote:OP was sharing her experience and how it made her feel. She wasn’t asking for your analysis of the situation but looking to see if others have had similar experiences. Some of you are so self absorbed and didn’t even read, understand, or care to, what the poster was looking to discuss. So why engage? To show anonymously your viscous selves and then smile to women you don’t like tomorrow at school pick up?

She shared an innocuous story about a group of women having a social gathering, judged them, shamed them via text message, and then asked for others to share stories about women to collectively judge online.

The only mean girl in this story is OP.