Why do some women think it's acceptable to get engaged without a ring?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think being able to afford a ring is a good indicator of whether you will be able to manage and afford other important milestones like a wedding, a house, a child, a retirement. The cost of each of these things ratchets up almost exponentially. If you can’t cross the first hurdle you both need to up your game and plan better until you can.

I think anyone not blowing thousands on a ring or wedding is an indicator of good judgement necessary to build generational wealth.

[Anonymous]

I know someone who bought his wife a grand piano instead of an engagement ring. I hear she plays piano very well. It was creative and you don’t have to worry about losing a grand piano!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think being able to afford a ring is a good indicator of whether you will be able to manage and afford other important milestones like a wedding, a house, a child, a retirement. The cost of each of these things ratchets up almost exponentially. If you can’t cross the first hurdle you both need to up your game and plan better until you can.

Since when a wedding is an important milestone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think being able to afford a ring is a good indicator of whether you will be able to manage and afford other important milestones like a wedding, a house, a child, a retirement. The cost of each of these things ratchets up almost exponentially. If you can’t cross the first hurdle you both need to up your game and plan better until you can.

Since when a wedding is an important milestone?

I know, right?! Having a child isn't a milestone either, especially when consent was absent.

[Anonymous]

I didn't get a ring because I had been engaged before and really there was nothing that I liked more than what I had had the first time.
So instead we designed our wedding bands which are gorgeous and match. They were super expensive and I would much rather have a lovely ring. I wear every day than some big gaudy thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think being able to afford a ring is a good indicator of whether you will be able to manage and afford other important milestones like a wedding, a house, a child, a retirement. The cost of each of these things ratchets up almost exponentially. If you can’t cross the first hurdle you both need to up your game and plan better until you can.

Since when a wedding is an important milestone?

I know, right?! Having a child isn't a milestone either, especially when consent was absent.

You mean like if there was a rape or an unplanned pregnancy in general?

[Anonymous]

I didn’t have one. My now husband said he had enough for a house down payment or a ring but not both. The decision was mine and I voted house. Years later I did get a beautiful ring so in the end I got both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister and another friend got "engaged" recently. None of them had rings and in the case of my sister, there was not even a proposal, just her and the guy agreeing on a date to get married later this year. I feel like it sets the bar very low for their partners and it's not something women should be ok with. My husband too popped the question without one and it felt incredibly informal, as if he wasn't serious about getting married. I told him that a ring was important to me and he popped the question again a week later with a ring.

A ring doesn't even need to be expensive, there are many cute rings for less than $500. It's the symbolism behind it that's important. It doesn't seem that my friend and sister are being taken seriously by their men, but they look like they're ok with it which is baffling. Women should stop pretending to be cool girls and set higher standards for their partners.

Why do some women think it’s acceptable to be all in people’s business?

Worry about your own life. Your values don’t need to be others’ values. Jeez. This is simple.

[Anonymous]

I think all women want a ring deep down. They just settle for no ring.

[Anonymous]

I didn't get a ring because my husband was in his first year as a professor and we spent the money on a honeymoon. We had 10kt gold band rings.
We have been married over 40 years. I have a lot of jewelry now from anniversary rings (5,6,10) and other anniversaries and holidays.
We have traveled all over the world.
Our house is paid for.
Our dollar net worth, built from scratch from our earnings invested, is in the millions.
I don't think I settled. Oh yes we had a city hall wedding.
I think putting a lot of importance on a ring or wedding indicates something but not worthiness or earning potential.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think all women want a ring deep down. They just settle for no ring.

I think you're projecting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think all women want a ring deep down. They just settle for no ring.

I think you're projecting.

I agree. People are different, have different tastes and different priorities. I really truly did not want one. I'd rather spend money on different things.

[Anonymous]

OMG - 24 pages on this question!?!?

Here's the answer: It's the year 2024 - you (most likely a troll -- but you got everyone to bite)
need to go back to Little House on the Prairie Nelly!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think being able to afford a ring is a good indicator of whether you will be able to manage and afford other important milestones like a wedding, a house, a child, a retirement. The cost of each of these things ratchets up almost exponentially. If you can’t cross the first hurdle you both need to up your game and plan better until you can.

Whaaat? A wedding is not appropriate to that list.

[Anonymous]

I hate jewelry and never wear it. For us, no engagement ring. I wore my wedding ring on my wedding day and it has been in my jewelry box ever since (27 years ago).