' Because not all cultures have engagement rings? |
Some people are in love with a lifestyle and by extension the person who provides it. |
I think being able to afford a ring is a good indicator of whether you will be able to manage and afford other important milestones like a wedding, a house, a child, a retirement. The cost of each of these things ratchets up almost exponentially. If you can’t cross the first hurdle you both need to up your game and plan better until you can. |
My dad was a 21 year old student with an entry level job at the time of his marriage and couldn't afford a ring for my mom but bought a ton load of jewelry during 50 years of their marriage. I don't think a ring is a measure of a man's worth or character. |
To be fair, so were my uncle but his career never took off so no jewelry ever. |
Buying jewelry isn't a measure of a man's character either. |
The only indicators of what you can afford are your income and your bank account savings. You don't need a ring to know that. There are people out there who think that rings and weddings aren't important milestones, but unnecessary spending to signalize status. I happen to agree with this. For all we know, OP's sister and her partner didn't think a ring was necessary. |
I think OP has too much time in her hands and knows of no creative ways of spending it. |
Engagement rings on women is outdated. It reeks of old-fashioned branding of chattel. |
I meant he turned out to be a great long term partner and provider. |
Most women don't measure a man's love in the cost of jewelry. This is not the 1950's. |
What if ring is being bought with $25K on top of another $450K debt by a big spender to impress your naive fantasies. |
I doubt any women with above average IQ used that measure in 1950's either. |
I got engaged without a ring, and then we went together, had a ring designed that I liked, and we picked out our wedding rings at the same time. DH was smart enough to know that it was better if it wasn't a surprise. |
But you got a ring. OP's sister is not planning on having a ring at all. |