There are huge value judgments in what you've said. I'm willing to give up walkability for peace and quiet. I prefer the 'burbs because I don't have strange people walking through my neighborhood. I disliked Manhattan because strangers were always walking around yelling at all hours. Same with London (less yelling). There are no village-like spaces when you live in a city. Just public spaces. Always the intrusive sounds of sirens and traffic. I like quiet. I like being able to hear walnuts hitting the ground as they fall during autumn. Yes, I recognize that that's a luxury. But it's a sensibility that may people share. |
Why do you care why others are having one child, no children, or three children? Says a lot more about you than them. Get over it and MYOB. |
PP's lack of reasoning is hilarious. You don't think that there are people out there who have more children because that's what parents want, rather than what's best for the child? Parents who project that their 2 year old "wants a sibling" and therefore have another kid--really, what idiot thinks that a 2 year old's views on raising a child should be taken into account? Not to mention the fact there are many families who have multiple children because having 3 or more kids is a status symbol in this expensive town, or else have multiple kids to inflate their husband's sense of manliness. There are parents who have multiple kids because they think that they (can't speak for the kids) are going to heaven by not using birth control or having an abortion. I won't elaborate upon the sacrifices women make both of themselves and to the public good when they have to give up careers to raise multiple kids. Or, on the flip side, what do you think of women who work and therefore have to hire full-time nannies to raise multiple kids--is that being selfish, if so, to whom? What about parents who raise only one child for environmental reasons--they produce far fewer carbon emissions than large families who live out in the burbs. Finally, your equating an Audi to private school education is also pretty outrageous. You ought to develop better reasoning skills before you spout off your ridiculous opinions. |
More accurately, don't have the misfortune of growing up in a neighborhood where crack dealing goes on. I'm sure you've seen the stories about academically serious kids who attracted the ire of thugs in their neighborhoods and got killed as a result. Got cites for those? What does that happen? Once a decade? For every single story you can find that fits that criteria, I'll give you a dozen about academically serious kids who were killed while driving around the 'burbs. If you're going to protect your kids, it's important that you understand what is and what is not a legitimate threat. Cites? No. Do a Google search. There were at least two such shootings in DC this year and another killing of a visiting honors student in Baltimore. I'm not aware of any kids being shot while going about their business in the DC-Baltimore suburbs this year. As for protecting your kids, I think that considering the impact of crime is a valid consideration, especially if you can't afford to live in an economically exclusive area in DC or can't afford to send your kids to a strong private school. The topic is relevant for this forum because a good number of people living in the 'burbs might not be able to afford private school for all their kids if they lived in DC. Many DC schools draw populations from areas that are not uniformly advantaged economically, so the degree to which crime and gangs may be prevelent is a valid concern. |
Snipe, snipe snipe! |
No what you said was "I think it's a shame that people limit themselves to one child so they can live in a small house or apartment in an over-priced area and afford private school..." The fact that you're trying to walk it back now leads me to the conclusion that you're a disingenuous piece of shit. Just keeping it real. |
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you misunderstood me--or I guess I wasn't describing the situation well enough: I'm not judging whether sprawl, ample parking, convenience, etc, etc... was "better" or "worse". Just pointing out that suburban folks prioritize different things--just as you say. The problem is, if you attempt to do "smart growth" or whatever you want to call it, while prioritizing the things that you've enumerated above, you end up with an ineffective muddle: it turns into a mess. So I totally agree with you: different strokes for different folks. You'll continue to vote for what you like, and the PP above who is hoping that the suburbs turn into individual smart growth centers in their own right is going to be sorely disappointed. We're too used to doing things in a shitty, sprawling, half-assed way...and we'll continue to do so until the whole wretched mess collapses under it's own weight. The suburbs cannot retool so long as it's possible to continue to make them worse. At some point the ride's going to stop, though. Probably sooner rather than later. |
It's the same idea. You just don't like the truth of it. Name calling? very impressive. If that's how you teach your child to deal with an idea that you don't like, then by all means, stop at one. |
I'm not sure why the whole thing has to collapse under its own weight. I can see some of the far out exurbs becoming too expensive to sustain due to the cost of fuel. But unless we tear down existing neighborhoods to build higher density housing, I think you're likely to see more resources be pored into expanding regional public transportation rather than a large movement of populations closer to DC. |
It's a Malthusian problem. Regional population's going to continue to grow; most of those folks are going to live in the suburbs. As the competition for housing close-in to transit centers continues, those who have to drive the most will be priced further out--which means they'll be driving more and clogging up the roads. Most studies show that "transit" doesn't actually do much to cut into the congestion problem. Also, the super-representation of rural interests in this country ensures that *sustained* spending on large transit projects can never happen. So "transit" will always be the ugly step-sister to new highway construction. Things will continue until they cannot continue any longer. |
Not sure that's what we've seen happening in more congested areas. Look at the NYC metro area. The wealthy live in Manhattan. The middle class live in Brooklyn, Queens and Staton Island and use public transportation. And the wealthy with kids tend to live in Connecticut, Long Island and suburban NJ where it's nicer, greener and there's more space. I think we're likely to see the same pattern emerge here. Arguably, you're seeing it already. Fairfax, Loudon and Howard already outpace inner Montgomery in terms of income. |
Exactly. But we should also add, don't have a relationship with a violent man. A couple of women in my neighborhood died at the hands of boyfriends. |
I think this post is all about YOU, YOU, YOU, OP. You like to pretend that it's the kids you really care about but in reality you just want everyone to answer to YOU, YOU, YOU. |
You have managed to add pet owning to the list of things you seem to misunderstand about others. Of course children are not pets. But pets aren't really what you seem to think they are either. Most people don't own pets to "magnify" their own ego and pets actually do intrude on the smooth management of your life quite a bit. Anyone who has ever been out on the street in the middle of the night with a dog who has an upset stomach or scrambled around to find a friend to watch a dog for the weekend when a last minute family thing comes up would know that. Most people have pets because they enjoy showing love and affection and getting love and affection in return. PP, I think you will find it unnecessary to be so dogmatic if you remember that people are complex, live complex lives, and have complex motivations for all of their choices. |